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To think Kate and William saw Harry and Meghan as a real threat to their image?

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BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:32

From the moment Harry and Meghan got together, the media attention was huge. Meghan was glamorous, charismatic, and had a strong public presence - something the royal family hadn’t seen before from an outsider. For a while, it felt like they were the most exciting and modern part of the monarchy.

Kate and William have always been the “stable” and “traditional” royals but suddenly, Harry and Meghan were drawing attention in a way that might have made them seem more relatable and interesting in comparison. The shift in public perception (and maybe even palace dynamics) must have been unsettling.

Obviously things have played out the way they have but AIBU to think that, at least at the time, William and Kate felt genuinely threatened by how much attention and influence Harry and Meghan were gaining?

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wordler · 09/08/2025 21:02

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 20:55

We like our monarchs to be dull. Surely you’ve noticed?

Do we? I don't remember dull before Diana died? It was all sucking toes, 3 in a marriage etc, very seedy & all over the tabloids.

Key phrase was monarchs

I'm pretty sure the Queen wasn't sucking toes and having threesomes!

We like our monarchs dutiful and pleasant.

We like our adjacent royal family members to provide the gossip and tabloid tales.

That's what caused Charles' popularity blip - he chose unwisely for his marriage and ended up in the realms of gossip, affairs, tell all interviews and biographies.

Now he's in his dutiful grandfather King phase he is popular and considered to be doing a good job.

William and Kate are keeping the drama quotiant low and the cheerful public appearances on point.

Andrew and Harry are providing the gossip fodder - all by themselves - no need for any leaking.

Serenster · 09/08/2025 21:00

Zonder · 09/08/2025 20:56

Are you looking for things that only people who are really interested would know?

I love a bit of history in the form of the Anglo-Afghan wars in the 19th century, personally!

Zonder · 09/08/2025 20:56

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 20:51

Zonder, you are coming in like Elphinstone’s Army …

Are you looking for things that only people who are really interested would know?

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 20:55

We like our monarchs to be dull. Surely you’ve noticed?

Do we? I don't remember dull before Diana died? It was all sucking toes, 3 in a marriage etc, very seedy & all over the tabloids.

Ukisgaslit · 09/08/2025 20:53

Re posts above regarding the constant holidays - we certainly were never told about these holidays . Yes W and K completely disappeared for long periods but we are led to believe they were enduring rainy walks in Norfolk
We have the current bitchfest between Willaim and Charles to thank for the new details
We had Kate skiing and William waving a bottle on their skiing holiday ( that must have been a Charles leak )
Then a leak about Charles mistreatment of staff ( yawn - we already knew that Charles and W are spoilt hysterical tyrants )

Then a leak about William and Kate on their borrowed ( but from whom?) multi million pound yacht ( that was Charles hitting back)
And now Camilla staggering around on a yacht ( Willaim kicking back)

These holidays aren’t new - they were just covered up before

Well worth the half a billion they cost us aren’t they ? ( royalists - Im being sarcastic )

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 20:53

wordler · 09/08/2025 20:53

I like a post that makes me Google!

my pleasure, ha ha ha !

wordler · 09/08/2025 20:53

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 20:51

Zonder, you are coming in like Elphinstone’s Army …

I like a post that makes me Google!

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 20:51

Zonder · 09/08/2025 20:46

Well documented perhaps for people who follow them closely. The rest of us meanwhile...

Zonder, you are coming in like Elphinstone’s Army …

Redheadedstepchild · 09/08/2025 20:49

Redheadedstepchild · 09/08/2025 19:52

@BluntPinkNewt I think different factions of the Royal Family have always behaved terribly towards each other.

Think of what happened just before WW1. As far as I can remember, practically all the members of the Royal families of Europe were quite closely related to both Queen Victoria and each other.

Kaiser Wilhelm and his cousin George V were out horseriding together in 1913, everybody was sending Christmas cards to each other, even the Russian lot were included.

One year later they were all fighting each other.

Imagine if Mumsnet had existed during those times.

AlexandraUnderHouseArrest

Name change for this as could be outing: My DH has run into considerable difficulties at work and is very unpopular. We live overseas. I can't say where but think, "Caviar."

I admit I am somewhat to blame for this trouble because I have been trying alternative healthcare remedies for youngest DS who has haemophilia which DH and practically everyone else around me thinks is harmful nonsense.

I don't want to dripfeed so I might as well say now that I have developed a deep spiritual connection to my son's healer, let's call him, "Grigori"

We are living very rurally at the moment which is a big change for both me and DH although my four older DDs don't seem to mind it as much. I miss Gregori but my main focus must be to keep my marriage together and wrangle safe passage for us all to the Americas from either Cousin W in Germany or Cousin G in England.

DH and I write constantly to our family in Germany and the UK to help us but they are keeping us at warship's length.

Several very confused posts later: OP replies:

@ Lucy Honeychurch My cousin is also his cousin. My uncle is also his cousin. His aunt is also my uncle's sister's cousin. My mother was also his father's aunt. It's not difficult.

@ Charlotte Bartlett Thanks for replying and it's a romantic suggestion but it's too late now. He's got an ice pick in his head.

@ ChristobelPankhurstsPurpleSash You think you're so funny, don't you? No this is not a troll post. MY GRANDMOTHER ACTUALLY WAS QUEEN VICTORIA.

I know that I've kind of given tragedy a bit of the burlesque treatment in my previous post but here's a wikipedia of the, "Willy and Nicky" correspondence. Wilhelm II and Nicholas II of Russia.)

It would be wonderful to read the full transcripts. I'm sure that they are out there somewhere.

Willy–Nicky correspondence - Wikipedia share.google/2XsTI7n9KsBLlHkVx

HonoriaBulstrode · 09/08/2025 20:48

Who knew until recently that Charles has a favourite holiday home on Romania that he goes to loads. That's never reported on.

It's not reported on in that his privacy is respected when he's there, but it's been known for a long while that he has a holiday home there. Honey from there is sold in the Highgrove shop and you can rent the property when he isn't there.

Serenster · 09/08/2025 20:47

Ukisgaslit · 09/08/2025 20:44

@Serenster
No need to take Harry’s word for it

The journalists themselves have confirmed that they have stories fed to them ( and no , not the laughable ‘court circular )

Where?

If you are referring to the to-and-fro between the media and communications team (press releases issued by the latter, questions and enquiries from the former), that is 100% normal and replicated in offices government departments across the world all day every day.

Zonder · 09/08/2025 20:46

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 20:42

Transyvania, had it for years, well documented, on his walking holiday

Well documented perhaps for people who follow them closely. The rest of us meanwhile...

Ukisgaslit · 09/08/2025 20:44

@Serenster
No need to take Harry’s word for it

The journalists themselves have confirmed that they have stories fed to them ( and no , not the laughable ‘court circular )

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 20:42

Zonder · 09/08/2025 19:44

This. Who knew until recently that Charles has a favourite holiday home on Romania that he goes to loads. That's never reported on.

Transyvania, had it for years, well documented, on his walking holiday

jumpingthehighjump · 09/08/2025 20:41

They're 'boring' in the same way the Queen was 'boring', presenting a carefully maintained front of dignified duty with enough warmth that people will feel affection for them - not at all easy to carry off.

I don't think they've quite 'got it' like QE2 has or had. She benefited from longevity, and excuse the phrase,, but kate and william should have hit the ground running (despite having young children). I think they just coast and hope for the best. To me, and just my opinion, but that is just not working.

dreadful punctuation!

Serenster · 09/08/2025 20:16

I think Harry has confirmed that stories against them were fed to the press by the palace to sacrifice Megan and protect Kate.

Harry has said this, but conveniently never suggested which actual stories he’s talking about.

Remember this is the same Harry who maintained in an email that he and Meghan had to be able to say they had nothing to do with Finding Freedom at the same time as they were arranging for Meghan’s notes to be delivered to the author; and who was emailing People magazine directly to give them his point of view. And who was criticised by a judge for filing lawsuits against the press when they reported the truth rather than Harry’s spin. His recent stories about the Sentabale fall-out also give a good indication of the press games he plays.

The boot looks more like it’s on the other foot.

zerofeeling · 09/08/2025 20:16

Chiseltip · 09/08/2025 19:29

William and Kate are about as boring and uninspiring as it's possible for a couple to get. It's beyond embarrassing that they are the future of the monarchy. So H&M probably were viewed as a threat.

They're 'boring' in the same way the Queen was 'boring', presenting a carefully maintained front of dignified duty with enough warmth that people will feel affection for them - not at all easy to carry off.

As to the OP question I'd be surprised if there wasn't a twinge of jealousy early on but that would quickly have evaporated when they realised what a pita Meghan was going to be.

wordler · 09/08/2025 20:13

QuirkyOlive · 09/08/2025 20:00

Yes! I think this too. It was so clear, one minute all the articles were about how Kate should be more modern, dress more like Megan, how educated and glamourous Megan was. Then all of a sudden it turned and the stories became about Megan’s extravagance, flying to America on her friend’s private jet, wearing expensive clothes, eating avocados ffs - all things Kate was doing too (I mean when have the royals ever not been extravagant lol!).

Definitely made sense that Kate and William’s PR machines was working against Harry and Megan. I think Harry has confirmed that stories against them were fed to the press by the palace to sacrifice Megan and protect Kate. The future King and Queen couldn’t risk being considered second best by the public, they are supposed to be the saviours of the monarchy. If the public start thinking they’re not so special after all, then what?

Again - this is how the British tabloids work for royals and most celebrities too - it’s how a story cycle gets the most sales/hits.

Build them up, knock them down, build them up, knock them down on repeat.

So yes Meghan’s wave of positive stories was always going to be followed by a wave of negative ones - and Kate vice versa.

The tabs are a bit stuck at the moment with Kate because they were burned by the ‘where’s Kate’ narrative turning into brave Mum of three has cancer.

So she’s quite bullet proof right now. Give it a few years though.

If Meghan had stayed in the role she’d have had waves of popularity again across the years followed by dips. Not some Royal PR conspiracy just the business of news papers making their money with drama and gossip.

Rasell · 09/08/2025 20:10

Thats an unexpected post at this point in time! I think William and Kate are it for the long game - they're not really in the same league. They probably don't put the same amount of importance on the tabloids that Megan does and probably didn't have much change in the amount of love and fandom they received during that time.

Serenster · 09/08/2025 20:09

Zonder · 09/08/2025 19:55

I don't read the Mail. It wasn't widely reported on.

It’s also mentioned in articles in the Guardian and the Independent in the same time frame…

jumpingthehighjump · 09/08/2025 20:04

Zonder · 09/08/2025 19:44

This. Who knew until recently that Charles has a favourite holiday home on Romania that he goes to loads. That's never reported on.

Yes, and Camilla and her India retreat where she regularly goes

QuirkyOlive · 09/08/2025 20:00

BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:32

From the moment Harry and Meghan got together, the media attention was huge. Meghan was glamorous, charismatic, and had a strong public presence - something the royal family hadn’t seen before from an outsider. For a while, it felt like they were the most exciting and modern part of the monarchy.

Kate and William have always been the “stable” and “traditional” royals but suddenly, Harry and Meghan were drawing attention in a way that might have made them seem more relatable and interesting in comparison. The shift in public perception (and maybe even palace dynamics) must have been unsettling.

Obviously things have played out the way they have but AIBU to think that, at least at the time, William and Kate felt genuinely threatened by how much attention and influence Harry and Meghan were gaining?

Yes! I think this too. It was so clear, one minute all the articles were about how Kate should be more modern, dress more like Megan, how educated and glamourous Megan was. Then all of a sudden it turned and the stories became about Megan’s extravagance, flying to America on her friend’s private jet, wearing expensive clothes, eating avocados ffs - all things Kate was doing too (I mean when have the royals ever not been extravagant lol!).

Definitely made sense that Kate and William’s PR machines was working against Harry and Megan. I think Harry has confirmed that stories against them were fed to the press by the palace to sacrifice Megan and protect Kate. The future King and Queen couldn’t risk being considered second best by the public, they are supposed to be the saviours of the monarchy. If the public start thinking they’re not so special after all, then what?

DiggingHoles · 09/08/2025 19:56

CoffeeCantata · 09/08/2025 18:31

W &c wouldn’t see them as a threat. I think Meghan and Harry have worked hard to promulgate the MYTH that they saw them as a threat. In their dreams.

The RF is not a meritocracy, it’s a hierarchy and they were always going to be walking behind W&C and boy, did that sting. They tried all kinds of tricks to subvert the status quo and when that didn’t work, they flounced.

Honestly, they were never any kind of threat.

They are also a family and they have done each other great harm over the past century.

Zonder · 09/08/2025 19:55

Serenster · 09/08/2025 19:50

Just because you haven’t read or remembered the story doesn’t mean it hasn’t been reported on. The Press have been mentioning Charles’ house in Romania since he bought it in 2006. Here's an article from 2009 for example.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/property/article-1213395/How-Prince-pap-ended-neighbours--Transylvania.html

I don't read the Mail. It wasn't widely reported on.

jbm16 · 09/08/2025 19:53

Harry and Meghan are narcissists, they might have had public opinion for 15 minutes, however as he moans about were always the spare...

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