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Racist vigilantes on local FB page

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FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 15:42

I live in a small town with a military history. As such, we have had quite a few Afghan refugees settled here.

A few days ago, a woman posted to say that an Afghan refugee had been in the park and walking around watching her toddler. She turned away to feed her other child, and when she turned back, he was holding her toddler and walking off. She asked her sister who was with her to go and get the toddler back. Then, apparently, he said no to the sister several times and said he was taking the toddler home with him. Eventually, the toddler was returned.

Cue extensive outrage all over the Facebook page. Comments calling for riots and violence, comments locating the man involved, comments getting a few men together for a game of "human football"... Obviously people asked why she hadn't called the police and she said she had but they weren't interested.

Anyway, then there are posts of the man in different locations and people threatening to go after him.

Then, it turns out, the woman has partly lied and partly told half-truths about the whole things. Firstly, not a local Afghan refugee at all. Not local, on holiday. Not Afghan, police confirmed he's not Afghan but didn't say what he is. Not a refugee, here on holiday (we live in a touristy place). Police also confirmed it wasn't reported to them until the evening - and also that the report was made by a man. So, she didn't report to the police - just to Facebook.

It also turns out, the man was in the park with his own children (she made it sound like he was there alone) and that the toddler approached him, while the mum wasn't paying any attention, and asked to be picked up. And, of course, very strange that if a man were walking off with your toddler, you'd just ask him nicely to put them down...

Frankly, I feel really uncomfortable by this. This woman has blatantly lied and misled people to try and rile up a riot. I'm also scared by how many people were commenting incredibly racist things and calling for violence against (what turned out to be) an entirely innocent man. I'm really shocked, and I like where I live less now.

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:28

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FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:26

Just asked for my last comment to be withdrawn as I think I read the comment I was replying to wrong.

Simonjt · 08/08/2025 19:26

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Why only on white girls?

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:25

whatsoccuring5 · 08/08/2025 17:07

Also I can’t stop laughing that you said Bordon is a touristy place 🤣🤯🙈🙌🏼

There's much to laugh about this thread.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:24

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:21

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:20

It's not rocket science.

Afghan refugees were brought after the Taliban took control. Lots of people in Afghanistan assisted our military fighting against the Taliban by doing things like fighting alongside them or doing translation/interpreting for us. Now, under Taliban rule, they'll be killed in Afghanistan because they helped us. So, we brought them over here and assisted with finding them housing. And that housing is owned by the military. And these people still often work for/with our military. So they're largely in military towns.

I'm sure you have a problem with that too.

Nice after thought.

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:20

It's not rocket science.

Afghan refugees were brought after the Taliban took control. Lots of people in Afghanistan assisted our military fighting against the Taliban by doing things like fighting alongside them or doing translation/interpreting for us. Now, under Taliban rule, they'll be killed in Afghanistan because they helped us. So, we brought them over here and assisted with finding them housing. And that housing is owned by the military. And these people still often work for/with our military. So they're largely in military towns.

I'm sure you have a problem with that too.

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:19

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:18

Mostly right wing people. Left wing people create the issues that leads to the baiting being ‘effective’. That’s my belief.

It's clear what's going on. I've just cancelled my subs with MN.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:18

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JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:18

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:17

Just seen this.
Ok. Who's race baiting though?

Mostly right wing people. Left wing people create the issues that leads to the baiting being ‘effective’. That’s my belief.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:17

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:17

She answered above

Yes, I know, just seen

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:17

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:16

What are your thoughts on racist vigilantes on social media pages, like FB? You know, the topic of the thread?

She answered above

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:17

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:13

Awful as is race baiting.

Just seen this.
Ok. Who's race baiting though?

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:17

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:16

What has a military town got to do with this story?

From my perspective, the fact it’s a military town means Afghan people who worked with British forces have been inclined to move there? I could be wrong.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:16

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:15

Yes, but what is its significance - if you can tell me how a military town equals Afghan migrants, I would appreciate it.

What are your thoughts on racist vigilantes on social media pages, like FB? You know, the topic of the thread?

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:16

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:09

What has that got to do with the topic, anyway?
It's almost like you're trying to derail and go off on a tangent so the topic isn't spoken about.. Hope others can see this and don't engage.

What has a military town got to do with this story?

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:15

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:07

Yes, I mean it's literally right there in your opening post....🤔

Yes, but what is its significance - if you can tell me how a military town equals Afghan migrants, I would appreciate it.

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:13

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:12

What are your thoughts on racist vigilantes on FB and other social media sites?

Awful as is race baiting.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:12

What are your thoughts on racist vigilantes on FB and other social media sites?

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:11

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:10

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:09

She's just not over the fact that she made several posts saying this scenario wasn't real and troll-hunting... it turns out that it is, provably and verifiably, true so she's moved onto starting fights on every single thing I said. I haven't replied to those up until this point but it's ridiculous now. Can we block posters on here?

Are you going to provide evidence to the correlation between a town steeped in military history, equalling Afhganistan migrants?

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:10

2dogsandabudgie · 08/08/2025 19:07

In that situation I would have said to the parent "would you like me to carry him across" not just assumed it was OK and just picked the child up. You're lucky that she didn't give you a mouthful.

You only have to look at some of the threads on here to know that some mothers don't like other people even touching their toddlers let alone picking them up.

She was walking off ahead on a windy beach out of earshot. If people don't want other people looking out for their crying child then they should pay attention.

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FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:10

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:09

She's just not over the fact that she made several posts saying this scenario wasn't real and troll-hunting... it turns out that it is, provably and verifiably, true so she's moved onto starting fights on every single thing I said. I haven't replied to those up until this point but it's ridiculous now. Can we block posters on here?

No block button on here, you can just ignore though.
Think they call it "grey rocking" 🙂

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:09

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 19:07

No, you said it's a military down and as such, there are Afghan refugees. I don't see how one leads to another.

What has that got to do with the topic, anyway?
It's almost like you're trying to derail and go off on a tangent so the topic isn't spoken about.. Hope others can see this and don't engage.

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 19:09

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 08/08/2025 19:07

Yes, I mean it's literally right there in your opening post....🤔

She's just not over the fact that she made several posts saying this scenario wasn't real and troll-hunting... it turns out that it is, provably and verifiably, true so she's moved onto starting fights on every single thing I said. I haven't replied to those up until this point but it's ridiculous now. Can we block posters on here?

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