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To think Kate and William saw Harry and Meghan as a real threat to their image?

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BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:32

From the moment Harry and Meghan got together, the media attention was huge. Meghan was glamorous, charismatic, and had a strong public presence - something the royal family hadn’t seen before from an outsider. For a while, it felt like they were the most exciting and modern part of the monarchy.

Kate and William have always been the “stable” and “traditional” royals but suddenly, Harry and Meghan were drawing attention in a way that might have made them seem more relatable and interesting in comparison. The shift in public perception (and maybe even palace dynamics) must have been unsettling.

Obviously things have played out the way they have but AIBU to think that, at least at the time, William and Kate felt genuinely threatened by how much attention and influence Harry and Meghan were gaining?

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Vaxtable · 09/08/2025 12:02

Hi Meghan

Let me spell it out for you, Williams and Catherine are the future King and Queen of this country. You will always play second fiddle to them and I firmly believe the only one threatened was you as you couldn’t get your own way

Catherine, as well as Sophie all tried to help you mitigate into and old family, set in their ways, and actually Harry should have supported you better and explained how the image of the RF works in this country, changes will be made but slowly

Because you didn’t get your own way, stamping your feet, you threw your toys out of your pram and left, good we don’t need Royals you and your husband

you can learn a lot from the current, smaller Royal Family

ginasevern · 09/08/2025 12:01

KimberleyClark · 09/08/2025 11:51

Did Meghan really have a strong public presence before she got with Harry? I had honestly never heard of her before that point nor of that series she was in. It's not like she was a big Hollywood name.

I agree to an extent. I'd never heard of her and I don't suppose anyone had unless they'd watched "Suits". But, had she stayed in the RF, her public presence would have grown by default. She was everything the RF needed. She's attractive, black, got some charity work credentials behind her and she's a commoner. And at that time everyone loved the man she married - Harry. They would've appealed to young people (who generally don't give a toss about the Royals) way more tham K &W ever could, or ever will.

Westfacing · 09/08/2025 11:57

There was so much goodwill towards Harry and Meghan in the early days - they could have carved out a meaningful, and glamorous role for themselves but neither was up to the job, which is a pity.

They had it on a plate and turned their backs. They seem happy as a couple so maybe it was the best for them.

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 11:56

Kate got a lot of unfair shit in the beginning & then it was transferred to Meghan. It's embarrassing tbh.

LouisaJG · 09/08/2025 11:54

Who knows, but YANBU to think it’s a possibility. Kate had been the unquestioned darling of the media for years, so pretty, look at her in her lovely clothes etc. I think it’s just human nature that she might have found it a bit difficult to suddenly be sharing that spotlight, especially with someone that she apparently didn’t particularly get on with.

Snorlaxo · 09/08/2025 11:54

I think Kate would have married William regardless of his royal status and had an easy, happy life like her sister Pippa and her billionaire husband. I suspect that she was relieved that she got a break from being in the media and that she would happily give up her for fame tomorrow

It also depends what you mean by glamorous? They met Beyoncé but W&C met with Tom Cruise on more than one occasion and he seems to really like living in the UK which is good for the UK film industry.

If William felt any sibling rivalry it could have been during Harry’s national second favourite royal days but that’s before Meghan.

PollyBell · 09/08/2025 11:53

BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:44

From her first public appearances - Invictus Games, the engagement interview, and her early royal engagements, she brought a different energy and style that got a lot of media attention. Whether people liked her or not, she clearly made an impact.

I suppose an impact is one way of calling it

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 11:53

I’d imagine they are more “embarrassed by” than “threatened by” what with all the dirty laundry that H&M have aired….

Nah, tampon gate has primed them 😆

ShanghaiDiva · 09/08/2025 11:53

KimberleyClark · 09/08/2025 11:51

Did Meghan really have a strong public presence before she got with Harry? I had honestly never heard of her before that point nor of that series she was in. It's not like she was a big Hollywood name.

Agree. Never heard of her before she met Harry.

WildUnknown · 09/08/2025 11:52

I’d imagine they are more “embarrassed by” than “threatened by” what with all the dirty laundry that H&M have aired….

ShanghaiDiva · 09/08/2025 11:52

BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:50

Of course Diana and Armstrong-Jones brought glamour in their eras but that was decades ago. Meghan’s appeal was a different kind, rooted in a modern, global profile. That contrast to Kate’s more traditional image is exactly why it may have felt disruptive.

Diana certainly had a modern, global profile.

TonTonMacoute · 09/08/2025 11:51

If anything it was Meghan who thought she was going to outshine W and K, and she did liven things up when she first came on the scene.

When she realised she wasn't going to, she flounced off with H trailing at her heels.

She could have achieved a lot as Royal but nothing as photogenic and SM friendly as making jam with her 'friends'.

KimberleyClark · 09/08/2025 11:51

ginasevern · 09/08/2025 11:48

"glamorous, charismatic, and had a strong public presence - something the royal family hadn’t seen before from an outsider."

Oh yes, they have seen it before. You're basically describing Diana. She had the whole package and wanted to modernise things too. Charles was utterly consumed with jealousy about the attention she received.

Did Meghan really have a strong public presence before she got with Harry? I had honestly never heard of her before that point nor of that series she was in. It's not like she was a big Hollywood name.

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 11:50

This is the wrong forum for it though OP, people are irrational when it comes to H&M.

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 11:50

I’m sure in 20 years Charlotte will also apparently be so jealous of a new sister in law. It’s so tediously predictable we could write the headlines now.

True but it's depressing how the public lap it up.

BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:50

SisterTeatime · 09/08/2025 11:43

Meghan has all the charisma of a potato. As for the Royal Family not having seen charisma and glamour before from an outsider before, have you ever heard of Lady Diana Spencer? Anthony Armstrong-Jones?

Of course Diana and Armstrong-Jones brought glamour in their eras but that was decades ago. Meghan’s appeal was a different kind, rooted in a modern, global profile. That contrast to Kate’s more traditional image is exactly why it may have felt disruptive.

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ShanghaiDiva · 09/08/2025 11:49

Even if the public saw H and M as exciting and glamorous and W and K as a bit staid and boring, it’s irrelevant as W and K get the top jobs and staid, traditional and perhaps a bit dull are the qualities required for the role.

toiletpiper · 09/08/2025 11:49

I think they were threatened or at least their aides were. Harry was very popular & Meghan was ready to speak publicly etc due to her job whereas Kate needed years of training which would be the norm.

I actually think they would have been a great foursome, something for everyone. For some reason the aides, press, etc pit Royals against each other.

ginasevern · 09/08/2025 11:48

"glamorous, charismatic, and had a strong public presence - something the royal family hadn’t seen before from an outsider."

Oh yes, they have seen it before. You're basically describing Diana. She had the whole package and wanted to modernise things too. Charles was utterly consumed with jealousy about the attention she received.

BluntPinkNewt · 09/08/2025 11:48

BlueandWhitePorcelain · 09/08/2025 11:42

I would have thought they were grateful, someone else was attracting the attention away from them for a while? It can’t be pleasant living in a fish bowl of the world’s press?

As a pp has said, W and K always knew, where they were in the pecking order and financial resources in the RF, once William took over the Duchy of Cornwall, never mind if he becomes King!

Possibly but the royals have always been aware that public favour is a kind of currency. Even if they knew their rank was secure, losing the spotlight to a newer, more dynamic couple might still have felt like a threat to their long-term image and influence.

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Daysgo · 09/08/2025 11:48

Saltandpepperlife · 09/08/2025 11:38

I highly doubt the future King and Queen feel threatened by the wannabes.

I think the future king may well feel threatened by them but not because of his or their popularity but more because of the possibility of them damaging the reputation of the, (especially his and his son's) monarchy during the next forty years. I'd imagine seeing the effects Andrew's actions have had on monarchy's reputation presumably plays a big part. Not sure there's any more to it than that. I don't think there's any concern re serious scandals but just concerns that publicity will be ongoing for years in a time where anything and everything from that which is clearly totally true to that which is clearly absolute rubbish can and will attract the same media presence.

Though why any country has a monarchy is beyond me anyway tbh! ...

ExpressCheckout · 09/08/2025 11:48

No. If there was any perceived 'threat', it would have been the other way around. William and Catherine have absolutely nothing to be worried about.

I feel pity for Harry, though, and I wish he was able to recognise what has/is being done to him. I'd welcome him and his children back to the UK.

ShesTheAlbatross · 09/08/2025 11:47

I think, if they had any sense, they’d have known from experience that the media is shallow and also follows pretty clear patterns.

When Kate married William, there were stories about how the York sisters didn’t like her because she was so glamorous and beautiful and took attention away from them. That narrative pretty much completely disappeared a while ago.
Fergie and Diana had similar stories as well.
Whoever Harry married would have had stories about how they didn’t get along with Kate and isn’t Kate so jealous because the new wife is a) so similar to Kate that she feels threatened, or b) so different to Kate that she feels threatened.

I’m sure in 20 years Charlotte will also apparently be so jealous of a new sister in law. It’s so tediously predictable we could write the headlines now.

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JeremyBearimysTimeKnife · 09/08/2025 11:45

KimberleyClark · 09/08/2025 11:42

Why on earth should they give a toss. They are the ones who will become King and Queen.

Nailed it