To be really struggling? 😣

I personally don’t give a flying monkey if DH leaves me for a younger model , that’s really not why I am looking to achieve certain improvements

but I would like to not care tbh but not that close at all sadly!

Im 43 and stopped giving a stuff about things like this ages ago..its incredibly liberating (not sure what changed, having loads of kids probably)
Also I've been married 22 years so no fear of my husband finding a younger model. If your man loves you he wont either. Be kind to yourself

And drinking lots of water. That really does help.

I also started using the oil cleansing method about 10 years ago after reading about it on here.

That also made a big difference. I found that after using ordinary cleansers, my skin still felt dry and I looked like I had fine lines even after using moisturiser. But I started using that and the 'lines' just disappeared because my skin wasn't being dried out.

I use coconut oil. Which is also cheap and lasts forever!

It's not a miracle cure for anti ageing, though. I still look my age just a reasonably good example of it!

I don't know, tbh, but collagen production starts to decrease anyway after about 35 so it's something our bodies stop/reduce production of as we age anyway.

The thing i try to keep in mind is that hair thinning/skin changes are really really common as we age. And there isn't really a magic cure, so most people are just living with it. However, i almost never look at older women and think their hair looks thin or their skin looks crap.

What i'm badly articulating is that these changes might feel and look seismic to you (as mine do to me!), but no-one else will even notice - they are too busy worrying about the spot on their forehead/their double chin or whatever.

Does that mean I'm immune to trying to slow aging down? Not at all! But I try to remember no-one is nearly as critical of my looks as I am.

Re collagen supplements - has there been any research whether they could in fact weaken/undermine your body’s own collagen production? That’s my slight concern about them - once you start taking collagen you have to be on it for life?

The gym works wonders for self esteem.

It boosts your mind and really makes you feel like you're a superpower.

Everything looks related becomes second priority because you'll FEEL amazing and you'll FEEL like you look great.

Well, that was my experience, anyway!

Wells skin food face cream.
Absolute collegen everyday
up your vit c
take Biotin or pregnancy vitamins which have that in it

Thanks!

I use two little devices ten mins a day that make facial exercises super easy to do (links below) plus face yoga below

jawline perfect and cheekbones are enhanced (never had this before )

lots on YouTube for face yoga but I just do these

my face started changing within a week x

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Exerciser-Double-Chin-Reducer-Jawfit/dp/B00HIDXBRG/ref=asc_df_B00HIDXBRG?mcid=7e625a91efce3eb69e2b6fa84d247e95&amp%3Bth=1&amp%3Bpsc=1&amp%3Bhvocijid=1882770495929730929-B00HIDXBRG-&amp%3Bhvexpln=74&amp%3Btag=googshopuk-21&amp%3BlinkCode=df0&amp%3Bhvadid=696285193871&amp%3Bhvnetw=g&amp%3Bhvrand=1882770495929730929&amp%3Bhvdev=m&amp%3Bhvlocphy=9222618&amp%3Bhvtargid=pla-2281435176618&amp%3Bgad_source=1&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21
and
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Facial-Flex-FACIAL-FLEX®-Facial-Toning-Exerciser/dp/B07Y5FJLZ8/ref=asc_df_B07Y5FJLZ8?mcid=a971dcef416938f2a6f1f165ad39e09e&amp%3Bhvocijid=10597425026641146920-B07Y5FJLZ8-&amp%3Bhvexpln=74&amp%3Btag=googshopuk-21&amp%3BlinkCode=df0&amp%3Bhvadid=696285193871&amp%3Bhvnetw=g&amp%3Bhvrand=10597425026641146920&amp%3Bhvdev=m&amp%3Bhvlocphy=9222618&amp%3Bhvtargid=pla-2281435176938&amp%3Bpsc=1&amp%3Bgad_source=1&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

I'd agree with low carb.

I'm curious about face yoga and fancied trying it. Do you have any links to anything you'd recommend? And how long did it take for you to notice an improvement.

I don't have too many lines but would like to get ahead of sagging! And I do have a bit of eye puffiness.

I’m also a huge fan of Nutrition Geeks. I use their collagen, magnesium, biotin, vitamin D and iron supplements. My skin has definitely improved in how it feels, hair is in brilliant condition and my nails are growing long and no longer breaking. I was hoping for miracles with my joints, but I fear they are just behind help!

I can’t help with “coming to terms” I’m afraid as I’m so vain !

for addressing certain concerns:

• marine and bovine collagen (Zooki for marine and Vital proteins for bovine have been amazing for me)
• face yoga
• lots of protein and as less carbs as possible (I do this in weekdays)
• face yoga

im 50ish I don’t look like it - for now at least xxx

Tbh I think you’re really lucky you’ve managed to get to 42 before feeling like this. What you’ve described is what I’m up against at 35 🤦‍♀️
You probably look a lot better than you think you do.

How old is your partner OP?

Is he worrying about his wrinkles?

Im saying this to help x Not to be sarcy. While you are doing x y z to feel better about yourself, bare in mind how much your partner is or is not hung up about looks. HIS included!

Oh yes, I use the magnesium too!

I started using the collagen first and didn't find it did much for my hair but the biotin has definitely reduced the hair shedding and my nails are stronger too.

Both. Collagen Glow Up and Biotin Growth+.

I'm lucky in that I don't really have lines but it's definitely improved my skin texture - it was starting to feel quite dry.

It's also helped with joint pain and I didn't take it for that or even think about it. But my knees and ankles were starting to be quite painful/weak especially walking up and down stairs first thing iin the morning when I couldnt do ut without leaning quite heavily on the bannister. I can now run up and down them again without any pain at all! Even first thing. So it's definitely doing something.

Obviously, I'm not endorsing them in any way or offering guarantees, just sharing what I've experienced personally.

OP would you prefer to come to terms with it (like your OP mentioned) or ways to tackle some of these issues?

Oh and I generally have the collagen in tea or coffee. I prefer it in coffee because there is a very slight, barely detectable, change in texture in tea (could even just be my imagination!) but I can't taste it in either.

I use Nutrition Geeks. They have good reviews generally, introductory offers and bundles. Quite a few of my friends use them too.