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Ringing in sick?

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fatgirlswims · 08/08/2025 14:20

My work place make it as difficult as possible to call in sick.

you have to phone the top boss between 6.30 and 7am

You can’t tell them in advance. You cant email or text.

you can’t tell you line manager
you can’t call in sick day one, have a day off, get signed and then email in or call someone else.

if you are signed off or told to self certify you only have to ring in once AFTER that. Other wise you have to ring in.

there is no practical need for this other than they need to know before 7.30.

someone rang in with a cold cough and were told they still
needed to come in as it was only a cold.
another called at 7.30 as they tried to come in but were to ill after getting ready.

I called in Wednesday and was signed off so I emailed the person responsible for sickness to say so. This is the bosses PA. I was then told off at my RTW about the “confusion” regarding not calling the boss.

EDIT. We have low rates of staff sickness.

AIBU to think must be a deterrent

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supersonicginandtonic · 08/08/2025 23:01

My team are supposed to call me. I tell them to just drop me a message, easier for us both that way.

Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 22:53

our managers prefered the call, but then that depends on if they are available etc personally i prefered watsapp as then its written down

Toomanywaterbottles · 08/08/2025 22:24

Apart from the boss telling you to come in because it was only a cold, the rest sounds pretty normal to me. We have to phone in by 7am at the latest and speak to the duty manager. We also have to phone in every day unless you know you’re going to be off for a longer period and you have a fit note.

WhatcakeshalIIbaketoday · 08/08/2025 22:18

Gracious, that is a lot of hoops to jump through OP! I’m lucky in that I can send my team a WhatsApp if I’m unwell.

fatgirlswims · 08/08/2025 22:17

Top boss doesn’t need to know and I told the people who do red to know via what’s app or email. Whichever they will get first. Also put in team chat. If I didn’t they would have less time so get organised for the day.

Boss doesn’t need to know at 6.30.

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paddingtoncoffee · 08/08/2025 22:12

Was trying to reply to @laughingcat

paddingtoncoffee · 08/08/2025 22:10

This! If you're ill, you're ill. Having to try and be awake enough to make a phone call at a specific time, or take one, can be seriously tough. Doing so can also actively lengthen your absence

cosietea · 08/08/2025 21:42

I WhatsApp my boss to tell him I won’t be in if I’m sick. More a friendly heads up than permission and I am under no obligation to give a reason either

LaughingCat · 08/08/2025 21:38

I don’t care how my team members let me know they’re too ill to work, as long as they let me know before work starts so I can sort cover. I’ve had Whatsapps at 3am (from the loo they’ve been vomiting over, it seems), emails, voice notes, Teams messages. I don’t care. As long as they get a message to me, their line manager and my line manager so we have broad spectrum cover in case one of us is also indisposed. But then, I have an issue making the people in my team actually admit they’re bloody ill and taking the time they need to recover instead of making themselves even worse. I really don’t understand places that make it really difficult.

Catsbreakfast · 08/08/2025 21:03

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 15:21

As someone said on another thread.

Employers get references for us, if only we could get references for them!

There are so many things that i was not about my job before i started here

You can, on glassdoor. Leave anonymous reviews on the company you work/worked for.

Em94 · 08/08/2025 20:58

I think it depends on what type of job you work in to whether this is normal, I used to work for NHS and we had to ring daily before work for staffing numbers as obviously they need a certain amount of staff on the ward.
I now manage my own diary in the community and can email before my start time if I am unwell

bumblingbovine49 · 08/08/2025 20:52

DorothyWainwright · 08/08/2025 15:46

Yanbu.
My workplace has just gone over to having to actually phone in. I'm terrified of being ill and having to do that. Why do I want a 30 second chat about not coming in? An email did the job. Especially if I've been ill in the night, I don't want to set myself back by having to set an alarm to call my flippin' boss at 9am when I should be sleeping.

The reason you have to call is so that someone definitely knows. What if yout email your manager and they are off sick or on leave or in meeting all morning and not checking mail etc so dont see the email?

The calling is not just for fun. It is so there is no way the message is missed

Sub2Mumma · 08/08/2025 20:51

My work we call leave an vmail and then follow up with a text or email as bosses don’t start or switch their phones on until 9am.

notatinydancer · 08/08/2025 20:48

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 08/08/2025 16:09

A phone call ensures that someone is aware of your absence, as you will actually speak to a person, you don't know when an email will be seen.
And at 9am you shouldn't be sleeping, you should actually be working!

She means 9am if she’s off sick and wants to be asleep.

fatgirlswims · 08/08/2025 20:45

tobleronetime · 08/08/2025 15:04

What if they have a phone phobia?

I have phone phobia but that is a me problem and I need to get over it

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SitOnHisFaceIfHeDiesHeDies · 08/08/2025 20:08

Imagine phoning in sick and your boss saying nope not good enough you "have to" come in?! Fuck right off. I'd be looking for another job ASAP who the fuck do these people think they are

fatgirlswims · 08/08/2025 19:34

@Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes I had dental operation! The second one and the first I went back and it was a disaster and went of sick after two days of hell, so I told them for the second one I need four days off and I still had to ring in sick.

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Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · 08/08/2025 16:22

Quite normal to have to call in sick daily unless signed off. Not sure about the top boss thing but I expect this is to cut sickness levels as it is a massive cost to employers. What do you mean when you say you can’t tell them in advance? How do you know in advance that you are going to be sick?

Catsandcannedbeans · 08/08/2025 16:15

We could email or text as soon as we knew, then we would have to call in the day of. Say I was sick at 4AM, I would email then and call at 9AM, but if you started feeling sick out of hours we were told to email or text asap. DH lets people text in but he trusts his employees and they’re a small team. My dad works with a lot of builders, so he makes them call in because “if they’re pulling a sicky I want to at least see if their sick voice is good”.

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 08/08/2025 16:09

A phone call ensures that someone is aware of your absence, as you will actually speak to a person, you don't know when an email will be seen.
And at 9am you shouldn't be sleeping, you should actually be working!

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 15:47

DorothyWainwright · 08/08/2025 15:46

Yanbu.
My workplace has just gone over to having to actually phone in. I'm terrified of being ill and having to do that. Why do I want a 30 second chat about not coming in? An email did the job. Especially if I've been ill in the night, I don't want to set myself back by having to set an alarm to call my flippin' boss at 9am when I should be sleeping.

They do it to stress you out, to make you so stressed that you won't call in sick

DorothyWainwright · 08/08/2025 15:46

Yanbu.
My workplace has just gone over to having to actually phone in. I'm terrified of being ill and having to do that. Why do I want a 30 second chat about not coming in? An email did the job. Especially if I've been ill in the night, I don't want to set myself back by having to set an alarm to call my flippin' boss at 9am when I should be sleeping.

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 15:37

Minniliscious · 08/08/2025 15:35

Nope never had to do that in all my years working. I can just WhatsApp my line manager now. I’ve been lucky I guess!

Whatsapp! Wow that is informal.

I have to ring an absence line

Minniliscious · 08/08/2025 15:35

ilovesooty · 08/08/2025 15:10

I don't see why it's unusual. I've never worked anywhere where it was acceptable to email or text. When I was teaching you had to call before 7.30am, and call at 2.30pm to say whether you'd be in the next day 😢. You had to call every day unless you'd been signed off with a sick note.

Having to call in person is the norm I would have thought.

Nope never had to do that in all my years working. I can just WhatsApp my line manager now. I’ve been lucky I guess!

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 15:21

As someone said on another thread.

Employers get references for us, if only we could get references for them!

There are so many things that i was not about my job before i started here