To send a letter from the tooth fairy but no money?

YABU

You're about to destroy the tooth fairy for your kid!!!!!

Do you have any idea how hard it is to pull a tooth???? Go to the dentist and watch them do an extraction. They don't just pop out like chicklets. If your child's tooth came out, it was already loose even if they pulled at it.

It is not uncommon for kids to lose a bunch of teeth all at the same time. My 9 y/o lost three teeth within a week a few months back and he doesn't fiddle with them, they won't even be loose sometimes and will just pop out. When he was younger the front ones all came out around the same time as well.

Don't be an AH and wreck this for your kid!

There’s a big difference between note+money and just a note, especially if that note is delivering a bollocking.

Honestly, what is this thing for outsourcing parenting to fiction characters? In the short term he’ll feel gutted that the tooth fairy didn’t bring him any money (despite the fact that she presumably comes to all his friends irrespective of whether they’ve been wobbling the teeth out). In the longer term the penny will drop and he’ll feel completely betrayed. Just put a quid under his pillow and tell him yourself that he shouldn’t be wobbling them out, it’s not difficult.

Sorry but that’s not special, it’s really cruel !!

He is a child for gods sake

This seesm more about control than anything

Ah I feel sad for him :(

I used to write little notes with my kids' teeth (usually because I had to apologise for the payment being 'late' as I was so ridiculously busy at the time with working, studying, kids etc). My children are now grown up but what they remember is not the money but the notes - I wrote them in curly writing in different colours/ gold pens and wrote that the reason for the delay was that I (fairy) had been busy building castles out of the other teeth, but thanks so much for this beautiful tooth - we plan to use it for a new bridge across the moat/ new fairy fountain/ path to the castle gardens etc. They absolutely loved it and were just talking about it recently (along with the tripwire they devised one year for Father Christmas!).
I think if you make the note a lovely thing, but then write something like 'thank you for your beautiful tooth - we're hoping to use it for the fairy blah blah. ps try not to wiggle your tooth TOO much to get it out - we don't want you to hurt yourself/damage your lovely new teeth that are coming through. Thanks (DS name), love Tia the Tooth Fairy' Or something! I'd have to check first if it does actually damage the big teeth; not sure it does?
With the money, I used to give pound coins as I thought the gold coins worked well with the fairy thing. Not sure it matters whether you include money or not this time - I just probably wouldn't give too much.

I'd leave the money. All kids wobble their teeth out. A letter with a ribbon around it won't be special to a child when it's the money they are after. I'm not even sure when this fairy letter writing started. My parents just used to leave the coin under my pillow and I was delighted, i didn't need any letter.

I hate all this using santa/the elf/tooth fairies to disapline kids.. it's supposed to be a nice thing. Imagine waking up to a letter all wrapped up pretty and finding that inside it 🙄

Haha! When I had my wisdom teeth out at 14 it was under GA, and as I was coming round I burbled on and on to the nurse asking her repeatedly whether she thought the tooth fairy would come! I was joking but I'm not sure that translated in my drugged-up state! I still cringe about that! 😳

Tooth fairy is on holiday so you give him a pound or whatever then say the tooth fairy is only allowed to leave money when the tooth falls out not pulled out. The last thing you want is for him to keep doing this.

Makes me wonder if OP is generally resistant to him growing up and has a tendency to punish him for not staying a baby!

I don’t think OP is worried about the money aspect, it’s more her son yanking at non wobbly teeth.

This year two of my sons adult teeth were coming in high without any sign of the baby teeth coming out below it, so the dentist pulled them out and one of the few consolations of the injection and pulled teeth for him was double tooth fairy money that night.

You might shoot yourself in the foot with this 'not paying as they didn't come out naturally' part if they need dental work later on...

It surely wouldn’t be possible for a child to pull out a tooth that is not at all ready to come out?! They are so solid! Sounds like it was starting to make its way out, and he has just given it a helping hand. I think you’re making a weirdly big deal out of it!

If they were able to pull them out they were clearly ready to come out. Why does it matter whether you give them that money now or in a couple of weeks? It's coming out either way.

I did this with my Dd, her friends teeth were starting to come out and she was jealous, so I wrote a message from the tooth fairy to say well done for looking after her teeth so well and left her a shiny £1 coin 🙂

I agree with leaving a note @Toothfairyteller but I maybe would've have left less money than normal as the tooth wasn't ready and a line about checking with mummy if the next tooth is wobbly enough to be wobbled out so they get the full amount next time.
Appreciate I'm too late to the party now as whatever you decided to do has been done! Are you happy to provide an update and let us know the final decision and the reaction? Understand if you're not!

It tends to be far mess complicated if people just stop lying to there kids about fairies. Imagine if nobody had ever told him about it? Would he still be yanking teeth out to get money?

Yes.

I didn’t say that OP should not give money - I actually said she should. That has. I thing to do with whether wobbling baby teeth damages gums and adult teeth.

Even if it was already wobbly?

The kid’s going to have teeth uncomfortably hanging on by a thread after this because he will be too worried to touch them in case the tooth fairy says no again

But why? It won't make any difference in the long run and anyway, if the tooth wasn’t nearly ready to come out anyway he wouldn’t have been able to wobble it out.

Seems mean to me. Poor boy. It’s a good way to give him hang-ups about teeth coming out in future. And how are you going to police what’s going on inside his mouth?

Tell them the truth -that government cutbacks mean the tooth fairy is overstretched, and the number of visits had to be cut.

I really don't understand where you are coming from on this one, why would pulling it out mean they don't get the money? I would most definitely give them the money

Joyless

Poor kid 😢 Wish I knew the address to drop £2 off from the tooth fairy 🤣

just leave the money

Do not do this. Why does it matter if they wobble it and get it out that way? Kids have done this for decades (and probably centuries!) with no harm done. What a horrible thing to effectively punish them for. Really mean.