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Messaged "celeb" crush and now feel like an idiot

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Notascouser1990 · 07/08/2025 18:44

A bit lighthearted. He is a member of a semi- famous indie band. I just replied to his IG story asking about his pet. Nothing at all flirty. I'd had a couple of glasses of wine when I did that. He didn't reply and now I feel like an absolute tit! AIBU to feel like this? He probably gets loads of messages from fans and doesn't really read them so I'm probably BU!

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ijwgdc · 07/08/2025 20:08

Just reminded me of my first day on twitter.. I typed in the name of my favourite football player who had left my team years ago, I messaged him saying 'hello, Are you such a player from years ago?' He replied saying yes and I had no clue what to say so I blocked him!

My favourite comedian now follows me, He followed me for a specific reason, I know it's him running the account because I have met him a few times and he's brought up a few twitter related things that I have posted. If it hadn't been for the specific thing he would never have followed me.

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Notascouser1990 · 07/08/2025 20:08

@333FionaG no, but he looks very similar! Not as famous though.

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GarlicLitre · 07/08/2025 20:07

AnonyMousely · 07/08/2025 19:39

Who was it? I’m nosey.

I send celebrities posts I don’t want to lose because I find it easier than using the save feature.

Confused Do you mean you forward other people's posts to celebrity accounts?

That's ... novel.

333FionaG · 07/08/2025 20:06

Benson Boone?

BauhausOfEliott · 07/08/2025 20:05

Lifestooshort71 · 07/08/2025 19:24

Well.......it was the great Joe Kinnear with a badly broken leg!!!

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Spurs fan here.

OMG, Joe Kinnear!

I don't blame you; he was gorgeous when he was young. When I was a kid in the 80s/90s I used to go to the old training ground in Cheshunt in the school holidays and hang around trying to meet the players!

Splendour45 · 07/08/2025 20:03

Be interested to know who it was...

StrictlySequinsandStiIettos · 07/08/2025 20:00

Wouldn't stress about it.
I accidentally messaged someone on insta but was able to delete it.
I have deliberately and soberly emailed three semi-famous people before and all three did reply.
I wasn't being stalkery (honest guv!)
One was a question on their work as I could not find out from other sources, one was me expressing condolences as they'd had the opposite online and one was a reference to their work, so I guess an 'in-joke.'
I was delighted they replied but I have never communicated on social media as it is public and as others have said, probably get bombarded.
Who's the crush?!
Wink

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Notascouser1990 · 07/08/2025 19:55

@Mirabai oh my god! Poor Michelle! I always thought he was a bit of a sleezeball. Gave off such a nice guy vibe on MOTD but it didn't buy it. He might have changed now that he's older but you know what some celebs are like. Good for you for not going!

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MissAmbrosia · 07/08/2025 19:52

Many years ago I did drunken flirting with a mechanic guy in a hotel near Silverstone. We knew the Williams F1 team were there but beyond Damon Hill I was clueless about it all. This guy was so sweet, we had a laugh and then next morning I saw him in reception, where he gave me a big wink and wished me a lovely day. When I got back to work I was talking to a colleague about the F1 team -e.g me clueless - and it turned out I'd been drunken flirting with Jacques Villeneuve- who was the then bloody World Champion and going out with Danni Minogue at the time. He must have thought I knew who he was and I had no idea. I still cringe about this now.

Lemonadeat8 · 07/08/2025 19:52

They’ll get them constantly from people like you.

Mirabai · 07/08/2025 19:52

When I was 19 after Italia 90 World Cup I had a crush on Gary Lineker (& Stuart Pierce too to be fair).

Driving back from Heathrow airport we drew up into a petrol station forecourt around Hammersmith. To my astonishment, Gary Linker got out of the car in front (he was with another guy). Me and my friend screamed “It’s Gary!!!” with the window open. So he came over to talk to us.

I’d like to tell you he was a complete gentlemen given he was married to Michelle, but he invited us back to his hotel room. Obviously we didn’t go.

So sometimes it’s better to be ignored by your crush - to preserve the illusion.

Zov · 07/08/2025 19:51

islaw3048unfln · 07/08/2025 19:44

He probably won't even see it....he will have lots of messages all the time.

This. ^ I'm not being funny @Notascouser1990 but this celeb will not even have you on his radar. He won't have noticed you/your message amongst the other 100s of messages he's had this week, and he wouldn't know you from Adam.

Don't feel embarrassed. Nothing wrong with a crush. And this man won't even remember getting your message!

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Notascouser1990 · 07/08/2025 19:51

@AnonyMousely I've PM'd you x

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cloudbusting123 · 07/08/2025 19:51

I’ve got a business instagram account and I don’t even check the messages from potential customers on there (awful I know) but I just can’t keep up with it! So I really wouldn’t worry as he probably doesn’t get chance to check them and instagram stories are for engagement anyway!

islaw3048unfln · 07/08/2025 19:44

He probably won't even see it....he will have lots of messages all the time.

Sarah2891 · 07/08/2025 19:41

Don't be embarrassed, you did nothing wrong. These people get tons of messages.

AnonyMousely · 07/08/2025 19:39

Who was it? I’m nosey.

I send celebrities posts I don’t want to lose because I find it easier than using the save feature.

cyvguhb · 07/08/2025 19:39

Notascouser1990 · 07/08/2025 19:34

@Arlanymor nooo nothing cringey- that's not my style. Just said that his pet was beautiful and asked its name (I genuinely do love animals) ☺️

So a perfectly innocuous question, how is asking someone their dogs name embarrassing 😁

Dangermoo · 07/08/2025 19:39

You sent a nice message, not a stalkerish weirdo one.

SunnyPrague · 07/08/2025 19:35

Don’t give it a second thought, honestly.

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Notascouser1990 · 07/08/2025 19:34

@Arlanymor nooo nothing cringey- that's not my style. Just said that his pet was beautiful and asked its name (I genuinely do love animals) ☺️

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3KidsPlusDdog · 07/08/2025 19:30

@Lifestooshort71 How did you get put through? Who did you say you were?

Arlanymor · 07/08/2025 19:30

Ah bless you! No remorse required, unless you made a cringe pun about his pet… along the lines of “I wish you were MY little chihuahua!” And even then it’s just funny!

Damien Lewis liked a comment I made on Facebook a month or two back, I don’t care if it’s his team (and it was in response to a message he had recorded for an event page), I nearly fell off my chair! I’m still beaming now!

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Notascouser1990 · 07/08/2025 19:28

@Lifestooshort71 I just looked him up. He had a lovely head of hair when he was young, much like my crush haha!

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3KidsPlusDdog · 07/08/2025 19:27

@spurschat You should do an AMA!

@Notascouser1990 It’s not as if you chased his tour bus down the street 🤣 He probably gets hundreds of messages responding to his stories.

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