On holiday and I don’t know if I’m unreasonable!

Ride out the rest of your holiday with your head held high. Lay the smack down when you get back.👊

Oh OP! You didn’t go for dinner? That’s so sad. I’d be tempted to hot foot it down there now and see what they’re all getting up to. I imagine Neil will have disappeared to work and friend and DH will be looking like they’re a couple!

Well I have heard of a few occasions where someone’s DH has been shagging another woman downstairs while the wife was in bed asleep. Maybe she thought if she stayed long enough then this may happen. Or maybe she thought she’d just get dressed up in the shortest dress she could possibly find so that she could give op’s DH an eyeful. Unfortunately it didn’t quite turn out as she has planned. You don’t get dressed up to the nines wearing an extremely short dress to go watch movies with the kids.

I'm furious for you OP. You've had some good advice already and you need to tell your H to have some fucking respect for you and your marriage.

Where is Neil in all this, OP? Isn’t he wondering where his wife is? What she’s up to? Why she’s going out all dressed up at 11pm to your apartment? Doesn’t he have a spine?! Is he happy with his wife being like this? I’d be chatting with him if I were you!

That bit is really odd, Kate would have known OP would be there (and all the kids) so why would she do that?

I would be fucking furious if my OH booked an activity with anyone else while we were on holiday as a family without checking whether I wanted to do it as well! Same with the walk into town, he basically is admitting he doesn’t want you to come by not asking - wtf? My OH would never ever do thins and he’s a pretty piss poor partner! He’s obviously enjoying her company and honestly that would be enough for me to lose my shit even if there’s no affair etc. It’s a family holiday and he should want some alone time with you not your mate! She’s no friend for not asking you either, get rid of them both. And I’m sorry if must really hurt.

It sounds like Kate is latching on because her Husband is working and therefore giving your DH a lot of attention. Your "D"H like an idiot is lapping it up and enjoying it hence not spending time.

Either way it's shitty behaviour from them both. Call your H out on it and simply ask why is he acting like a love struck teenager around her and if he wishes to behave that way then it's a case of becoming single first.

Kate would be finding out exactly what I thought about her. It’s not you that would be upsetting your children’s holiday. If you must, tell your husband that if he doesn’t wind things back, you’ll be telling Kate a few things, in front of everyone, including Neil. Go fucking nuclear. Not necessarily because they’re planning on shagging but because of the absolute disrespect of planning it all right under the noses of you and your kids. Arseholes.

I would not be putting up with this, kids there or not.
It would not be you spoiling the holiday it’s your husband and Kate. Do not be a doormat please.

I wonder if Kate is telling Neil that she’s going to all these places/ sports with op or op and her DH. And maybe that’s why Neil seems to be out of the picture and possibly oblivious as to what’s going on. Kate may have even told Neil that op invited her to their villa at night for a drink, unbeknown to him that she’d decided to go there all of her own accord.

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I know this isn’t the point but I’d love to know where you are that you have villas on the beach, hotel facilities and access to watersports and walking distance to shops. It sounds like my ideal holiday apart from the awful DH and Kate situation.
Could you PM me if you don’t want to share?
As for those two, I’d be laying down the law for DH and if he doesn’t get how rude he is then I’d be making exit plans.

You are so not unreasonable

It does sound like a novel.

Sending love. This is like the scenes in White Lotus. I feel so bad for you. Wake up Neil!

Yes, literally just got that far in the thread! I take back what i said!!

I'm not sure if this is of any use too you but the Spanish for whre is puta and zorra is bt ch (pronounced thorror is in horror but with a th).

I knew my Spanish GCSE would come in useful one day!

Am I just too cynical? Because if they’ve not slept together already they will by the end of your trip. This is crazy behaviour and it’s also really obvious, I understand how you don’t and can’t believe it, but it’s right in front of you. You need to speak to him if not go home!.

You shouldn't have to, but glue yourself to your husbands hip or get your most annoying child to 😂.

She is lapping up his attention, that he should be giving you. Most likely feeling ignored by her husband. She should be the one hanging around by herself or with her kids on the beach. What an absolute cheek.

You need to firmly wedge something in the way of this, she is renting your husband free of charge from you.
What an utter bitch!

Why are your kids begging you to be nice to daddy? He's treating you like shit. Surely they can see that's why you're grumpy. I'd be worried your DH and Kate have been telling the kids all sorts about you being moody and ruining their holiday.

Is her husband joining anyone for anything at all?

I mean he could have the 5hrs work done before lunch!

This is terrible. I think you need to ban the woman and her family from seeing your family for the rest of your holiday. Your DH sounds as though he's got his head turned and he will be embarassed when he realises.

Whether you decide to leave your husband or not you still have to SPELL IT OUT TO HIM that this behaviour is disrespectful and unacceptable. The fact that you have to do so is wild. I’m so sorry that you’re having a completely shit holiday.

Sounds to me like an affair has already started or if not then it’s about to. Your husband is a disrespectful twat and Kate is a complete bitch. For your teenage daughter to notice and comment on it is just awful.

Given that you’re obviously not going to talk to Kate again I’d be making sure that you have completely separate holidays for the remaining days and then decide what you want to do when you get home.

The way it’s all been orchestrated makes it sound like it’s being going on a while. When did you damage your ligament and when was the holiday booked?