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To think that white British/ American etcmen are just as much a threat to women as migrants?

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malificent7 · 08/08/2025 12:47

I am not excusing grooming, paedophile sex rings and unmonitored immigration at all but I hate all these protests.
I know that my white male ex teacher is a sex offender. Not to mention the Epstein scandal.
Aibu to think that ALL men are a danger to women...not just men of different ethnicities/ religions etc?

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PandoraSocks · 08/08/2025 18:26

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/08/2025 17:48

I think this is all very true.

We have to be both balanced and honest in our approach, and also not let the far right steal the agenda on this issue (which I think is what has happened).

It shouldn’t be a huge ask to expect the same laws to apply to everyone, but apparently it is.

But actually the same laws, without deciding we’re only going to focus on non-white men. It doesn’t seem very surprising that Reform are constantly being found to be committing offences against or at least being offensive to women, whilst banging on about “immigrants threatening our women”.

Tommy Robinson called a woman a slag recently. But he's so concerned about thevsafety of women and girls.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:24

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 18:22

I'm afraid that is the argument if you care to read the thread. That men from misogynist cultures (name a country that isn't), will import their behaviour here. You're well aware that sexual assault is illegal, therefore they're incapable of acting within the law.

One in four women will be abused in the UK and one in three will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime. The people abusing women are misogynists. That's who's oppressing women the world over. Check out the Whitehouse, millions voted for a sex offender.

FFS this is just so disingenuous I’d be surprised if you didn’t feel faintly embarrassed writing it.

Let’s do a simple thought experiment.

You can be air dropped into either country - the USA or Afghanistan. Which do you choose?

TooBigForMyBoots · 08/08/2025 18:23

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:16

Of Europe. Not the world presumably?

Yes, of Europe.

I'm fortunate to not live in a country at war or a country actively rolling back women's rights. As you would expect femicide in those countries is off the scale.

My point is that Northern Ireland is the femicide capital of Europe. It is the most dangerous place to be a woman in Europe and that is not down to immigrants and immigration.

What point are you trying to make?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 18:22

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:13

Nobody said ‘all person from X country are incapable of acting within the law’.

We have said the average man coming from a deeply misogynistic country is more likely to be misogynistic.

If they’re not then who is oppressing the women? Can you answer?

I'm afraid that is the argument if you care to read the thread. That men from misogynist cultures (name a country that isn't), will import their behaviour here. You're well aware that sexual assault is illegal, therefore they're incapable of acting within the law.

One in four women will be abused in the UK and one in three will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime. The people abusing women are misogynists. That's who's oppressing women the world over. Check out the Whitehouse, millions voted for a sex offender.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:21

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 08/08/2025 18:18

Did you really type that? I mean sure , they might’ve not been specifically for going to school, but did all the school shootings in America pass you by? Or all the other mass shootings?

Were they part of a government drive to increase school shootings? Were the victims exclusively female? Is the motive for the killing deemed acceptable by the country’s theocracy?

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 08/08/2025 18:18

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Did you really type that? I mean sure , they might’ve not been specifically for going to school, but did all the school shootings in America pass you by? Or all the other mass shootings?

lljkk · 08/08/2025 18:17

oh goody, must be at least 6 hours since the last "We hate men" thread on MN. I was starting to feel deprived...

GrouachMacbeth · 08/08/2025 18:17

One of the comments about the Northern Ireland protests about migrants allegedly raping white girls was that people, mostly men, will protest about migrant men raping, but not about local white men raping. Given womens activism, the all women protests snout the rape of Sarah everard and many many others why do groups like Reclaim the Streets protest about all tapes and murders?

Namitynamename · 08/08/2025 18:17

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I've never met a white American whose shot girls going to school but I don't think it's an unheard of phenomenon...

ilovesooty · 08/08/2025 18:17

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:02

Did the whole queue clap?

Is that sort of comment really necessary?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 18:17

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 18:04

The majority of visas given to non Europeans are for Indian nationals.

I think the key point to that statement is "visas". India also has a well-functioning bureaucracy, so we can have relative confidence that only men with no criminal record are coming here.

So what you’re saying is that just because you come from a misogynist society with high rates of sexual abuse, it doesn't mean that you'll behave like that here.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:16

TooBigForMyBoots · 08/08/2025 18:15

I live in the femicide capital of Europe. Its not this way because of immigrants.Sad

Of Europe. Not the world presumably?

TooBigForMyBoots · 08/08/2025 18:15

I live in the femicide capital of Europe. Its not this way because of immigrants.Sad

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:13

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 18:11

That's not the argument. The argument is that men brought up in misogynist cultures will bring their misogyny to the UK and are incapable of acting within the law. They will sexually attack and harass women because that's their 'culture'.

Nobody said ‘all person from X country are incapable of acting within the law’.

We have said the average man coming from a deeply misogynistic country is more likely to be misogynistic.

If they’re not then who is oppressing the women? Can you answer?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 18:11

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 17:57

Because we vet Indians arriving here?

That's not the argument. The argument is that men brought up in misogynist cultures will bring their misogyny to the UK and are incapable of acting within the law. They will sexually attack and harass women because that's their 'culture'.

wizzywig · 08/08/2025 18:11

Domestic abuse victim characteristics, England and Wales - Office for National Statistics https://share.google/qaIOdQqDQxQlNhIRt is a link that gives some stats

Quantitative analysis of domestic homicide reviews: October 2022 to September 2023 (accessible) - GOV.UK https://share.google/dt3Z1TdghbRqfKEfE

Search DHRs: Search the Domestic Homicide Review Library – GOV.UK https://share.google/HE0Wf1ewACSKxibwY here you can filter victim and perpetrator by characteristics

Quantitative analysis of domestic homicide reviews: October 2022 to September 2023 (accessible)

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/key-findings-from-analysis-of-domestic-homicide-reviews/quantitative-analysis-of-domestic-homicide-reviews-october-2022-to-september-2023-accessible

Yabberwok · 08/08/2025 18:08

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EasternStandard · 08/08/2025 18:07

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 18:04

The majority of visas given to non Europeans are for Indian nationals.

I think the key point to that statement is "visas". India also has a well-functioning bureaucracy, so we can have relative confidence that only men with no criminal record are coming here.

Yes if there’s a visa and a state to ask we can check and vet.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:07

User32459 · 08/08/2025 18:06

They're applying legally, and can be vetted before arriving on our shores, they aren't turning up in boats.

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It’s almost like it isn’t a ‘brown people’ thing after all isn’t it!

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:06

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 18:04

The majority of visas given to non Europeans are for Indian nationals.

I think the key point to that statement is "visas". India also has a well-functioning bureaucracy, so we can have relative confidence that only men with no criminal record are coming here.

Absolutely, the Taliban do not prosecute sex crime let alone keep diligent criminal records for the sake of vetting. There’s absolutely no way of knowing whether a small boat illegal immigrant has committed sex crime previously or not, or any crime for that matter. It’s very ‘let’s see what he does’, with tragic consequences for many.

User32459 · 08/08/2025 18:06

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 18:04

The majority of visas given to non Europeans are for Indian nationals.

I think the key point to that statement is "visas". India also has a well-functioning bureaucracy, so we can have relative confidence that only men with no criminal record are coming here.

They're applying legally, and can be vetted before arriving on our shores, they aren't turning up in boats.

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 18:04

The majority of visas given to non Europeans are for Indian nationals.

I think the key point to that statement is "visas". India also has a well-functioning bureaucracy, so we can have relative confidence that only men with no criminal record are coming here.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 08/08/2025 18:03

Namitynamename · 08/08/2025 17:53

Agree!

Unfortunately a small percentage of men are child abusers for example. Even more unfortunately the proportion of men (and women) who would turn a blind eye to child abuse in the right circumstances is much higher. The circumstances thing is complicated. It's not just to do with different cultural values. It's also to do with where the victim is perceived to be in the "in group" compared to the perpetrator. That's potentially why it was easier for the grooming gangs to abuse children for so long - the children were an out group to the South Asian men (race) and an out group to police etc (class). You need to be able to talk about that. But saying its a problem with foreign culture alone is completely counterproductive. Women and men from all cultures can be succeptible to the same behaviour patterns. See the film Whistleblower for example.

When the grooming gangs case came out I think some people were using the "it's terrible Asians" to push the problem further away from them. If it was just South Asian culture the white social workers, police etc would have stopped it sooner. I said a while back I thought the police seemed to be using "we were scared of being called racists" as an excuse.for deeper complicity. I stand by that... And that's the risk of only focussing on the racism angle.

But lots of people think "I would totally deck any kiddy fiddler" imagining how angry they would be if someone hurt their sister. But if it was their good friend/colleague/army buddy telling a funny story about the time they had sex with a prostitute in Belize/Kenya they wouldn't be worrying about if she was underage/trafficked. But you can rewrite that tendancy with self awareness.

All this . “We were scared of being called racist” sounds a lot better than corruption, sexism, classism and an institutional lack of care.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:02

Serpentstooth · 08/08/2025 18:00

One of my neighbours sought my opinion on Reform yesterday. Most unexpected and unwanted. What do I 'think about 'the boats?'' I think it's vastly exaggerated by Farage. Why? Because migration is all they've got, nothing else. Tell me another policy. Oh, well, good day then.

Did the whole queue clap?

Serpentstooth · 08/08/2025 18:00

One of my neighbours sought my opinion on Reform yesterday. Most unexpected and unwanted. What do I 'think about 'the boats?'' I think it's vastly exaggerated by Farage. Why? Because migration is all they've got, nothing else. Tell me another policy. Oh, well, good day then.

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