Mum is making comments about my weight every day

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Lunalara · 09/08/2025 11:29

I am struggling at the moment, because my mum keeps telling me off about my weight. For context, I used to be size 8, and now I am size 12. However, it was unhealthy to be size 8 as I am 5ft7. For some reason, she thinks that being size 8 is a normal weight.

Whenever I have a treat, even for events like Easter, my mum won’t stop going on about how I will definitely have diabetes. Recently, me and my boyfriend had a couple of slices of pizza many hours after we had lunch. We were hungry as we had a light lunch. That caused mum to be judgemental about my weight.

AIBU to be deeply upset by how often this is happening? While I know she has good will, the constant comments about weight are really weighing me down (no pun intended). I also live with her, so I can’t easily ignore the comments.

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AliTheMinx · 09/08/2025 11:39

I'm so sorry, OP. My mum is also horribly mean to me about my weight and constantly makes spiteful comments, so I know how hurtful it is.

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Lunalara · 09/08/2025 11:37

I have called her out many times, but I think she takes it personally. She is also quite a stubborn person in some areas. She wasn’t like this until about the time I reached adulthood. Maybe it’s being shut off from the world that’s doing this to her mental health? I really don’t know, I just want the weight comments to stop.

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Rizzz · 09/08/2025 11:37

How old are you?

Seems like moving out is the only option.

I mean she’s not going to change is she?

Thisismynewname23 · 09/08/2025 11:37

Mine is currently spamming me with links about mounjaro which I’ve told her i dont want to try, I’m a 12-14 used to be an 8-10 yes i want to be slimmer but I’ve had medication with chemo which made me gain but it is slowly coming off which i am trying to stick with, its really made me feel low her keep bringing it up to me

Showmethefood · 09/08/2025 11:34

I empathise. I have family members who are utterly obsessed with weight (think very disordered thinking from most female family members.) As a result of my upbringing I trained to be an eating disorder practitioner. So, now when those comments arise I confront them and call them out. It’s not easy , but actually I have noticed a slight change in other family members thinking patterns around food, so I’m hoping that in some way I’m helping! It is hard though.

IHate · 09/08/2025 11:32

It’s very rude. Have you told her to stop?

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