Partner’s best friend & constant passive aggressive remarks

Very good advice. Why are you telling me? What is it you want me to take away from it? Are you saying I’m xyz? Make your dipshit OH think twice.

The problem is that your OH can’t say anything to him because he’s just repeating the bitchy comments OH’s made.
So your only option is to take it up with the friend and go full offensive. Don’t slag off his girlfriend though because then she’ll hate you too.

" mate, why don't you fuck off"
Is the sentence you need. Then tell your partner the same thing. Stop spending time with this man and ban him from your house.

Your OH is sharing far too much with this friend! He does not need to tell him anything about your health or your children's, with this attitude he has.
I would not bring what his partner does into it, she is not the one making the comments.
I would not invite this person. Neither would I want to see them.
Now, your OH has much to take account for if he belueves your are exaggerating a womb infection! Because the influence of this friend. Your OH needs to face that this friend may not be a good influence indeed....

Oh nice. Simple and to the point!! And useful for everything he says!! 😂

This!

Oh this!!

Something along these lines, OP. You need to shut him up!

Also, have a strong word, or several, with DH, although, he seems too passive, and/or worse, also believes the things prick of a ‘friend’ is saying, which is why he’s not sticking up for you. He isn’t sticking up from you against a bully. What is DH getting from his ‘best’ friend? Does he have any other friends? What are they like?

You absolutely don’t have to hang about when ‘best friend’ comes round. And you absolutely don’t have to make any effort with him!!

Know your worth. In your own house!!

I don’t think the friend is the main problem here. Your ‘D’P is obviously engaging in this conversation which will encourage the friend

I'm concerned that your OH repeats these comments because he agrees with them OP. Do you ask him that? I would be, every time.
I'd be fighting back when said to my face - even if it's just repeating a well rehearsed come back.
I'd be requesting that OH deal with the comments as they occur - put him on the spot.
I wouldn't be spending time with this friend - how often does he visit?
Your OH sounds weak and easily manipulated at best - manipulative at worst.
Edited for spelling

Show dh this thread.

Who the heck does he think he is? Wtf is wrong with your partner? Very weird.
Why does your partner need an agony aunt?
I would be furious with the pair of idiots.
He needs to dump his friend or lose his family.

"Thanks for your considered parenting opinion, random guy with kids with various different women."

"You know fuck all, mate. Shut the fuck up."

Also your other half needs to have your back and defend you to him. And realise that his mate is a toxic arsehole.

My rule is whenever anyone repeats something someone has said about me is asking them, why did they feel so comfortable telling you this.

Because if he was a good partner and speaking up for you then this guy wouldn't still be saying these things directly to him.

He’s jealous, got an inferiority complex or likes to gaslight women? Personally I’d not have him round to the house and would cut ties. Tell you’re boyfriend you’re not interested in spending time with someone who puts you down.

No offence meant to the many lovely kids at boarding school btw....

Why isn't OH standing up for you & kicking him into touch (not literally....or.....) - sounds more like an OH problem, rather than a random' friend' problem, who has no clue, just another 'know it all', obviously qualified with a degree & several years experience in womb infections......- (did he go to boys boarding school by any chance?) / why does this random feel he has any right at all to comment about you at all? And WHY does your OH allow it? (Does 'random friend' even know what a womb is??).

He let himself become homeless yet feels he can criticise you? (Not having a dig at people being homeless but I would expect it’s a very grounding, sobering thing to happen and if/when you pulled yourself out of it you’d appreciate peoples struggles)

In truth, from a male perspective, it’s highly possible that he fancies you and this gets him attention, even if it’s negative attention. By making the comments in a lighthearted way, he’s possibly trying (badly) to show you that he’s edgy and witty. In actual fact, whatever the reason, he’s a twat.

Tell him to fuck off, directly.

Your OH is the problem here. If he didn't want tension he wouldn't be telling you these things or allowing his friend to say it to you. I suspect he is actually enjoying using his friend to have digs at you.

Do it! If your partner isn’t being strong enough to stand up for you, stand up for yourself. If it causes problems, tough luck! Why should he be allowed to be an arsehole without expecting any response? 😡

Yeah was about to say the same thing....this is your DH using his mate as a mouthpiece

I just had a thought, OP. Do you know for a fact that the friend actually said these things? I ask this because there is sneaky form of emotional abuse where the abuser claims to be repeating nasty things somebody else said. It's a way to insult you while claiming to have clean hands. My ex MIL was a champ at this. She would tell me other relatives had said this or that about me, but when I asked them they said they had not. They told me MIL had been making up those kind of stories most of her life. I believed them. The woman was a nasty piece of work and had been caught in lies many times. So is there a possibility your partner is just pretending the friend said these things?
It strikes me as incredibly strange that he would believe some ignorant layperson about a medical condition you had. You were in the hospital, so obviously it wasn't normal. Would he really believe that the hospital would admit you for something that was normal? He's have to be beyond stupid to believe such a thing just because some friend said it, so that has my spidey senses tingling. You may be dealing with a highly manipulative person. If it is the friend doing it, a man who truly cares about you and respects you would not put up with these insults towards you, so your partner must be getting something out of it or he would have already asked him to stop. It just doesn't add up and it stinks to high heaven of something really ugly.

Your partner is a wet blanket and his friend is a twat. Next time I would give him a spoonful of his own medicine and then wink and say only joking.

I would give my OH a good talking to and never host the best friend ever again.
Your OH has to decide what is more important a happy home life or his relationship with his best friend- it's a straight choice.

Your OP needs to put his shitty friend in his place the next time he decides to give his unwanted opinion.