Would you believe this? Husband and hotel

This guy is a shit head but you clearly have issues with men in general and are trying to push your weird hatred and don't care whether OP is the collateral damage in that.
totally agree with this. some people really can't wait to suggest actions which caused untold misery to others, especially children.

It’s hard to tell if he really had planned to leave or needed a break from or if he planned a hook up.
Can you ask to see all his credit card statements to make sure he’s not booked hotels before.

there isn’t really a good way of looking at this tbf. He’s either lying and cheating on you, or he actually did plan to leave you whilst you were 35 weeks pregnant. I couldn’t forgive either of those. If you choose to stay then you should absolutely prepare for him to leave as, best case, that was his plan only a week or so ago 😳

Hotel rooms are often booked for 2 people as the default setting, that doesnt mean he'd planned to be with someone else.

He didnt use the room, he seems to be trying to make things work.

You will soon have 2 young children to consider, you should try to get past this. Dont exclude him from the birth, he needs to connect with his child.

What? I've never had to do that, and I book hotels fairly regularly.

im not sure he is ‘innocent’ though. As secretly planning to leave your heavily pregnant wife and stay in a hotel while she cares for your toddler is still pretty awful in my book!

If I'm staying in a room I always boom for two because depending on the hotel it's the same price but you get more teabags/biscuits/towels.

you MUST enter the names of both people

This is simply not true.

I think he’s NOT having an affair and doesn’t really want to leave. You’re both incredibly stressed and this hotel booking just seems like a quick escape booked while completely overwhelmed and not managing emotionally (possibly fearful of having another child). I think you should both calm down and try to pull together amid the stress, he should get some medication to help him cope and you need to find a way of having maternity leave soon. Pull together to get through the next 6 months, then review things. Also use the time to think about how the practicalities of life can be simplified and less stressful. It is possible one or both of you might have post natal depression at this rate, you both need to workout how to create life balance starting with the basics, are you both getting enough sleep, exercise, alone time, together time,

I think whether or not there is another woman is irrelevant. You are focusing on the wrong thing. Your relationship was poor enough that he wanted to leave. Can the relationship be repaired? You need to look at how you can both / whether you can both be happier in the relationship. I would say it was more likely to be an affair if he had said he had booked the room for a friend. Booking it because he wanted to leave isn’t a casual excuse to cover up an affair.

Leave the lying prick.

Unfortunately you’ll now never trust him again, due to his actions. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Today, I found an email in my husband's email account

Soulds like he’s planning on leaving you. The sentence above explains why.

Quite frankly I think you’re over reacting based on what some randomers on mumsnet are saying.
If your DH is innocent I feel sorry for him.

And you were looking at his deleted folder, not least his email in general, why?

This, with bells on.

This was my thought too, is he engaging with his GP or any MH services OP?

I don’t think this is always true, unfortunately. I booked a hotel for my mother last week, at a well known chain hotel, and it shows one adult in a double room on the booking.

If he really is stressed and he booked the hotel for the same day on the spur of the moment it is entirely possible that he was planning to leave you.
Stressed people do odd things when they feel on the edge of a breakdown.
It might well have been the chance of a hook up but it also might not have been.
You are just about to give birth, with a toddler, and cannot currently get about properly.
What do you want to do?
Is there anyway to lessen the load in terms of the business?
Can you stay with anyone for a few days to clear your head?
This is not the time for rash decisions, when you have no real evidence, on the advice of a few people that don't know your husband or husband state of mind.
Do you genuinely believe him or not?

I feel for you this must be very upsetting.
It's sad he was willing to leave you but we do all have moments of madness expecially when the relationship has been struggling already be it selfish on his part. Rooms are always based on two adults but will never know what his true intentions were or are.
Only you know if you can get past this. Will be very hard.

If it was a room for overnight he’d have needed an excuse to stay out all night if he was meeting a woman. Does he sometimes do this? Or would it have been totally out of character thus raising lots of suspicions and questions?

Ask yourself if this is the norm? Are you happy with it? Is it the kind of life you envisage for yourself and your children? If not, you need to act fast, deliver ultimatums, get your bloke to face his responsibilities or out. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Live your best life, don't just accept what comes your way. Question it. Stand up for what you believe.

Normally I read these threads and think "He's clearly having an affair" but I'm really not getting that vibe here. I think your dh might be really struggling with his mental health. Work stress can be really tough and he could be hiding how bad things are. How bad do you think his mental health is? I would be a little worried that he'd booked a hotel room on that particularly stressful day because he was considering ending his life. That would explain the vagueness of him saying was going to leave / can't remember much. Obviously, I could be wrong and it could just be an affair but the way you describe him and his behaviour makes me feel like he cares about you and hasn't stopped loving you.

I would definitely start snooping around to see if there is anything else that indicates infidelity : go through his bank accounts for other bookings. I would go through his phone as well. If nothing- get som marriage counselling and some separate for him if he claims mh issues.