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To send a letter from the tooth fairy but no money?

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Toothfairyteller · 08/08/2025 17:07

Dc wanted a visit from the tooth fairy so spent about 24 hours wobbling and wobbling a slightly wobbly tooth to make it come out.
Tooth fairy came and brought money but told them to be careful not to get rid of teeth before they’re ready!

They’ve done it again with a tooth that wasn’t wobbly before the other one came out but now they had access they went at it until it came out. It wasn’t ready and they had to really yank it out but they are so desperate for another tooth fairy visit.

Aibu to send a letter from the tooth fairy but no money this time?

I haven’t made up my mind either way. I’ve talked to friends in RL and some have said no way should I leave money and some have said I should. I don’t want dc to do it again.

YABU: leave money
YANBU: don’t leave any money

Any suggestions on what should go in the letter to warn them off doing it again?

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InWalksBarberalla · 09/08/2025 01:01

Then dentist told my son to wobble his teeth when they get loose to help them along.

SailingWonder · 09/08/2025 00:53

Tooth fairy sounds like a right miserable cow in your house

Clarabell77 · 09/08/2025 00:38

A tooth won’t just come out unless it’s ready to - ffs give the child the money.

Elizabeth1000 · 09/08/2025 00:36

I’d leave money. But perhaps less than usual to discourage more pulling.

thebluehour · 09/08/2025 00:30

Jesus. He's a kid. Young enough to believe in the tooth fairy. And you've pulled this punishing, uptight, mean little move on him. And feel justified!

JamDisaster · 09/08/2025 00:04

Smartiepants79 · 09/08/2025 00:02

I actually think this is really quite mean.
I hope you’re ready to deal with a very sad little boy tomorrow. I don’t think you should use tooth fairy or Santa to discipline a child. Just give him his tooth fairy money and then a very serious word tomorrow about not messing with our teeth.

Quite. It’s supposed to be fun.

Smartiepants79 · 09/08/2025 00:02

I actually think this is really quite mean.
I hope you’re ready to deal with a very sad little boy tomorrow. I don’t think you should use tooth fairy or Santa to discipline a child. Just give him his tooth fairy money and then a very serious word tomorrow about not messing with our teeth.

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10p more than OP’s planning to give.

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deedee99 · 08/08/2025 23:43

Teeth get wobbly when the adult teeth behind them start pushing them out. If it's wobbly, it's ready. I think you're being massively ott here.

JamDisaster · 08/08/2025 23:39

Don’t all kids wobble them out? Just give them the money, no dicking about with notes.

edwinbear · 08/08/2025 23:35

13 yr old DD had to have 4 adult teeth extracted by the dentist before she had braces fitted. She was a bloody (pun intended) trooper over it and made a joke about whether the tooth fairy was going to come that night. I stuck £20 under her pillow and a ‘note’ from the tooth fairy saying adult teeth were worth more 🤣.

Your DC’s baby teeth will come out, does it really matter if they wobble them out a bit earlier than intended? I guarantee from DD’s experience, it’s not easy getting teeth out that don’t want to come out!

Aspidistree · 08/08/2025 23:33

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 23:28

I'd leave the tooth there and a note saying it's not ready yet and she'll collect it when it is. Wait a few days, then swap the tooth for the money. Then DC will learn that getting the tooth out early doesn't mean getting the money early - and DC will have wasted the tooth fairy's time too!

Just give the money. You don't want them scared to wobble future ones at all trying to keep them under threat of missing out on the money. Sometimes an awkward one really needs to be helped along.

ETA sorry @FromanEmpire , didn't mean to quote you. FWIW I think your idea is much better than leaving nothing.

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 23:30

Liliwen · 08/08/2025 23:26

Why does it matter if the tooth is wobbled out a bit early? The big tooth will still come up

It can damage the adult tooth or the gum.

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 23:28

I'd leave the tooth there and a note saying it's not ready yet and she'll collect it when it is. Wait a few days, then swap the tooth for the money. Then DC will learn that getting the tooth out early doesn't mean getting the money early - and DC will have wasted the tooth fairy's time too!

Liliwen · 08/08/2025 23:26

Why does it matter if the tooth is wobbled out a bit early? The big tooth will still come up

Jellycatspyjamas · 08/08/2025 23:19

Toothfairyteller · 08/08/2025 21:13

Thank you! That’s what’I’ve done and wrapped it up in ribbon so it’s still special!

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It really isn’t special if there’s no money there - using the tooth fairy to discipline your child is next level madness. If the tooth wasn’t ready he wouldn’t have been able to wobble it out.

businessflop25 · 08/08/2025 23:06

Toothfairyteller · 08/08/2025 21:13

Thank you! That’s what’I’ve done and wrapped it up in ribbon so it’s still special!

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But it was ready!! The tooth would not have come out if it wasn’t!!!

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Toothfairyteller · 08/08/2025 21:13

Laura95167 · 08/08/2025 21:09

Id send a letter saying sorry I cant pay you for this one because it wasnt ready. But I look forward to mu next visit when youre ready

Thank you! That’s what’I’ve done and wrapped it up in ribbon so it’s still special!

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Laura95167 · 08/08/2025 21:09

Id send a letter saying sorry I cant pay you for this one because it wasnt ready. But I look forward to mu next visit when youre ready

Helpmeplease2025 · 08/08/2025 17:23

Surely you can’t wobble out a tooth that wasn’t ready to come out?

Just give them the money, it saves you later; it’s no different in total.

CleanShirt · 08/08/2025 17:21

Isn't wobbling your teeth out for the pound coin the whole idea of the tooth fairy?

Sherunswithwolves · 08/08/2025 17:20

AyaMaua · 08/08/2025 17:17

If he’s brave enough to yank it out I’d pay him double. Never understood this nonsense with letters. The kid wants the cash not the magic.

I think they'll think being paid double is magic 🤣