Would you believe this? Husband and hotel

Well, obviously he's lying. I mean, you know that.

As for the "2 person default" - no. Yes it will default to 2 people but when you get to the next stage you MUST enter the names of both people, so at that point he would have had to enter the name of the woman he's sleeping with or go back and change it to one occupant.

Just adding my theory - he booked it on that specific day because he thought you would be in hospital overnight after what had happened. He started his "affair" (either emotional or otherwise) three months ago, which is why the "stress" has escalated since then. This was his chance for consummation of that affair. His next chance will be when you're in hospital having your baby. Sorry OP.

If he was stressed would he have bothered to change the number of people for the room if it wasn't going to impact the price anyway?

I think counselling is the way to go for you as a couple and he needs to find ways to cope with his stress - does he have a professional mentor for example?

It's not even a case of missing it, there's no point changing it, unless you're adding breakfasts that aren't included in the price, or it's in another country with a city tax per guest.

I remember back in the day some places would charge a premium for single occupancy (to mitigate losing out on bar/food spend etc) but I haven't seen that in years.

At this time in your pregnancy the focus should be on your welfare & an exciting time, life doesn't often work like this though & these times can be overwhelming. Your DH has hinted at mental health & depression as well as feelings of being overwhelmed & given his actions I would consider asking if he's had any thoughts of harming himself to check how deep these feelings are running, if they are indeed the genuine reason for this

Thank goodness people are starting to believe what he’s said as I was reluctant to say this in case I was thought of as naive. Imo, in his stressed state, he tried to run away then thought better of it.
No OW. No sex worker. Just a stressed person.
I’ve had friends who have booked time out in a hotel when they couldn’t cope. That’s all it is - an inability to cope on that day.

I think he's telling the truth. It sounds like it's all really stressful and usually he's a good guy so I'd give him another chance and make sure you keep communicating openly. Tell him he shouldn't hide his feelings and if he needs space then you can just talk about it. Relationships are about team work and it sounds like usually you're a great team but it just slipped briefly in a moment of stress.

Honestly? I believe him. You've listed a lot of reasons why you're both clearly under a lot of stress at home and work, he thought he needed to run away, changed his mind and couldn't go through with it. Not a great look but he's still there and he's remorseful. Probably very ashamed of himself too I'd think.

I used to book a lot of hotel rooms.... Mostly you just paid for room whether it was just me or I was with my partner.

I wouldn't usually change it just for me as it made zero difference to cost.

When things become too much for us, our men are expected to step up, offer comfort and support, take more of the burden until we're better.

If a man is stressed out with work and the impending arrival of a child (likely the most significant change of status quo moment in his life so far), he must be having an affair and living a double life.

And we wonder why so many men feel like they can't share their issues, end up with terrible mental health and take their own lives, when for so many people this is the default response.

No man is going to stay loyal? What nonsense.

I can't remember ever staying in a room with one single bed. I travel constantly with work and my company books hundreds of rooms a month, the options are double or twin.

If you go on Booking dot com for example, the default options when booking a double room are for two guests. It's perfectly plausible that this is what he's done.

Maybe he is having an affair, or was planning to hire a sex worker, who knows? Certainly not you.

But no man is loyal? If every man you've ever known has been disloyal to you then I'd suggest you reevaluate the kind of men you're associating with. Or perhaps look at the common denominator: You.

Most rooms i use are listed for 2.

What a load of rubbish, some men do, some men don't, same with women.

Seems you have been hurt, but categorising all men as cheats is not helpful or even accurate.

Women need to wake up and realise no man is going to stay loyal

@cha04 married 45 years with plenty of friends married 40+ years, none disloyal.
maybe the lack of loyalty is a more recent "trend" but many men and women are able to be faithful long term.

@atatotallosss regardless of his excuse the fact he took that step and was planning on leaving you, your unborn baby and toddler shows poor judgement.
with the history of you two both being unhappy in the relationship, the excuse could be plausible if no family or friends live nearby.
if he has somewhere to go, i would ask him to leave and reflect on how he wants to move forward from this. please note he may stay he wants to say out of fear, and that's not great long term, both of you need to face some hard truths.

sounds like you two need counselling of some sort.

You're being too naive.

He's been 'stressed' because leading a double life will do that to you. The lies, the sexual frisson, the need to fit the OW and you and the toddler in and pay enough attention to everyone to keep them off the trail...

He planned a shag with his OW and she stood him up.

He's having an affair and that's why things have been rough.

He's not depressed or overcome by some sort of madness. He's a common or garden cheat.

OP, as someone with a small baby myself, my advice would be to park this for the next 6 months or so and then see where the land lies. You’ll need support for the birth and aftermath, and your DD will also need a lot of support with the transition. Keeping him around for the time being is likely the best option for the family. If it becomes clear it’s not going to work, you can always separate once you’re through the initial difficult phase of getting to grips with parenting two and any post-partum body issues. Wishing you all the best with the birth and the relationship.

Can you search on his bank? Or maybe he paid via his business account?

can you log into the hotel account? Never booked a hotel before, do they have accounts where you can log into and view past bookings?

Oh sorry I misunderstood OP. Maybe he felt the need to just run away? Could he be dangerously depressed?

Blimey some of these answers are unhinged! I think the key word is cancelled. Yep he may have fleeting intended to leave or perhaps meet someone but he changed his mind and didnt go thriugh with it. It could have just been a mad moment / maybe his explanation is the truth. I’d concentrate on your DD and new baby for now and see how things go.

Here you go, this is Hotels.com. You just change the drop down to one adult. But I could understand why someone might not notice it.

Whether he was planning a hook up or whatever is really neither here nor there. The fact is, you are 35 weeks pregnant with a toddler and he was planning to leave you.

Maybe it was only the fact you had the triage issue on the day that stopped him.

I think it's more likely a planned hook up than actually leaving. If you are going to leave, why would you book on a Saturday to leave specifically in the Tuesday? Makes no sense. And why only book one night?

The only other possible scenario I could think of is that he was in a dark place and planning to do something to himself. But again, why book 3 days in advance?

It was obviously a 'date' set and he either got cold feet or she pulled out. Probably he was paying for her.