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To think my landlord is a spiteful dickhead

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3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 09:21

At this point im thinking my landlord is just a spiteful dickhead, I'll go into as much detail as possible here.
Earlier this year I was sent a section 21 notice out of nowhere, I questioned this and the landlord said because of significant damages to the property I have to leave. Now I have evidence that these significant damages are not my fault, I had the environmental health in because I was fed up of living in a shit hole basically, the whole house needs ripping out and fixing including floorboards and external doors according to the local council who did the inspection, the landlord also has to take up an asbestos survey due to damaged ceiling in the hallway.
I have 3 kids I the house, one is additional needs. I was offered a house by a housing association and I accepted, im yet to get the keys but the house was on major repair, I said this to the current landlord who said they were happy to let me wait it out, no repairs have done either by the current landlord as per the council report. They took me to court to evict me even though theyd said I could stay until my house was ready, ive never been behind on rent always paid in full and on time, a week ago the landlord turned up completely unannounced banging on the door I opened the door and I was told I should've moved out by now as the court stated the 25th july, I told them to get a warrant for eviction and come back with bailiffs, as of yet I haven't heard anything from the bailiffs. I emailed expressing that they didnt give any notice and they turned up with keys to let themselves in and since I haven't returned keys or made them aware that ive moved it was completely unacceptable. They stated that they sent a letter, they never did as ive still not recieved this magic letter they apparently sent. Anyway every single day they are emailing me asking for keys to be returned and I keep telling them I will return the keys once I have moved. At this point I just think they are being absolute dickheads. I hopefully should get the keys to the new property today.
Wibu to move and then throw they keys into their office in an envelope and leave without saying a word.

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Housechallenge · 08/08/2025 15:36

ARichtGoodDram · 08/08/2025 15:27

Actually, she will have been told by the court that if she hadn't left by that date then bailiffs would be appointed. Not quite the same thing.

Every landlord should budget (in time and finances) for needing the full legal process for ending a tenancy - which this is - as standard.

It's been standard for at least the last decade that people going into social housing had to go through the full legal tenancy ending process so any landlord not aware of it or expecting it only has themselves to blame.

Every decent landlord I know basically expects to have to go through that process and it's a bonus if they leave earlier than they legally have to. It's something I've budgeted for with every tenant I've had.

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100% both my landlords knew I had to do this . It was just seen as part and parcel.

ARichtGoodDram · 08/08/2025 15:27

Skybluepinky · 08/08/2025 15:00

You were told by court to move out but are still there there is a dickhead and it’s not your landlord.

Actually, she will have been told by the court that if she hadn't left by that date then bailiffs would be appointed. Not quite the same thing.

Every landlord should budget (in time and finances) for needing the full legal process for ending a tenancy - which this is - as standard.

It's been standard for at least the last decade that people going into social housing had to go through the full legal tenancy ending process so any landlord not aware of it or expecting it only has themselves to blame.

Every decent landlord I know basically expects to have to go through that process and it's a bonus if they leave earlier than they legally have to. It's something I've budgeted for with every tenant I've had.

Horserider5678 · 08/08/2025 15:23

Wowthatwasabigstep · 08/08/2025 11:00

It will be so much easier for the landlord to do the repairs when you and your children are not there so I completely understand why they are not doing any whilst you are still living there.

It is the landlords property and they probably have a mortgage to service every month, refurbishment costs, legislation to comply with and then tax on the eventual income left over.

You have an alternative place to go to, why not focus your energies on chasing the housing association and getting into the new place as quickly as possible rather than antagonising your old landlord.

It’s not OP’s problem regarding the any mortgage he may have! She was advised to stay put by the council until her new property was ready and is not behind on her rent! Landlord should have contingency funds rather than rely on rent to pay his mortgage (no one knows if he has one). Judging by the photos he’s looks like your typical slum landlord!

LakieLady · 08/08/2025 15:21

Crochetandtea · 08/08/2025 14:38

There is no way to know exactly what has happened because we are only hearing your side of the story .
You should have left the house on the 25th July . It’s not your house and you and the children’s father are responsible for housing your own family. Are you not disappointed that you have failed to give your three children a safe roof over their heads ?

And you where do you suggest they should have moved to?

The OP is following the advice that any housing adviser or homelessness prevention worker would have given.

ByMerryDeer · 08/08/2025 15:02

Skybluepinky · 08/08/2025 15:00

You were told by court to move out but are still there there is a dickhead and it’s not your landlord.

Yes it’s straight forward, Why even stay so long in the first place when it’s a dump anyway

Theyreeatingthedogs · 08/08/2025 15:01

I'm an ex landlord and I think the landlord is in the wrong not the OP. The house has not been properly maintained. The landlord has been harassing the tenant which is a criminal offence. The proper procedure to rvict is for the Landlord to instruct bailiffs to rvict the tenant as per the court order. They have not done so. It is idiot landlords like this that give landlords a bad name.

Skybluepinky · 08/08/2025 15:00

You were told by court to move out but are still there there is a dickhead and it’s not your landlord.

AnonymousBleep · 08/08/2025 14:59

3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 14:44

I haven't failed, my kids dad although is a.very good dad doesnt live with us our relationship broke down when the youngest was just 2 weeks old, we both moved out of the house we shared and he lives now in a 1 bedroom place and visits the kids every single day after work without fail, there's never any excuses from him and we actually get on alot better now than we did back then. Unfortunately due to him having his own rent to pay and bills hes not in a position to help fund a new property but if he could he would without a doubt.

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You don't need to dignify bitchy posts attacking you for 'failing' as a parent with any kind of response. The state of your house is disgraceful and your landlord is the one in the wrong, not you. MN currently seems to be chock-full of of spiteful twats who love nothing more than tearing people down.

AnonymousBleep · 08/08/2025 14:56

JustBiscoff · 08/08/2025 11:24

I’m astounded at some of the replies. Are people truly suggesting that OP should make themselves and their three children homeless, to convenience a landlord who has seemingly neglected the property?

The AIBU forum can be truly heartless, but this honestly takes the piss. How many of those responses are from people on ridiculous £200k + salaries, living comfortably in their 5+ bed detached houses, I wonder?

OP is rightly putting her family’s safety first. If they have no other accommodation to move in before the new house is ready, I’m not sure what alternative they gave.

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Sounds like they're earning those salaries through being slum landlords!

Frequency · 08/08/2025 14:52

Looking at those photos OP has posted, he's not trying very hard to run his business, is he?

It looks to me like he's just sitting back and watching the money roll in from OP while letting his "business," aka OP's home, fall into ruin.

HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 14:52

Some right nasty people on MN these days.

OP you are doing the right thing stayiing - as advised by experts

Ignore all the landlords throwing temper tantrums.

TwilightSkies · 08/08/2025 14:50

Occupying something that isn’t yours and waiting for bailiffs. Dregs of society. I’m guessing you’re on benefits too as you’re unable to support yourself or the children you decided to have that you couldn’t afford.

How is the landlord not a dreg of society? And people on here are actually on his side 😂 it’s laughable. Oh poor him, he’s trying to run a business and pay a mortgage 🙄
And what’s wrong with being on benefits?

BunnyRuddington · 08/08/2025 14:49

ARichtGoodDram · 08/08/2025 10:56

Staying for bailiffs absolutely isn't unreasonable.

Anyone who has been a landlord in the last 10 years (I am one) is, or should be, well aware of their local authorities policy on housing people evicted from private renting. Going through the full legal eviction process with tenants is something landlords should be prepared for as it's a necessity for many tenants.

And in the OP's case if the landlord hadn't been one of the scum slum landlords she wouldn't have needed to be rehoused after the environmental health visit anyway as they'd have done proper repairs!

The more of the shit landlords like the OPs that sell up the better.

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Couldn’t have put it better myself.

Glowingup · 08/08/2025 14:49

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The dregs of society are those who have a property in such a poor state of disrepair and refuse to fix it while expecting the tenant to live in it and pay rent.

HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 14:48

I don't read celeb threads

If someone amasses a wealth through property hording, greed and operating a wholly unethical business - like being a landlord -then they absolutely deserve disrespect as a minimum.

Glowingup · 08/08/2025 14:48

Those photos are shocking. He should be completely ashamed of himself.

Frequency · 08/08/2025 14:47

MN - Social tenants are spongers and should move to private rentals.
Also MN - Private tenants are scum if they expect a LL to follow the law and should move to social housing.

TwilightSkies · 08/08/2025 14:47

Fuck the landlord. He’s an irresponsible parasite. He should never have been allowed to rent out a property that was in such a state of disrepair.
The people on here blaming you are probably landlords themselves (but I’m sure they’re all the ‘good’ landlords 🙄).
No way in hell should you move before your new home is ready.
I hope you get sorted.

KittyPup · 08/08/2025 14:45

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ByMerryDeer · 08/08/2025 14:44

HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 14:41

@ByMerryDeer are you being serious - someone who makes £200k a year is no more worthy of respect than any other human.

That might be the most mental thing I have ever read on here.

Neither are they more worthy of disrespect. Is that really the most mental thing you’ve read on here ? Have you not seen the posts on Sydney Sweeney?

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3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 14:44

Crochetandtea · 08/08/2025 14:38

There is no way to know exactly what has happened because we are only hearing your side of the story .
You should have left the house on the 25th July . It’s not your house and you and the children’s father are responsible for housing your own family. Are you not disappointed that you have failed to give your three children a safe roof over their heads ?

I haven't failed, my kids dad although is a.very good dad doesnt live with us our relationship broke down when the youngest was just 2 weeks old, we both moved out of the house we shared and he lives now in a 1 bedroom place and visits the kids every single day after work without fail, there's never any excuses from him and we actually get on alot better now than we did back then. Unfortunately due to him having his own rent to pay and bills hes not in a position to help fund a new property but if he could he would without a doubt.

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HairsprayBabe · 08/08/2025 14:41

@ByMerryDeer are you being serious - someone who makes £200k a year is no more worthy of respect than any other human.

That might be the most mental thing I have ever read on here.

ByMerryDeer · 08/08/2025 14:41

3kiddosandme · 08/08/2025 14:37

I think your very rude to assume that I claim housing benefit when infact I pay my taxes and I pay my own way

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Fair enough, sorry for assuming that,

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 08/08/2025 14:41

Those photos are grim.

4forksache · 08/08/2025 14:39

I’m a LL but I can’t really see how the op can be blamed for all this. Not sure why many are giving her a hard time.

He’s clearly a shit penny pinching LL.

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