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To be pissed off with husband saying he gives me an ‘allowance’

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Heaths88 · 08/08/2025 13:13

Views welcome on this - my H works full time, I am part time 4 days a week with Friday’s off to spend with our youngest child.

H transfers me money ad-hoc to go towards days out on these Friday’s etc.

Last night, he asked me whether the amount he is transferring is enough or if he needs to increase ‘my allowance’.

I said I don’t need an allowance, it’s money for our child. He stood by the description and told me to stop nit picking and that it’s good of him to be providing money when many other fathers wouldn’t bother as ‘they’d be busy working keeping a roof over their heads’.

There’s very little between our salaries btw.

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mbosnz · 08/08/2025 13:22

What an egotistical little tosser! He really is a very little man, isn't he? He really should stop embarrassing himself like that. Do you have a group chat with friends you could amuse with this anecdote, and then make sure you show him the responses? I'm sure they'd make that dick droop still further - and he sure as fuck wouldn't be having much use for it around me if I were you in the near future!

If he wants to make like a 1950's head of the household he needs to provide like one too - which he clearly isn't, no matter what lies he's telling himself.

CrustyMustyJugglers · 08/08/2025 13:22

Overandoveradnauseum · 08/08/2025 13:20

I think it's very dated terminology.
I did think you were being a bit nit picking by taking exception to him using the word because it seemed a thoughtful gesture for him to want to contribute towards you and your child enjoying yourselves.
But I don't like the " you should be grateful" input and attitude from him.

It's not a thoughtful gesture, it's literally his job.

Overandoveradnauseum · 08/08/2025 13:20

I think it's very dated terminology.
I did think you were being a bit nit picking by taking exception to him using the word because it seemed a thoughtful gesture for him to want to contribute towards you and your child enjoying yourselves.
But I don't like the " you should be grateful" input and attitude from him.

stayathomer · 08/08/2025 13:17

Yadnbu, that’s horrendous, both that he said it and his answer. ESPECIALLY when you’re both so close in salary