To book holiday without friend

The issue is the OP is a huge snob and assuming that her poor mate who only pisses about doing hobby jobs and scrapes by on £50k a year won’t be able to afford to come and so rather than just ask her and let her make a decision, she is considering organising a trip with the rich friends and not telling her.

Hobby job at only 45/50k. You sound out of touch and quite awful.

I WISH I earned £50k a year. That would be amazing.

Maybe because the OP belittled her friends 50k a year salary. Stuck up snob. Particularly as so many people in the UK are are struggling to feed themselves or heat their homes. Honestly - I've been on holidays where I have had fantastic weather and a great holiday both abroad and in the UK really cheaply. People don't need to spend 3k in 4 days to have a good time. That's a side issue. It's the fact they couldn't be bothered to tell their friend they were going on holiday without her because she's too "poor"

Some people enjoy luxurious holidays, what's the problem with that? Her friend doesn't have to join every holiday, some she will be able to afford and some she won't. I really don't see the issue here and why either side should have to be in a position where they resent the other.

No concierge service! Stuck up is the only words coming to mind! Ffs
Youre not a good 'friend' am surprised you even consider yourself that, Jesus!🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Relax, it’s only mumsnet.

But fair enough 😊

You're getting on my every last nerve. I won't be responding to you again.

So then they accommodated her last year when she vetoed their preferences. Why shouldn’t they have the type of holiday they want this year?

Nowhere in the original post does it say that they've constantly been accommodating this friend. They said it was one holiday last year

I don't really care what she does or doesn't need to take into account. I'm not the only person who thinks 3 grand for a 4 night holiday is completely ridiculous - maybe go and quote everything they say

It doesn't really matter which option you go with.

"Or book without her knowledge and hope she doesn’t find out about it?"
Hope she doesn't find out? Who needs enemies with friends like you, huh?

Clearly, friend 4 is far too poor to be part of your group so why don't you do her a favour and cut her loose so she can find nicer friends?

Let me guess, it’s an overnighter 😂

Oh please. As if it isn’t entitled to think your friends shouldn’t be able to go and enjoy a holiday because you can’t afford it.

Op and her friends been very inclusive of her by going on holidays they wouldn’t have chosen for themselves. They want one holiday according to their preferences, which is hardly outrageous.

Haha, yes teacher here too, looking forward to getting back to my “hobby job” after the holidays. 🤣

Just as you don’t need to take into account your reality if you post about having a dilemma, she doesn’t need to take into account yours.

This type of holiday isn’t expensive for OP, or something she would struggle affording. In fact, it may be very reasonably priced for the level of service she would be getting. She doesn’t have to call it expensive because you do.

Not a hobby job but it’s not like we do actually do anything important.

We only work 9-3, have 13 weeks holiday a year and all we do is finger painting and let the children play in the sand / water.

And we’re quite happy to spend our own wages on resources and give up weekend and evening time for free for the love of the job. 🤪

I haven't got past the OPs first few updates, but this has to be one of the most entitled threads on here.

OMG OP, your friend needs nicer friends.

I have a lovely friend who likes to do things that I can't really afford. We have a compromise, she generally pays for the accommodation and any tickets etc, and I pay for our meals and alcohol bill. She is happy she has company she likes and I am happy to be contributing in a way I can afford

It's not hard to sort it out between you in a non-judgy way.

It’s down to priorities really. I can stay in swishy expensive places but a lot of my friends can’t. I prefer their company and value their friendships more than I want luxury. You obviously don’t value your friend, which is sad for her.

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This post can't be for real.....

• A friend 'only' earns 50k... disrespectful & elitist.
• A successful career is not only based on earnings.
• An end of year 'blow off' ...... 4 night break costing £3,000!

Show your 'friend' your posts & I'm sure she will make up her own mind about whether she wants to see you again let alone pay 3 grand to join you on a 4 night break.

I'm out of touch with her reality because I don't earn 100k plus a year - that doesn't mean a four night break for 3k isn't expensive.

Well there you go - it’s relative.

OP may be out of touch with your reality, but then you’re out of touch with OP’s. Hers may not be one widely shared, but it doesn’t need to be in order to constitute reality.

Ok. That's fine. But what you think isn't what it objectively is it

I think it is