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Racist vigilantes on local FB page

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FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 15:42

I live in a small town with a military history. As such, we have had quite a few Afghan refugees settled here.

A few days ago, a woman posted to say that an Afghan refugee had been in the park and walking around watching her toddler. She turned away to feed her other child, and when she turned back, he was holding her toddler and walking off. She asked her sister who was with her to go and get the toddler back. Then, apparently, he said no to the sister several times and said he was taking the toddler home with him. Eventually, the toddler was returned.

Cue extensive outrage all over the Facebook page. Comments calling for riots and violence, comments locating the man involved, comments getting a few men together for a game of "human football"... Obviously people asked why she hadn't called the police and she said she had but they weren't interested.

Anyway, then there are posts of the man in different locations and people threatening to go after him.

Then, it turns out, the woman has partly lied and partly told half-truths about the whole things. Firstly, not a local Afghan refugee at all. Not local, on holiday. Not Afghan, police confirmed he's not Afghan but didn't say what he is. Not a refugee, here on holiday (we live in a touristy place). Police also confirmed it wasn't reported to them until the evening - and also that the report was made by a man. So, she didn't report to the police - just to Facebook.

It also turns out, the man was in the park with his own children (she made it sound like he was there alone) and that the toddler approached him, while the mum wasn't paying any attention, and asked to be picked up. And, of course, very strange that if a man were walking off with your toddler, you'd just ask him nicely to put them down...

Frankly, I feel really uncomfortable by this. This woman has blatantly lied and misled people to try and rile up a riot. I'm also scared by how many people were commenting incredibly racist things and calling for violence against (what turned out to be) an entirely innocent man. I'm really shocked, and I like where I live less now.

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FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 16:27

Muffsies · 08/08/2025 16:22

I glad that I've never participated in FB. It's a pit of banality and the worst of mankind. If someone tells me they use FB I'm afraid they are judged harshly.

If you're using FB op, just get rid of it. I absolutely share your fear and disgust about what you saw, but sadly you can't change it, you can only refuse to be part of it.

You're right but I find it useful. Things like the nearby a-road always being closed for a crash or getting advice on local mechanics/dog trainers/etc.

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FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 16:26

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This is my first post because the Facebook post is public and I don't want my regular name and the (very small) town I live in pieced together.

As I said, mods can confirm that.

People namechange all the time on here - it's not a conspiracy.

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WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 08/08/2025 16:24

We have one of these every week on my local FB group, either man in the park or man in a van. They’re always either Asian or Eastern European. Somehow they’re never successful or any realistic resolution/action happens. Meanwhile, county lines are running rampant, drug deals on the corner of the street in the middle of the day, the whole estate reeks of weed and there’s gangs of balaclava clad teens on escooters running about dealing and transporting. Confused

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 16:22

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Muffsies · 08/08/2025 16:22

SloppyThePoodle · 08/08/2025 16:15

Facebook is the absolute worst, I honestly think it needs to be deleted. I'm not one for conspiracy theories but if it came out that the Russians were using FB to destabilise western democracy I wouldn't be surprised!! (I'll get my tinfoil hat)

I glad that I've never participated in FB. It's a pit of banality and the worst of mankind. If someone tells me they use FB I'm afraid they are judged harshly.

If you're using FB op, just get rid of it. I absolutely share your fear and disgust about what you saw, but sadly you can't change it, you can only refuse to be part of it.

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 16:20

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ODFOD.

Happy for the mods to confirm I'm a regular poster. Happy to show mods screenshots of the FB page too to prove it's real.

There's nothing "inflammatory" because surely no one thinks it's acceptable to lie about someone trying to kidnap your child or to threaten to physically assault someone.

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FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 16:18

SloppyThePoodle · 08/08/2025 16:15

Facebook is the absolute worst, I honestly think it needs to be deleted. I'm not one for conspiracy theories but if it came out that the Russians were using FB to destabilise western democracy I wouldn't be surprised!! (I'll get my tinfoil hat)

I kind of thought a lot of these things were bots or similar when I see posts online. The issue here is that I know these people and know they're real human beings. I cannot imagine going to a toddler group or school fair or something with people after the things they've said.

Not only have they shown a complete and total lack of critical thinking or basic intelligence, but they're also blatantly racist and violent too.

I feel very uncomfortable about it.

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 16:18

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SloppyThePoodle · 08/08/2025 16:15

Facebook is the absolute worst, I honestly think it needs to be deleted. I'm not one for conspiracy theories but if it came out that the Russians were using FB to destabilise western democracy I wouldn't be surprised!! (I'll get my tinfoil hat)

FromanEmpire · 08/08/2025 16:12

Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 16:09

Another one 🥱

Sorry?

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Dangermoo · 08/08/2025 16:09

Another one 🥱