My partner is lovely and perfect in most ways. Loving, attentive, nice gestures, practical support etc. I do love him. But recently he’s had an obsession with cars and it’s driving me nuts. I’m 4 months pregnant and trying to save in preparation for maternity leave and we’re also FTB weeks away from completing on our first home, he is dyslexic and English is his second language so all of the communication with solicitors etc and paperwork has been on me whilst working full-time and being tired from pregnancy.
He’s been driving me nuts because recently he’s been absolutely fucking obsessed with cars. He passed his test in 2022 and had a modest little old Toyota until February 2024 when he treated himself to something nicer, a bit sportier and 5 doors etc. Turns out he’d been sold a dud and it blew up in November, ultimately leaving him £7000 in loss. He was depressed for a few months which I did sort of understand but it was a rough time for me dealing with the moping and he even cancelled coming to Christmas at my parents because he was upset about the car.
January this year he bought himself a modest 2010 Ford Focus, nothing fancy but it does the job. But since then all he fucking talks about is how much he wants a nicer car. When we are driving he will talk the whole time about cars on the road and how he was all these different dream cars. I used to join in and humour him but lately I’ve been snapping as I want to be talking about things that we actually should be focusing on such as the house purchase and baby.
Whenever he has some downtime he is watching car videos on YouTube, watching comparison videos etc. He’s obsessed with the idea that we need an SUV before the baby comes, despite the fact that once the house purchase goes though we’ll have literally no savings except for my maternity leave pot. He sort of gets the practical reasons why we can’t have a new fancy car but then he gets emotional about it and literally mopes around the house sulking. He has started spending £20 a week on online car competitions and is sulking tonight because he entered one and really thought he would win. He was giddy the whole day. He obviously didn’t win and now he’s sat on the sofa in silence watching videos about the car with a face like a slapped arse.
I have had to come upstairs as I just snapped at him and told him I’m sick of hearing about cars. I reached the end of my tether. What makes it worse is I work for a car insurance company, I have tried to explain to him that I talk about cars all day as it is and when I get home I want to discuss something different, but he just laughs and thinks I’m joking. I honestly can’t take it anymore. Yesterday I snapped at him because I was telling him about a difficult client I had at work, I was dealing with their car insurance claim and they weren’t happy with the outcome, and he started mansplaining to me about how that particular brand of car is known for accidents as they have some very sporty models. I cut him off and told him to bloody shut up because I WORK IN CAR INSURANCE and know a bit about bloody cars without him telling me!!!!!
I needed to rant. Am I hormonal or would anyone else be pissed off by this