Every year we host Christmas. We live quite far from everyone so it’s a stay for almost everyone, all fine, we have the room. This year a nephew has a new girlfriend, very new, however he seems to think the open invite will include her, I’ve not met her yet and so said to dh ( it’s his sisters son ) that I won’t be asking her to stay as like I said we don’t know her. Dh has passed this onto his sister who is now wanting us all to meet up. Fair enough we will see them all at a family wedding and can meet the girl then. However this morning his sister proceeded to tell me oh yes she lovely and her children are so lovely too. I’m like wtf, 3 kids that she seems to think will simply slot in over Xmas and be no trouble. I’ve made it very clear there’s no room for an extra 3. She’s just texted dh asking if we will put towards an Airbnb for them. I’ve told him absolutely not, this is not our responsibility and nephew is 27 with a bloody job. Sister in law is now having a strop and bleating to all about how she can’t come without her son. I’ve said fine don’t come, dh ( idiot ) is now feeling guilty. Please tell me I’m not wrong on this one.