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On holiday and I don’t know if I’m unreasonable!

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SunnyBlueSeal · 07/08/2025 15:01

I’m really hoping for some perspective here. We are currently in Spain with my friends for a holiday. It’s us ( myself, DH and DC 14,16 ) and my friends ( Kate, Neil, DC 14,17) obviously names are changed. Kate was my friend for a few years through the activities. They invited us for a holiday with them. We booked two different villas about 5min walk from each other and right on the beach. Since we got here, Kate and my DH are spending more and more time together. This is our full third day here, and so far today, they met running at 7am and booked a spontaneous paddle boarding for themselves at 10am. We were all on the beach later and went for a lunch. I went back to the villa to get some plasters and they both turned up. My DH said he is changing his top as he and Kate will walk to the town to get a few bits. All of the DC are spending their time on the beach learning windsurfing with the local club so I don’t need DH to help with childcare. Kate’s husband Neil has a work project to do so he spends about 5 hours a day working in their villa. I’m starting to feel like a 3rd wheel to my friend and my DH. I’m getting grumpy when I’m around them and I don’t want to push him away but I don’t know how to get out of this mood. And another thing which got me thinking is at the dinner, Kate asked for a sparkling water and my DH said he wants some too. He never drank fucking sparkling water but when I pulled him on it, he said it’s because I only drink a still water so he did too. So for years you were drinking still water because of me? Have a sparkling water if you want! Something is feeling odd and I can’t put my finger on it

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DwarfBeans · 14/08/2025 14:54

@ChristmaschildcareI think it’s safe to say the shit’s hit the fan and the OP isn’t coming back. If it helps we could imagine what happened next and update the thread on behalf of the OP? 😂

Christmaschildcare · 14/08/2025 08:53

How are you @SunnyBlueSeal

ProudMaker · 11/08/2025 17:59

SunnyBlueSeal · 07/08/2025 19:01

Yeah, that’s what I’m like. I will never do ‘pick me’ and I’m already planning my exit ( out of the marriage and the fucking holiday in Spain ) Not because of Kate. She is a shit friend but I don’t know her on the deep level. He is the inconsiderate one

That's what I did, soon brought him to his senses.

Notsosure1 · 10/08/2025 17:31

I think there must have been a show down or she’s caught them ‘at it’. To spin all this shite ending with shite is just too ridiculous. What a colossal waste of time. Waste being the operative word I guess.

MagpiePi · 10/08/2025 08:36

It seemed like a quite detailed and believable set up and then there was one fleeting post about shitting the bed. I would have thought there would have been more about that incident if it was a poo troll, or is that how they work?

lonelynewname · 10/08/2025 08:01

Yeah, you lost me with the time when you shit the bed.

whackamole666 · 10/08/2025 07:32

Oh pooh, I was hoping for an update...

Oneandahalfonagoodday · 10/08/2025 01:08

I think the only conclusion we can come to is that the poo troll has been hiding in plain sight at MNHQ Towers all this time! 🧐🤣

PumpkinSpicePie · 09/08/2025 18:16

What happened next OP?

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 09/08/2025 17:26

AlertCat · 09/08/2025 14:38

Surprised to see this thread still here tbh.

If the OPs point was the sheet business, it’s done and dusted as far as they’re concerned, is that what these poo t’s do?

Gemmawemma9 · 09/08/2025 16:40

AlertCat · 09/08/2025 14:38

Surprised to see this thread still here tbh.

Me too

MagpiePi · 09/08/2025 16:08

Aww, I was hoping it was real!

AlertCat · 09/08/2025 14:38

Surprised to see this thread still here tbh.

DBSFstupid · 09/08/2025 13:25

RantzNotBantz · 09/08/2025 13:06

Read what they say here about trolls https://www.mumsnet.com/i/netiquette

Basically asking if it is made up is asking / suggesting that they are a troll.

And yes, there are people out there who like to introduce threads about bodily fluids, ‘accidents’ and smacking. And probably other niche fetish topics.

Be cautious, if in doubt, report.

Thanks.

RantzNotBantz · 09/08/2025 13:06

DBSFstupid · 09/08/2025 12:56

Oh blimey, really? I thought I was asking her a direct question to be truthful. Many other posters were beginning to suggest the same thing after the pooh incident and the OP has not come back.
How ridiculous to allow someone to possibly hoodwink us especially the posters that gave their experiences in a heartfelt way and have really invested in this thread.
Thanks for putting me straight @RantzNotBantz

Read what they say here about trolls https://www.mumsnet.com/i/netiquette

Basically asking if it is made up is asking / suggesting that they are a troll.

And yes, there are people out there who like to introduce threads about bodily fluids, ‘accidents’ and smacking. And probably other niche fetish topics.

Be cautious, if in doubt, report.

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DBSFstupid · 09/08/2025 12:56

RantzNotBantz · 09/08/2025 10:47

Because that is troll hunting, which is not allowed.

Oh blimey, really? I thought I was asking her a direct question to be truthful. Many other posters were beginning to suggest the same thing after the pooh incident and the OP has not come back.
How ridiculous to allow someone to possibly hoodwink us especially the posters that gave their experiences in a heartfelt way and have really invested in this thread.
Thanks for putting me straight @RantzNotBantz

Notsosure1 · 09/08/2025 11:31

Ah, I thought they’d check posting history etc

DinaofCloud9 · 09/08/2025 11:21

Notsosure1 · 09/08/2025 11:17

The fact it’s still up implies they’ve had a nosey and it’s legit as the questions started being raised y’day.

Hope OP returns for more support, sounds like she needs it

It doesn't mean it's legit. Mumsnet have no idea. All they can tell is if it's a returning troll on a name change.

Notsosure1 · 09/08/2025 11:17

The fact it’s still up implies they’ve had a nosey and it’s legit as the questions started being raised y’day.

Hope OP returns for more support, sounds like she needs it

RantzNotBantz · 09/08/2025 10:47

DBSFstupid · 09/08/2025 10:36

I asked the OP if this thread was made up and got it removed - no idea why?

Because that is troll hunting, which is not allowed.

DBSFstupid · 09/08/2025 10:36

Notsosure1 · 09/08/2025 09:53

I think if this was fake the powers that be would have removed the thread by now. Presumably loads of ppl will have flagged it to them 🤷🏼‍♀️

I asked the OP if this thread was made up and got it removed - no idea why?

DinaofCloud9 · 09/08/2025 10:19

Notsosure1 · 09/08/2025 09:53

I think if this was fake the powers that be would have removed the thread by now. Presumably loads of ppl will have flagged it to them 🤷🏼‍♀️

They probably like the traffic.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 09/08/2025 10:00

Smilesinthesunshine · 08/08/2025 23:47

I hope OP feels she can can back and update us. So many people were piling on, implying the story was fictional because of the bed sheet incident.
Hope you are okay OP and Kate went overboard rather than you.

The bed sheet incident merely proved it.

Notsosure1 · 09/08/2025 09:53

I think if this was fake the powers that be would have removed the thread by now. Presumably loads of ppl will have flagged it to them 🤷🏼‍♀️

gingercat02 · 09/08/2025 09:46

Either the OPs life has fallen apart and she is no longer amused or it was all bulshido in the first place.