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Fragmentedbrain · 07/08/2025 20:32

I anticipate it and I'm saving up but that will be ofc no use if the financial system collapses

Should probably do something else

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Nchangeo · 08/08/2025 12:04

Yes we have started saving.

Annielou67 · 08/08/2025 12:02

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 08/08/2025 11:33

I’m actually a nurse , so it’s ironic that you name nurses as one of those who are less secure propping up the more secure. Am I privileged? I’m older so bought my first house at 20yo straight out of uni when houses were cheap. So that was lucky and I accept that.

I’ve lived a frugal lifestyle all my life. Can’t remember the last time I had a holiday which wasn’t either in a youth hostel or my own (second hand, cheap) caravan. I’ve stayed living in a smaller house when I could have bought a bigger house as I’m not interested in keeping up with the Jones. I drive a ten year old Astra. Hubby drives a 16yo Ford.

I don’t have far to fall due to my choices not because I’m some high paid executive.

My reaction was because the post felt to me ‘ I will be alright regardless of anyone else’ and I’m pointing out that we are in this together, propping up each other. As a nurse any increase in poverty and need is going to directly impact your work and wellbeing and your vocation is absolutely propping up society and servicing a prime need. If there is a decline in living standards, a sharp rise in poverty, hunger, illness and medicine becomes less affordable, the impact on nurses will be extreme and although you have a personal financial safety net now and I assume a pension - is it really that safe?

WillIEverGoOnHoliday · 08/08/2025 11:49

Id suggest you get out and touch grass though.

WillIEverGoOnHoliday · 08/08/2025 11:46

Fragmentedbrain · 07/08/2025 20:32

I anticipate it and I'm saving up but that will be ofc no use if the financial system collapses

Should probably do something else

Im assuming gradual and at some point private health care might be a necessity. Yes I am saving more but im lucky to be in a position to do so.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 08/08/2025 11:44

Cinaferna · 08/08/2025 06:48

This. I think it's appalling that families cannot afford the basics on two salaries now, but it is also true that when I was growing up I remember getting new clothes once when I was about 14. The rest were hand me downs. No car (we walked everywhere - miles everyday. Even if we went on holiday we walked the three miles down to the train station with heavy backpacks on, as small children.) No central heating - ice on the inside of the windows in winter. No telephone. You walked two or three blocks and queued at the phone kiosk. No washing machine or fridge or TV for many years. My dad was a professional. We were considered 'posh and rich' at school. We just didn't have the same level of materialist desire in those days.

Summer holidays were spent playing out, unsupervised, in local countryside or back lanes. If it rained, you read stories in the library or drew pictures or made cut out dolls from old newspapers. If you wanted sweets or money to go swimming you collected empty bottles and returned them to the shop for recycling in exchange for a bit of money.

Same here. It’s harder for younger people, born into a much wealthier society with far more consumption, to get used to a simpler life. That’s not meant as criticism!

Most of the activities DH and I enjoy are low-cost or free. I buy lots of veg in season and cook most days and above all spend time with friends and family.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 08/08/2025 11:33

Annielou67 · 08/08/2025 10:39

I had quite a reaction to your post. You obviously have a life of some privilege to make you feel more secure as this house of cards collapses around you. Your privilege is propped up by those less secure, those to whom financial insecurity is pivotal to their everyday existence. Whether they are shop workers, factory workers, drivers, cleaners, nurses - be assured if we fall, we fall together. Your perception of ‘we’ll be alright if the country goes to shit’ is an illusion. Remember when the house of cards collapses those higher up have further to fall.

I’m actually a nurse , so it’s ironic that you name nurses as one of those who are less secure propping up the more secure. Am I privileged? I’m older so bought my first house at 20yo straight out of uni when houses were cheap. So that was lucky and I accept that.

I’ve lived a frugal lifestyle all my life. Can’t remember the last time I had a holiday which wasn’t either in a youth hostel or my own (second hand, cheap) caravan. I’ve stayed living in a smaller house when I could have bought a bigger house as I’m not interested in keeping up with the Jones. I drive a ten year old Astra. Hubby drives a 16yo Ford.

I don’t have far to fall due to my choices not because I’m some high paid executive.

Katemax82 · 08/08/2025 11:29

HelenaWaiting · 07/08/2025 22:38

I've stockpiled wine.

I couldn't do this as my husband would drink it as soon as I buy it

outerspacepotato · 08/08/2025 11:18

LancashireButterPie · 08/08/2025 10:46

What a random answer!
This sounds like a spy is posting 😄
Ah ha ah ha!! I have a picture of the Madonna with the big boobies.

😎

waitingforpost · 08/08/2025 11:11

I mean you may not remember 2008 but the financial system very nearly collapsed then.

A huge part of the problem is we never recovered from 08 just kept kicking the can down the road.

waitingforpost · 08/08/2025 11:10

The accusations of just not understanding economics or being unwilling to work hard make me cross. There used to be a fairly standard formula for achieving a decent basic standard of living after the war and into the early 2000s. Now housing costs can take half or more of a basic wage, and everyone just shrugs and says "that's the market, get a second or third job if you want to improve your circumstances". And that's maybe fine if you are a single person,

And people question why productivity is so bad free we

Fragmentedbrain · 08/08/2025 11:05

Booboobagins · 08/08/2025 10:49

We've been doing this for 15 years now. Why ask the question now?! We're all experts...!

Yes we need better control of illegal immigration - I do think its simple, by improving formal immigration routes for people who want to work and not permitting applications for assylum from specific countries eg Pakistan, Iran and Afghanistan. I like what China and Iceland have done, I smiled at the Spainish town's position on celebrations it doesn't mean people can't celebrate just they're not going to.
Yes we need better control of the benefits budget - those who can work should work for benefits. Not even getting PIP should get PIP but those who are disabled should not need to reapply so frequently. Also is the level of benefit right?! Surely its better to pay the benefit to NHS so they can employ more MH professionals that people can use versus give people money that they spend on stuff that isnt helping them.
Yes we need to tax the rich proportionately because they can and should contribute more.
But what financial system is going to collapse?! Is that comment tongue in cheeky? If it isnt then you may be bonkers 🤣🤣🤣 keep drinking the damson infused gin. Nothing will collapse we'll borrow more until we wake up and deal with the debt.

BTW licorice in vodka >1week creates a black liquor that you need very little of to get bombed....cheap vodka is just as good!!!

I mean you may not remember 2008 but the financial system very nearly collapsed then. The same could happen now (controls put in place after the credit crunch are eroding already). Or a massive cyber attack. Or a physical attack that destroys our ability to connect digitally to the 1s and 0s we think of as life savings.

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Tealpins · 08/08/2025 11:05

What are you all on about? Turn off the Internet my lovely people. Touch grass. The world is amazing. People are beautiful and kind and funny.

But if you find the distribution of wealth and social issues wrong, join a political party, become a councillor, become an MP, or campaign for what you believe in. Engage in politics. Don't despair! Get stuck in.

Fragmentedbrain · 08/08/2025 11:03

BlueJuniper94 · 08/08/2025 06:16

OH and I discuss this a lot. And wonder if we should move to a different country...we just can't think where

I feel the same urge but the one thing worse than living through societal collapse is living through societal collapse as a foreigner (evidence from ww2 shows Jewish people were significantly more likely to survive if they were in their local area than if they fled and then things got bad in their destination country).

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childofthe607080s · 08/08/2025 11:00

The world changes
it always has
there are good times and bad times

make the most of every time
and don’t worry about what you can’t control
snd don’t talk yourself into a downward spiral

AnotherGreyMorning · 08/08/2025 10:57

Cattenberg · 07/08/2025 22:33

I have an admin job and I'm worried about AI. I can't just retrain as something practical such as an electrician or a phlebotomist - I haven't got the dexterity for it. I'm not sure what to do, or study...

Well, you’re not alone. All sorts of highly trained people will find themselves without work soon.

waitingforpost · 08/08/2025 10:52

I won't die happy that my utilities were up to date.

Fair point!

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 10:49

ManchesterLu · 07/08/2025 20:35

I am kind of anticipating it, as things just keep getting more and more expensive and wages aren't rising to meet the changes.

I find myself not even caring anymore.. which is worse than being worried about it.

This. The downward spiral isn't coming, it's been happening for years. I honestly struggle to care now. If my water gas and electric aren't paid in full, they aren't. I'm no longer willing to work 5 days a week, just to exist. We've had a holiday every year the last three years, I've gone into debt each time for it.

I won't die happy that my utilities were up to date.

Booboobagins · 08/08/2025 10:49

We've been doing this for 15 years now. Why ask the question now?! We're all experts...!

Yes we need better control of illegal immigration - I do think its simple, by improving formal immigration routes for people who want to work and not permitting applications for assylum from specific countries eg Pakistan, Iran and Afghanistan. I like what China and Iceland have done, I smiled at the Spainish town's position on celebrations it doesn't mean people can't celebrate just they're not going to.
Yes we need better control of the benefits budget - those who can work should work for benefits. Not even getting PIP should get PIP but those who are disabled should not need to reapply so frequently. Also is the level of benefit right?! Surely its better to pay the benefit to NHS so they can employ more MH professionals that people can use versus give people money that they spend on stuff that isnt helping them.
Yes we need to tax the rich proportionately because they can and should contribute more.
But what financial system is going to collapse?! Is that comment tongue in cheeky? If it isnt then you may be bonkers 🤣🤣🤣 keep drinking the damson infused gin. Nothing will collapse we'll borrow more until we wake up and deal with the debt.

BTW licorice in vodka >1week creates a black liquor that you need very little of to get bombed....cheap vodka is just as good!!!

LancashireButterPie · 08/08/2025 10:46

outerspacepotato · 07/08/2025 20:37

I have lots of mustard seed so my spiral into the void will at least be spicy.

What a random answer!
This sounds like a spy is posting 😄
Ah ha ah ha!! I have a picture of the Madonna with the big boobies.

HolidayInCambodia25 · 08/08/2025 10:40

I feel like I've been preparing for economic constraints my whole life. I grew up with very little - clothes came in black bin bags after being worn by at least 3-4 other girls. The 1st time I was ever taken to a new clothes shop (primark) I was 10 and it was a strange experience. I had little of anything else until I could buy it for myself.

In adult life I've always spent less than what I earn. I just can't bring myself to do otherwise. It's meant I've probably not done as much as some, I've not gone on overseas holidays though I could have or liked as good as I could. But I'm now mid-40s, single parent, working and always have worked but could cope with living more frugally than I do if I had to.

Annielou67 · 08/08/2025 10:39

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 08/08/2025 10:06

Not really. I mean I'm expecting taxes to rise, cost of living to keep going up, wages not to keep pace. I'm expecting to have to tighten my belt possibly.

But we have no mortgage and we have savings. I'm not expecting the financial system to collapse/my savings disappear.

I earn quite well, my job is as secure as it's possible to be. I can't see AI taking it over, at least not in the next decade. DH's job is less secure but he's due to retire in 3 years time so hopefully he makes that...if not he will just retire early.

As long as we can eat, read books, watch TV, potter in the garden, go for walks I will be happy. I'd still consider that a good quality of life. I'm not fussed about holidays, cars, etc at all.

I'd be more worried if I was younger. I worry for dd. God knows what the job market will be for her when she finishes her Masters in 2 years

I had quite a reaction to your post. You obviously have a life of some privilege to make you feel more secure as this house of cards collapses around you. Your privilege is propped up by those less secure, those to whom financial insecurity is pivotal to their everyday existence. Whether they are shop workers, factory workers, drivers, cleaners, nurses - be assured if we fall, we fall together. Your perception of ‘we’ll be alright if the country goes to shit’ is an illusion. Remember when the house of cards collapses those higher up have further to fall.

Zebedee999 · 08/08/2025 10:29

MidnightPatrol · 07/08/2025 20:36

On what grounds are you assuming this eventuality?

Well the Tories left a £20bn black hole that Rachel filled with a one off tax increase.... only Labour have created a £50bn blackhole in less than a year that now needs more "one off" tax increases. So they lied and will lie again and will keep putting taxes up til we are all impoverished peasants... that seems to be their plan.

RosesAndHellebores · 08/08/2025 10:24

rainingsnoring · 08/08/2025 09:48

None of these people were boomers though, especially not DH's grandma! You and your DH are boomers.
No one is denying the fact that some people in all generations had tough times but the boomers are the generation that lived at the time of greatest economic growth and benefited from it too. This also applies to the younger silent generation, who enjoyed a huge improvement in the quality of their lives as they became adults. I've no idea why so many people are obsessed with holidays when it comes to making comparisons. Forget holidays, buying a home is beyond the means of many young people now.

Wasn't buying a home beyond the means of most people in the 30s/40s/50s? It's quite a modern phenomena to be an owner occupier and the UK is out of step with much of Europe.

TreeDudette · 08/08/2025 10:23

I'm 48 and currently future planning. I earn well now but my DH is currently unemployed and my DD is a home educated (couldn't cope with mainstream but we couldn't get special provision) autistic teen with an uncertain future. Am in the process of buying DD a flat in our village and will let it out until she needs it to cover the small mortgage. Will have paid off the mortgage on her flat by the time I retire. Our house is paid off. I just need to keep my job / current salary for the next 12 years to top up my pension pot. However I can see AI coming for me as well as a slump in my Industry, moving lots of things to low cost countries and the current company I am working for is performing very badly so am very nervous. Hoping DH can go back to work before the end of the year and we can use his salary to pad the savings and pay off DDs flat a bit faster.

frozendaisy · 08/08/2025 10:20

Planning for it for our teens. Basically working longer than we could, parking inheritance, all in hope that it gives the teens some basic options in their 20s.