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If you are one of 3 adult siblings, would you be upset by this?

83 replies

FirstdatesFred · 09/08/2025 18:52

I’m all hormonal and genuinely can’t work out if I’m being unreasonable or not.

if you are one of 3 siblings would you be upset in this scenario?

you’re sibling 1 and live in the same village as sibling 2. Your parents live about 5 mins away too. Sibling 3 lives about half an hour away and is very busy so no one sees them that much.

today I found out that sibling 2 and 3 and their families went for a walk together then back for a cuppa to sibling 2’s house, your mum was also there. No one invited you and you/your kids were not included. My mum sort of told me by accident otherwise I wouldn’t have been any the wiser. Sibling 3 doesn’t come over this way often.

I would have loved to see them and haven’t seen sibling 3 for ages as they’re super busy.

I got upset on the phone with my mum she said ‘come over’ but I said I won’t as I wasn’t invited. I thought siblings might message but they haven’t. Am feeling sad and left out no one thought to include me and sibling 3 came to my village and didn’t want to say hi.

would other people be upset too or is it just me? I’ve definitely had a disproportionately emotional response due to hormones.

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Lemonadeat8 · 09/08/2025 19:06

I wouldn’t be fazed. My siblings do some things then other times I do.

PollyHutchen · 09/08/2025 19:01

Well, it might depend on ages of children, sizes of people's houses, other things people might have to do on the day in question.

I think not being willing to go over makes it worse somehow. A more easygoing approach would be to message sibling 3 and say, well let's make sure we get together next time you're about.

Life does get a bit complicated if there is this sense of all members of a family having to do everything together all the time.

Mumnewname · 09/08/2025 18:57

Yanbu, that's not OK really.

My dh is one of three and they'd never do this to each other.

Did your mum try to explain/justify it?

OhHellolittleone · 09/08/2025 18:57

I’d be upset but I am quite sensitive. What was the dynamic? Who invited who? Was the cuppa impromptu? Are they usually good at inviting and just forgot? Any reason to think you were busy? Would the house have been too full? Are you kids the same ages?

MountainBiker · 09/08/2025 18:55

I'd be upset too

EmpressaurusKitty · 09/08/2025 18:54

I’d be upset too.

Whichone2024 · 09/08/2025 18:54

I’d be upset

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 09/08/2025 18:53

Yes I'd be very upset by this. That is really shitty of all of them.