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Not sure how to respond

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Fashionista22 · 09/08/2025 20:26

I’m not quite sure how to respond to this situation and am curious what others think..

Just had an argument before husband started driving DC didn’t really know and was happily looking out the window while I’m sitting in the back too. He asks DC a question but they didn’t respond as they’re distracted. He asked me if they’re ok several times, I said yeah fine, every time, I did wonder why he kept asking, not sure what else I can say? Then he pulled over over to check..! I was shocked, why didn’t he take my word and why would I be sitting saying nothing if not?! AIBU to feel like this is a huge lack of trust?

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beetr00 · 09/08/2025 20:42

Fashionista22 · 09/08/2025 20:38

I wasn’t being that dismissive and I was in the back too next to DC, if that was the case I wouldn’t have been saying she’s fine

Ok, but he was concerned enough to double check?

Do you always sit in the back with your daughter or....

SunsetCocktails · 09/08/2025 20:40

He’s concerned about his child, for whatever reason, and you see it as a huge lack of trust? Unless he does this kind of thing regularly I’d just shrug and move on. No big deal.

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Fashionista22 · 09/08/2025 20:39

Pollqueen · 09/08/2025 20:37

Sorry, totally irrelevant, but who was sitting in the front passenger seat?

No one, just the three of us

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Fashionista22 · 09/08/2025 20:38

I wasn’t being that dismissive and I was in the back too next to DC, if that was the case I wouldn’t have been saying she’s fine

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Pollqueen · 09/08/2025 20:37

Sorry, totally irrelevant, but who was sitting in the front passenger seat?

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Fashionista22 · 09/08/2025 20:34

Not really, he’s never done anything like this before and he’d have no reason to question, if anything I’m overprotective and over worry about DC.

Yeah I do think he thought I was lying as he kept asking. He doesn’t think he did anything wrong…

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vincettenoir · 09/08/2025 20:32

I don’t think it’s about you tbh. He seemed to be genuinely concerned for whatever reason. Maybe he thought you dc was choking or struggling to breathe and that’s why they couldn’t talk.

beetr00 · 09/08/2025 20:30

@Fashionista22 because he was concerned and you were being dismissive?

Does that resonate?

Changingplace · 09/08/2025 20:29

What a weird thing for him to do, did he think you were lying? What did he think was happening that he needed to pull over?

Does he usually overreact?