AIBU to ask if you had your own Mother present when you gave birth?

God, no 😂

My mother was a massive prude (even telling me about periods was clearly torturous for her). I'd cheerfully have shoved my arm in a blender before having her in the delivery room.

Even if you're close to your mother I struggle to imagine why you'd want her there...it's an experience to share with your partner. And to be honest, if DH hadn't wanted to be there I'd happily have done it with just the midwife.

My DH wanted my Mum there as he was worried he wouldn't cope very well.
I had a better relationship with her then than I do now, so was fine with it.

She ended up being a massive disappointment as a DG. It's tarnished our relationship beyond repair.

I didn't want anyone at all, my daughter's father had already left me by then, but in the event I was very ill and had an emergency section and my mother came in with me. Seeing her very frightened by it didn't really help me much but I'm glad she did, because I was so ill I couldn't hold my daughter or any of that.

I love my other and am close to her but I cojkdnt think of anything worse then having my mother present while giving birth. It was just my husband and if it couldn’t have been him, I would have given birth alone as preference

God no. She stayed with me until it was time to push, but I didn't want her there for that any more than she would want to see it. She sat in the waiting room with DS dad (we'd already split up and I wasn't having him in there either)

Same!

Absolutely no way!!
I know a few people who have had their mums there and my close friend had her dad there!
Both times I had my partner there and made a rule that no one was allowed to show up unannounced as I was worried MIL would, luckily she didn't.

I had my mum as my birth partner and she was amazing. My ex husband was useless and drunk
when I went into labour. I would have never have wanted him there anyway. She was the only person I would have wanted with me.

No, I didn't.

It wouldn't have occurred to me to insert my mother into such a personal moment for me and dh.

She was on stand by in case dc1 came early and quickly as dh was working away quite a lot in the last couple of months of my pregnancy, so I wouldn't have to be alone, but that was only if dh couldn't get there in time. Never as well as.

She will be there when I give birth along with my husband. Couldn't imagine her not being. But then again we are very close and she would genuinely be there for me and respect anything I asked.

I had my mother there. She was great. I didn’t want my partner there which seems to be the thing these days.

Yanbu to ask if we would or would not have our mothers at childbirth.
Like you, my mum passed away before I had DC so she could not be there.
If she had lived, I would not have wanted her at the childbirth, but visiting a few weeks later would have been ok.

Not with DC1 who was born in hospital. DC2 was born at home. DM decided to come round during late stages of labour to 'clear up' downstairs. She said she couldn't bear to hear me labouring so came upstairs to watch her second grandson being born. She wasn't invited but I couldn't care less if the whole street had paid tickets to watch at that point!

No, she lives abroad and we're not close. I did have a doula though

I was unsure, but had her there for my first and glad I did. She died suddenly and unexpectedly not long after.

Wow that's amazing, you must be a fabulous Mum if they asked for you to be there.

I would of had my mil at my childrens birth,don't know why that would of been strange?
I had been estranged from my parents and my mil was amazing.
But unfortunately she died just before I found out I was pregnant.

I did not and never even thought of it. I was happy with the midwives and my husban, cannot see how my mum would have added anything. I went into hospital at 04.30 and had my baby at 06.35, would hardly of got her out of bed in the middle of the night. She and my parents in law came along to the hospital in the afternoon to see me and their grandchild so all was well. Both helped me for a while when I came home.

Dear God no. My mother turned up when I was in labour but I turned her away. No idea why she did that, we don’t have that type of relationship. I can only assume some of her friends were at their daughter’s births and she wanted to pretend we were close.

My dm was with me when I had my first dc as I was a single parent.
But not subsequent dc as my exdp was there.

I really wanted my mum there during the Labour with first child but didn’t consider it beforehand. In the end there wasn’t enough time.

Yes. But my DDs biological father wasn't present so I was very grateful to have my mum there, especially as I ended up being in labour for 43 hours with a dramatic emergency C-section at the end of it! She was the first person to hold my DD and they still have a wonderful relationship to this day.

Mine died before my children were born but I hadn’t seen her in the years prior as we had no relationships so obviously would’ve been a firm no! However regardless of that I can’t imagine wanting anyone there other than my partner, couldn’t imagine anything worse than having what I would consider to be spectators 😂

Yes for my first. By total fluke she was visiting as lives 300 miles away, and I was 36 weeks pregnant. I had horrible tummy ache ( now I know contractions) and the labour ward said to pp in, after a few hours she drive over to the hospital with my dad with some bits of food and a magazine and ended up being in room when 15 minutes my daughter was born. My dad came in shortly after once I was covered up!
Didnt plan and wouldn’t have had it any other way