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To think my landlord is a spiteful dickhead

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3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 09:21

At this point im thinking my landlord is just a spiteful dickhead, I'll go into as much detail as possible here.
Earlier this year I was sent a section 21 notice out of nowhere, I questioned this and the landlord said because of significant damages to the property I have to leave. Now I have evidence that these significant damages are not my fault, I had the environmental health in because I was fed up of living in a shit hole basically, the whole house needs ripping out and fixing including floorboards and external doors according to the local council who did the inspection, the landlord also has to take up an asbestos survey due to damaged ceiling in the hallway.
I have 3 kids I the house, one is additional needs. I was offered a house by a housing association and I accepted, im yet to get the keys but the house was on major repair, I said this to the current landlord who said they were happy to let me wait it out, no repairs have done either by the current landlord as per the council report. They took me to court to evict me even though theyd said I could stay until my house was ready, ive never been behind on rent always paid in full and on time, a week ago the landlord turned up completely unannounced banging on the door I opened the door and I was told I should've moved out by now as the court stated the 25th july, I told them to get a warrant for eviction and come back with bailiffs, as of yet I haven't heard anything from the bailiffs. I emailed expressing that they didnt give any notice and they turned up with keys to let themselves in and since I haven't returned keys or made them aware that ive moved it was completely unacceptable. They stated that they sent a letter, they never did as ive still not recieved this magic letter they apparently sent. Anyway every single day they are emailing me asking for keys to be returned and I keep telling them I will return the keys once I have moved. At this point I just think they are being absolute dickheads. I hopefully should get the keys to the new property today.
Wibu to move and then throw they keys into their office in an envelope and leave without saying a word.

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Housechallenge · 08/08/2025 14:38

ByMerryDeer · 08/08/2025 14:33

I think it’s worth showing respect to people who earn £200k. They pay £80k a year income tax and are likely the people funding the rent on this property in the first place.

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Op has already said she works full time abd pays the rent.

But even if she didn't and tax payers were funding the rent surely they would want to fund less. And socal housing often means less.

Crochetandtea · 08/08/2025 14:38

There is no way to know exactly what has happened because we are only hearing your side of the story .
You should have left the house on the 25th July . It’s not your house and you and the children’s father are responsible for housing your own family. Are you not disappointed that you have failed to give your three children a safe roof over their heads ?

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3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 14:37

ByMerryDeer · 08/08/2025 14:33

I think it’s worth showing respect to people who earn £200k. They pay £80k a year income tax and are likely the people funding the rent on this property in the first place.

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I think your very rude to assume that I claim housing benefit when infact I pay my taxes and I pay my own way

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3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 14:35

For those that have said I.must have "trashed" the house this is just 5 of the hundreds of pictures i have of the current condition of the house, the kitchen is when I was decorating and I asked for the landlord to sort and they just sprayed bleach on it amd told me to let it dry

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ByMerryDeer · 08/08/2025 14:33

JustBiscoff · 08/08/2025 11:24

I’m astounded at some of the replies. Are people truly suggesting that OP should make themselves and their three children homeless, to convenience a landlord who has seemingly neglected the property?

The AIBU forum can be truly heartless, but this honestly takes the piss. How many of those responses are from people on ridiculous £200k + salaries, living comfortably in their 5+ bed detached houses, I wonder?

OP is rightly putting her family’s safety first. If they have no other accommodation to move in before the new house is ready, I’m not sure what alternative they gave.

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I think it’s worth showing respect to people who earn £200k. They pay £80k a year income tax and are likely the people funding the rent on this property in the first place.

Housechallenge · 08/08/2025 14:24

ChocolateCinderToffee · 08/08/2025 13:56

He's a private landlord. He's complying with the law. However tough you may find it, he isn't responsible for finding you a new home.

Where does op say the landlord need to find her a home?

Complying with the law means going through the legal steps of eviction not harassing the tenant. Oh and the house to be in a liveable condition. So it seems hes not Complying by the law.

BrendaSmall · 08/08/2025 14:22

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 08/08/2025 10:51

this is the reason so many landlords are selling up. Staying for bailiffs is absolutely unreasonable,

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Yes and they would never get another property if they’ve had bailiffs involved before

Peach27 · 08/08/2025 14:13

I really don’t understand the vitriol you’ve been getting! If you leave before the bailiffs the council will deem as intentionally making yourself homeless and not help. You’ve had to live in appalling conditions due to the neglect of the landlord who is a proper slum landlord. You’re doing the right thing and I really do hope this new property is a brilliant new start for you and your children

Peach27 · 08/08/2025 14:12

I really don’t understand the vitriol you’ve been getting! If you leave before the bailiffs the council will deem as intentionally making yourself homeless and not help. You’ve had to live in appalling conditions due to the neglect of the landlord who is a proper slum landlord. You’re doing the right thing and I really do hope this new property is a brilliant new start for you and your children

LakieLady · 08/08/2025 14:10

Livpool · 08/08/2025 11:29

She doesn’t have anywhere else to go…

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And all the councils round my way tell people not to move until bailiffs have an eviction warrant and not before the date the bailiffs say they will do it.

At least two of them tell tenants that if they leave before that date, they could be deemed intentionally homeless and lose their right to be rehoused, although I've never known them actually do that.

Frequency · 08/08/2025 14:09

Do people understand how it works when the bailiffs turn up?

They don't rock up with a moving van, after a week's notice and help you move your shit. They turn up unannounced, usually early in the morning, and give you an hour or less to gather only what you need for a few days. The rest of your stuff is then locked in the house, and the locks are changed, and the LL is given the keys back. The former tenant then has to arrange storage and removal of their belongings, which is exorbitantly expensive.

Why on earth would anyone willingly subject themselves to that?

OP is doing the only thing she can do. If the LL could not afford to instruct bailiffs, he should have thought about that before letting out his shitty property. OP is the one following the law.

HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 13:58

@Bluebellwood129 I do actually but thanks for the suggestion, maybe you should try something constructive too rather than defending greedy, lazy, good for nothing landlords in you spare time?

Unless you are one? Oink oink.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 08/08/2025 13:56

He's a private landlord. He's complying with the law. However tough you may find it, he isn't responsible for finding you a new home.

Bluebellwood129 · 08/08/2025 13:52

HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 13:49

@Bluebellwood129 there are plenty of "legal" things that exist - doesn't mean they should exist.

Landlords should not exist because housing should not be for profit. Housing should be a guaranteed right for everyone.

Landlords are greedy and morally bankrupt.

Well there's a suggestion - instead of all the whingeing and frothing on here, why not go and do something useful like campaign for change. In the meantime, those that have spare bedrooms can offer them for free to those that want to leave private rentals.

HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 13:49

@Bluebellwood129 there are plenty of "legal" things that exist - doesn't mean they should exist.

Landlords should not exist because housing should not be for profit. Housing should be a guaranteed right for everyone.

Landlords are greedy and morally bankrupt.

SoSoLong · 08/08/2025 13:49

3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 13:09

I mean as I said i told them the house was under major repair and the estimated date was the middle of july for completion they said that's fine, they took it to court at the end of june knowing that I couldn't leave ive always told them if there's a issue with the other property being ready, i told them it was delayed and now im being constantly asked on a daily basis for the keys to be returned

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They took you to court as a precaution, since they couldn't be sure you would be out by mid-July. And they were right, it's August now and you're still there. I appreciate you're in an impossible situation and I understand why you won't vacate the property, but I also understand why the landlord wants you out by the date ordered by the court, and that doesn't make them a spiteful dickhead.

ForeverPombear · 08/08/2025 13:48

Bluebellwood129 · 08/08/2025 13:46

It's a business - get a grip. Landlords that are complying with all legal requirements are providing a service.

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Well this one obviously hasn't with all the issues there are

Flora73 · 08/08/2025 13:47

Swiftie1878 · 08/08/2025 11:08

You’ve trashed his house and won’t move out (despite a court order to do so), but HE’S the spiteful dickhead? I don’t think so.

Give it a rest!! How did the OP suggest she had trashed it? The landlord is at fault here for expecting her to live in a shithole and taking the money for it.

@Lavender14 You will get lots of these posts on here. Talking about landlords and renting is a devisive topic.

messybutfun · 08/08/2025 13:47

Courts don’t normally grant an eviction order if a house is in such disrepair that even the council has issued a notice to the landlord.

Bluebellwood129 · 08/08/2025 13:46

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It's a business - get a grip. Landlords that are complying with all legal requirements are providing a service.

HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 13:45

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The landlord is not a charity next you will be saying they should be able to live their rent free and for 50 without the landlord selling if not the landlord is every name under the sun

TheCurious0range · 08/08/2025 13:40

Regardless of the condition of the property you are leaving because the HA has provided you with something, it's not the landlord's responsibility to contribute to house you because they are running over. What if he had new tenants waiting to move in? What if he wants to sell and get rid of the place? You've lived there a long time if it was that bad move.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 08/08/2025 13:40

Outside9 · 08/08/2025 13:25

YABU.

You're complaining about conditions of the property, while making your exit difficult.

Cognitive dissonance.

Not cognitive dissonance, a rock and a hard place for both her and the landlord.

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