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To think Kate and William saw Harry and Meghan as a real threat to their image?

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BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:32

From the moment Harry and Meghan got together, the media attention was huge. Meghan was glamorous, charismatic, and had a strong public presence - something the royal family hadn’t seen before from an outsider. For a while, it felt like they were the most exciting and modern part of the monarchy.

Kate and William have always been the “stable” and “traditional” royals but suddenly, Harry and Meghan were drawing attention in a way that might have made them seem more relatable and interesting in comparison. The shift in public perception (and maybe even palace dynamics) must have been unsettling.

Obviously things have played out the way they have but AIBU to think that, at least at the time, William and Kate felt genuinely threatened by how much attention and influence Harry and Meghan were gaining?

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Ukisgaslit · 10/08/2025 09:59

Skiing is strenuous
Even endless holidays take energy

A phone call to a charity would take less effort

But no…

BIossomtoes · 10/08/2025 09:57

Kate’s had cancer too and has only just gone into remission.

jumpingthehighjump · 10/08/2025 09:40

I just find it bizarre that William doesn't take on more, given his father's age and diagnosis of ongoing cancer treatment.
Why doesn't he?
Why leave the investitures to his 75yo Aunt when he lives round the corner and she lives 100 miles away
I just don't get it.

However, I do not want to hear 'but the children'... how long will they spin out this excuse? They have about 16 weeks off a year during the long school holidays, When it's not school hols, why doesn't William do more to support his father. And support the elderly members of the family. Both william and kate really do themselves no favours in my opinion.
My only take on it is... there is trouble afoot between father and son...

Cadenza12 · 10/08/2025 09:31

It felt like after a while M&H thought that they should take centre stage because of their popularity. Obviously that's not how it works.

Ukisgaslit · 10/08/2025 09:31

It doesn’t need to be a referendum. Royalists often squeal at the very thought of the cost of a referendum ( while turning a blind eye to the half a billion a year currently draining away to the Windsors )

Im talking about a bit of ink added to a ballot paper to get a clearer idea of where we stand

It would even favour the right wing older royalist types as they are more likely to vote .

OrangeAxolotyl · 10/08/2025 09:28

So, @Ukisgaslit , you want a referendum on the monarchy?
Perhaps start lobbying for that with your MP.

Ukisgaslit · 10/08/2025 09:26

wordler · 09/08/2025 21:14

Well, if you don't want a monarch at all then I imagine nothing about the current heir would appeal.

You can keep trying to show William in a negative light but he must be doing something right because he consistently polls as the most popular royal in the UK with a very high approval rating.

In America, he polled as the most popular public figure above all their own public figures, universally liked by both Republicans and Democrats.

In a Uk.gov poll in 2021 asking who would you choose as an elected head of state instead of a monarch William was the top choice ahead of David Attenburgh and even his own grandmother who was monarch at the time.

So it's possible he may not be dutiful, pleasant, intelligent and potentially a good leader but he's doing a bang up impression of it.

Hilarious

Is this the William who couldn’t even be arsed to memorise a line of oath at this father’s pantomime ( sorry coronation!) and had to read it off a card? So dutiful

Is this the William who was the sole person remaining seated at a state banquet while everyone else was giving Charles a standing ovation? So dutiful

Is this the William who his aged Aunt Anne has most unusually for her, publicly criticised for his bone idleness ? So dutiful

William is unpleasant ( and journalists tell us regularly that he rages ) and his few attempts at baring his teeth ( the ‘smile’ does not reach his eyes) while in the vicinity of the public, fall flat .

Your polls are meaningless .

Give voters a chance to express a simple yes/ no re continuing to hand over half a billion a year from the hard pressed taxpayer .
That’s the only poll I’m interested in . If the royals were truly popular there would be no issue with such a question. It was done over 100 years ago in Norway .

Serenster · 10/08/2025 09:14

So if you don’t follow the Royal family Zonder, and don’t read stories about them in the press, how on earth can you complain that Charles’ Romanian properties have never been reported on? Clearly, you would have no idea whether they have been or not.

Zonder · 10/08/2025 08:10

I don't follow RF on MN so I wouldn't have known that discussion. I only heard of it on some programme a few months ago where they visited the house. I'm only on this thread because I followed a link recently to Meghan's merch site which gave me a glimpse into why she's unpopular in the UK.

BlueandWhitePorcelain · 10/08/2025 07:48

Zonder · 09/08/2025 19:44

This. Who knew until recently that Charles has a favourite holiday home on Romania that he goes to loads. That's never reported on.

It was on the news several years ago. It’s also come up in a discussion on the RF, on MN sometime ago.

I think W & K have been treated better by the press, than Diana was, because William makes it clear where the boundaries are; but imo Diana was hounded by the paparazzi? She might still be here, if they hadn’t been chased that night in Paris?

lifeonmars100 · 10/08/2025 00:19

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 21:12

Princess Margaret smoking through State banquets, cavorting with Roddy, married to bisexual Snowdon, QM on the gin and huge debts, Alexandra’s husband Ogilvy and the Lonrho affair, the obnoxious Andrew and his antics, Philip and his crush on Merle Oberon, ultra glam Marie Christine and her nazi father and supposed flings, Anne’s husband fathering an extra marital child, Anne’s relationship with APB while Charles was with Camilla, all change, on and on, paternities questioned, more gin delivered, they are just like us but richer

Like an aristocratic version of the Jeremy Kyle show, the lie detector would combust with that lot

OrangeAxolotyl · 09/08/2025 22:35

wordler · 09/08/2025 21:02

Key phrase was monarchs

I'm pretty sure the Queen wasn't sucking toes and having threesomes!

We like our monarchs dutiful and pleasant.

We like our adjacent royal family members to provide the gossip and tabloid tales.

That's what caused Charles' popularity blip - he chose unwisely for his marriage and ended up in the realms of gossip, affairs, tell all interviews and biographies.

Now he's in his dutiful grandfather King phase he is popular and considered to be doing a good job.

William and Kate are keeping the drama quotiant low and the cheerful public appearances on point.

Andrew and Harry are providing the gossip fodder - all by themselves - no need for any leaking.

This, exactly 💯

Perfectlystill · 09/08/2025 21:56

lol

jumpingthehighjump · 09/08/2025 21:43

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 21:42

I think they just coast and hope for the best. To me, and just my opinion, but that is just not working.

@jumpingthehighjump there is definitely some oomph missing

Oomph is severely lacking yes!

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 21:42

I think they just coast and hope for the best. To me, and just my opinion, but that is just not working.

@jumpingthehighjump there is definitely some oomph missing

Countessy · 09/08/2025 21:39

Well if they did, which I doubt, W and K have won haven’t they?

And whilst I think she’s treated very unfairly by the media, Meghan is about as charismatic as a wet dishcloth.

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 21:38

Key phrase was monarchs

I think how your dc behave does reflect on you so we will have to agree to disagree @wordler

Zonder · 09/08/2025 21:36

Serenster · 09/08/2025 21:00

I love a bit of history in the form of the Anglo-Afghan wars in the 19th century, personally!

You've got to admit it's pretty niche though. Possibly a fair bit more niche than following RF updates!

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 21:31

@mauvaiseherbe my family are dull compared! It's like posh Jeremy Kyle 😆

Vivienne1000 · 09/08/2025 21:15

PollyBell · 09/08/2025 12:19

I presume Kate and William spend all theor time hugging photos of Meghan and Harry wailing and crying 'why did you leave me this way' wearing dressing gowns with egg yolk stains and fags hanging out of their mouth begging for forgiveness and are devastated they have a life

Ha Ha! Can you imagine that one day Catherine has far too much to drink and then says exactly what she thinks. Now that would be interesting…

wordler · 09/08/2025 21:14

Ukisgaslit · 09/08/2025 21:06

Speak for yourself - many of us do not ‘like’ monarchs full stop

( And you are merely repeating the PR - there is nothing dutiful about Willaim and even the royal journalists tell us he is frequently in a furious rage so pleasant ? Not so much )

Well, if you don't want a monarch at all then I imagine nothing about the current heir would appeal.

You can keep trying to show William in a negative light but he must be doing something right because he consistently polls as the most popular royal in the UK with a very high approval rating.

In America, he polled as the most popular public figure above all their own public figures, universally liked by both Republicans and Democrats.

In a Uk.gov poll in 2021 asking who would you choose as an elected head of state instead of a monarch William was the top choice ahead of David Attenburgh and even his own grandmother who was monarch at the time.

So it's possible he may not be dutiful, pleasant, intelligent and potentially a good leader but he's doing a bang up impression of it.

WildUnknown · 09/08/2025 21:13

What an excellent post @Redheadedstepchildhighly entertaining!

mauvaiseherbe · 09/08/2025 21:12

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 20:55

We like our monarchs to be dull. Surely you’ve noticed?

Do we? I don't remember dull before Diana died? It was all sucking toes, 3 in a marriage etc, very seedy & all over the tabloids.

Princess Margaret smoking through State banquets, cavorting with Roddy, married to bisexual Snowdon, QM on the gin and huge debts, Alexandra’s husband Ogilvy and the Lonrho affair, the obnoxious Andrew and his antics, Philip and his crush on Merle Oberon, ultra glam Marie Christine and her nazi father and supposed flings, Anne’s husband fathering an extra marital child, Anne’s relationship with APB while Charles was with Camilla, all change, on and on, paternities questioned, more gin delivered, they are just like us but richer

Redheadedstepchild · 09/08/2025 21:09

Redheadedstepchild · 09/08/2025 20:49

I know that I've kind of given tragedy a bit of the burlesque treatment in my previous post but here's a wikipedia of the, "Willy and Nicky" correspondence. Wilhelm II and Nicholas II of Russia.)

It would be wonderful to read the full transcripts. I'm sure that they are out there somewhere.

Willy–Nicky correspondence - Wikipedia share.google/2XsTI7n9KsBLlHkVx

https://share.google/Lh0bpC8zUbWCQJSaM

Found the telegrams. Probably not what we should be thinking about but it struck me how much they resembled modern emails. Very little formality.

World War I, The "Willy-Nicky" Telegrams

https://net.lib.byu.edu/estu/wwi/1914/willynilly.html.bak

Ukisgaslit · 09/08/2025 21:06

Speak for yourself - many of us do not ‘like’ monarchs full stop

( And you are merely repeating the PR - there is nothing dutiful about Willaim and even the royal journalists tell us he is frequently in a furious rage so pleasant ? Not so much )