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Would you believe this? Husband and hotel

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atatotallosss · 09/08/2025 22:39

Will try to keep this short. Currently 35 weeks pregnant with a 20-month-old DD.

Today, I found an email in my husband's email account for a hotel room for two adults dated two weeks ago. Instantly, I felt sick, and I couldn’t hold it in to confront him. Initially, he said it was for a friend, then said he booked it as he had planned to leave me and changed his mind. He doesn't know why the room is listed for two adults and is clamining he just booked the room that showed available.

I have proof that the room was unused with a no-show charge on the invoice, but I honestly don’t know what to think or believe. He’s full of remorse, citing mental health and depression (new to me).

Things have been stressful with work (self-employed) and we have been going through a rocky patch for the past few months (arguments, me struggling in pregnancy and him saying he feels no love from me) however on the day he planned this, that morning I had woken up to blood on my underwear and had to call triage- he plans this?! He says it was a moment of madness and overwhelm, the day the booking was made for, we had zero arguments and it was a normal day except for him being more stressed than usual with work etc. And the scare with the baby. He came home from work and we had normal conversations etc.

He's not been out etc recently so if it was an affair it would have been at work, or online I’m assuming. He is self-employed so god knows what he’s been doing during the day.

He wants us to try and move past this, however, I don’t know if I’m just postponing the inevitable and he will leave one week postpartum etc.

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atatotallosss · 09/08/2025 22:49

The booking was made on the Tuesday, and on the Saturday prior we had spent the day washing all the babies clothes and getting the nursery ready. The Sunday was a family day out. Looking back at messages between us. Days after he booked it, he was telling me how much he loved me and holding my hand at hospital appointments with my consultant etc. My brain is fried and I don't know what to think or believe. If he was planning to leave, how can I trust that it wont happen again, especially after we had a lovely few days prepping for baby and with our DD.

I feel sick and can't believe I'm in this mess so close to giving birth.

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Morestepsplease · 09/08/2025 22:48

Even if he was planning to leave you (don’t believe it sorry) what was the hotel for? Why only one night if he was leaving you forever? He could have just slept on the settee if there was a problem at home. Stupid story.

KenIsAnAccessory · 09/08/2025 22:46

What an absolute prick. If only a moment of madness he surely will be pre than willing to allow free access to his phone to reassure that nothing more has gone on?

Find someone close and reliable to confide in. Take copies of all important documents (company accounts, bank statements, pensions, marriage cert, passports, investments etc). Make a plan to get out. Whether or not you need or choose to use it.

ConfusedSloth · 09/08/2025 22:45

I'm so sorry OP.

I think that, based on what you've said, that I believe he planned to leave you and booked it for that. If you have bleeding that day then maybe he thought that was the end of your pregnancy and sort of decided to leave now you're not pregnant?

He's a shit but you already know that.

I wouldn't assume a booking for two people is necessarily an affair - I have bookings that say two people for a two person room when it didn't actually ask how many guests there would be.

TrickorTreacle · 09/08/2025 22:45

I use hotels quite often (for work), and even as 1 guest, the room is always listed as for 2 people. I've never seen a single hotel room ever.

Obviously though, fingers crossed that he isn't cheating.

atatotallosss · 09/08/2025 22:40

Just want to add, I've name changed for obvious reasons.

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