Hot tub

A waste of money in your opinion but clearly not your parents opinion because they bought one. People can spend their money how they choose. They don't have to factor in your child, or anyone else, with every purchase they make.

You are being ridiculously entitled.

Please do not leave an 18-month-old baby in a paddling pool while you sit in a hot tub nearby. This is a drowning risk.

My mum has one and we turned it down to 36/37 so toddlers could go in. But aside from that YABU to expect everyone else to not do something fun becuase your baby can’t!

The world doesn’t revolve around you and your child. If your mum and her husband want a hot tub that’s up to them.

Surely there are temperature controls? Your mum might agree to turn it down to a safe temp for your child.

My child is too small to go down the water slide at the pool. So I tell him sorry, not big enough yet and we move on. No, he’s not happy about it but that’s life.
What I don’t expect is for every other kids in the pool to stop using the slide.

Make sure there’s something else there he will enjoy doing and let everyone enjoy themselves with the self indulgent guilt trip you’re laying on.

This is a good idea. He needs to learn the meaning of No. Small children know that the word no from their mum is a safe nice word. It means mum is there looking after them. It doesn’t need to be upsetting.
I also get that it’s hard being a parent and missing out on the things you could do if you were childless but those are the choices we make. Yabvu to expect your mum and dad to give up everything too just so you don’t feel jealous.

I teach in a high school and at least weekly, several students complain that I am allowed to wear what I want and they have to wear a uniform. I painstakingly explain to them about the differences between children and adults and assume that they are not hearing this from elsewhere or they have parents who expect the world to bend around their offspring. For my sanity, please can you start teaching your child that the world is not their personal playground.

I think you are getting a bit of a hard time. You can't dictate what your mum does in her own home but I can see having something else to manage and work around when you visit is annoying, especially if everyone else is having fun and maybe can't see why you aren't just joining in. Maybe you won't feel as relaxed there now which is a shame. But I'm sure you'll get into a routine that works and the hot tub will become less of a novelty for everyone else too.

Yeah this post can’t be real 😆

He can't have any of my Pina Colada either, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't have a pretty drink in the hot tub.

I'm surprised at the number of posters who aren't aware of the potential dangers of hot tubs for children.
Personally I don't see the attraction of them and find the thought of them pretty unhygienic.
But I agree that if OP's DM wants to buy one and if the rest of the family want to use it then they have every right to go ahead.
I 'd just not bother going visiting if it revolved around using the hot tub. Let them.get on with it and find something more interesting to do with your child OP.

You could plan ahead and ask your parents to turn it down low, say to 28 degrees, then get your child in a floatation vest, and get into the hot tub with them. Everyone is happy, all is safe.

Surely parenting is about teaching your child that sometimes they can’t do what they want and how to accept that? Especially when it’s a safety issue. If you can’t handle an upset toddler that’s your problem not your parents fault.

I mean, you're probably right that when you visit your family you should stay out with your son because you'll need to supervise him and he might be annoyed if you go in there when he can't since he loves baths. But if you mean that your mum shouldnt have bought it then that's very unreasonable.

He’s 18 months you tell
him no. Ffs talk about pandering your kid will be a spoilt fucker take after his princess mum.’

But a paddling pool for him . He’s a baby and won’t know the difference . He will just see water .

I had my child in our hot tub from roughly 1. They were fine & thoroughly enjoyed it! Ask them to turn it down a few degrees (37c is like a bath) and wear arm bands & he’ll have a great time!

Yeah that's life.

You're kid won't be able to join in all things, all the time. You certainly shouldn't be teaching them that life should be tailored around their wants at the expense of everyone else's.

That's how entitlement starts. You'll be raising a spoilt kid with no resilience if you carry on like this.

Prepare your child for the road, not the road for your child.

You can turn the temperature down on it, you know. 38 will be fine. Presumably you bathe him in warm water?

He's 18 months old they get upset at all sorts at that age
When my oldest was that age he got upset becsse wouldn't allow him to drink the wine i was drinking!

Turn the temperature down to 37 and let him go in it. What a huge over reaction on your part OP.

Sometimes my child wants to drive the family car when we go to Sainsbury’s and he gets upset when I tell him he is not allowed. It is just part of raising a child and you have to navigate these emotions with them.

Bring a paddling pool for him…