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Perato · 08/08/2025 13:35

Work in an advertising agency type environment (some details changed to protect identity) in the sales division. We're a small team but on an agressive growth drive due to private equity.

Last year on return from mat leave I struggled to balance the role with motherhood, mental health wasn't great and felt bullied by manager and her boss for a while. My performance dipped a bit and It culminated in a very nasty ambush call by one of the directors basically threatening to sack me and mocking my sales abilities.

Fast forward a year and things have stabilised and I'm back on track with performance etc and we've recently hired two new senior managers to help drive even more sales and growth.

These hires were announced to much PR fanfare and billed across the company as much needed talent etc.

I've ended up training them a lot and picking up a lot of the Slack as they learn but both are struggling in their own ways and one in particular doesn't seem good enough and has made bad mistakes and doesnt seem to grasp the basics. We're now 3-4 months in and they still have to be hand held for almost everything and can't do certain things solo as 'not ready yet'. They're getting a very easy ride but I was nearly sacked for much less.

These are senior managers, on at least 10k more than me (baseline). I'm picking up the slack right left and centre but externally we've positioned them as incredibly capable/ senior/ strategic/ commercially astute etc.

I'm feeling so resentful and used. I've given official feedback but it's not my call on what happens to them. I've also applied for various jobs over past 6 months but market is dire so it's not an easy option.

Not sure what I'm looking for from this thread, maybe just validation that inbu and views from others who have been in this situation.

I felt so upset and broken last year but I clawed it back and have given effort etc, now seeing incompetent people announced and bigged up so much causes me so much anger.

OP posts:
WhereYouLeftIt · 08/08/2025 14:41

Gizlotsmum · 08/08/2025 14:16

Let them fail. If your boss wants the work done he gets them to redo it. No one is going to get better letting someone else fix their mistakes and why would you do more for them than anyone was willing to do for you?

This, 100%.

Littleredgoat · 08/08/2025 14:24

What do you actually want? That is the question.

If you don't want the work of training then then step back and let them fail regardless of your bosses targets. The targets are your bosses responsiblility, the new hire responsiblility - definitely not yours.

If you want their job, then i think you need to own what went wrong last year. Acknowledge it and have a discussion with your boss why now is different and you are worth the promotion. Not justifying your behaviour - owning that performance wasn't as it should be, your have reflected, proved yourself and now want to step up.

You're right it isn't fair. But what outcome do you want

CremeEggThief · 08/08/2025 14:18

Why are you resenting them and not management who have already shown you they're not as supportive of you as they should be? YABU for that.

Mumlaplomb · 08/08/2025 14:16

It sounds like you had shoddy treatment post maternity OP, which is sadly common in these kind of cut throat environments.
I woukd raise the issues with your manager and explain your concerns and ask for her suggestions as to how she wishes to proceed, as you won’t be able to carry them for long.
separately it does not sound like a fun place to work.

Gizlotsmum · 08/08/2025 14:16

Let them fail. If your boss wants the work done he gets them to redo it. No one is going to get better letting someone else fix their mistakes and why would you do more for them than anyone was willing to do for you?

Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 14:09

Perato · 08/08/2025 14:04

I've done this a bit. Their work is then not very good so I have to correct it as my boss wants it done quickly so we still meet targets etc

does the boss know how good they are ?

Perato · 08/08/2025 14:04

Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 13:57

could you step back and see how they do ?

I've done this a bit. Their work is then not very good so I have to correct it as my boss wants it done quickly so we still meet targets etc

OP posts:
Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 13:57

Perato · 08/08/2025 13:54

For past few months I think their probation is 6 months

could you step back and see how they do ?

Perato · 08/08/2025 13:54

For past few months I think their probation is 6 months

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Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 13:52

how long are you training them for ?

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