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To think women who say “I’m just one of the lads” secretly crave male approval?

207 replies

TheFluentCrow · 08/08/2025 09:31

I always hear women saying this as though it’s a badge of honour. But isn’t it really just about wanting validation from men and distancing themselves from other women?

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Whiningatwine · 08/08/2025 09:45

CruCru · 08/08/2025 09:44

Is this being what my daughter calls a “pick me”?

Yep

Whiningatwine · 08/08/2025 09:45

Yes, I know quite a few. My partner plays a sports where the club is 50:50 male/female. There's a couple of the women who cross all reasonable boundaries with the men and get quite huffy when the wives or girlfriends call them out. Apparently we're uptight and don't understand they're just one of the guys.

CruCru · 08/08/2025 09:44

Is this being what my daughter calls a “pick me”?

Zempy · 08/08/2025 09:43

Yes. I always think “tragic and desperate” if I hear a woman say something like that.

Whynotjustengageyourbrain · 08/08/2025 09:43

Men are much easier to get on with, they are much more easygoing and simple. I have many male and female friends. You're overthinking it.

LouH1981 · 08/08/2025 09:42

I absolutely agree.

Iwasphotoframed · 08/08/2025 09:40

Yes it is.