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To think that quiet quitting without looking for something better is just an attitude problem?

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ThatJadeSwan · 06/08/2025 21:44

I get why people disengage from toxic workplaces but if you’re quiet quitting and not even trying to find a better role, then what’s the point? At that stage, it’s less about setting boundaries and more about settling for misery.

Isn't it just self-sabotage to stay in a job you hate without making moves to leave? Or do some people genuinely believe this is a long-term solution?

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Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 13:48

in terms of working to what your paid etc why is there an issue around the eg 9am start, because your only paid when you clock in etc

yes i prefer early so its cuppa then set up equipment etc

but if your working to what your paid etc

Katieweasel · 08/08/2025 13:34

I was regularly working 50-60 hour weeks, never took a lunch break, cancelled holidays to complete projects and really neglected my family. My wake up call was when I was blamed for an error on a piece of work I never even looked at. When I highlighted this I was reprimanded by my manager, whose mistake it was, for not being a team player. I now work 8 to 4. Always take my full half hour lunch, buy an additional 5 days annual leave every year and enjoy every single one of them. I do a fantastic job and give 100% for every one of my 37.5 hours but at 4pm my laptop closes and I go home.

Crushed23 · 08/08/2025 13:17

DetectiveDouche · 08/08/2025 11:40

Why is doing your job and taking your leave even referred to as "quiet quitting"?? That's ridiculous. It's not any kind of quitting. It's doing exactly what you're employed to do. Annual leave is there to be taken otherwise why would it be granted?

I’m quite surprised by this definition of quiet quitting too. It’s not how I understood it, but I see I’m in the minority on this thread. Using the term in this way suggests that working past your contractual hours and going above and beyond in your job is the norm, or should be. Which is ridiculous.

DetectiveDouche · 08/08/2025 11:40

Why is doing your job and taking your leave even referred to as "quiet quitting"?? That's ridiculous. It's not any kind of quitting. It's doing exactly what you're employed to do. Annual leave is there to be taken otherwise why would it be granted?

Lifeofthepartay · 07/08/2025 21:07

We live in times where big companies would rather pay big bonuses to the people at the top, if they cut running costs, even if it means cutting half the people at the bottom, the ones that are really holding the fort, and leave the other half stressed out of their minds doing double the work....why would anyone try and go above and beyond when the CEOs and CFOs are getting paid hundreds of sometimes thousand times what regular employees get paid? No thanks. I'll do my job and clock out and forget about work. If I do one extra minute today I'll take it off tomorrow. I have no interest in climbing the ladder either to get taxed to death...

SteveT66 · 07/08/2025 19:35

A bit of a long story but back in the very late 80's I worked for a company in West London that was taken over by a company in King's Lynn. After a year or so, they decided to close the London operation and move production to Norfolk; I was one of two of the London staff who were relocated, everyone else lost their jobs. The problem was that they didn't understand our market and after banging heads with the MD several times he said "If you don't like it, you can quit", fine I replied, write me a cheque and I'll go today, which he did. I drove home thinking "holy fudge, what have I done, I've got a mortgage to pay and no job". As I walked through my front door the phone was ringing, it was a recruitment consultant looking for a quality manager for an IT company in West London; I stayed at that company for 8 years. As one door closes another one opens, follow your gut feeling on this one.

HereAreYourOptions · 07/08/2025 19:33

JustFrustrated · 07/08/2025 09:28

That's what I took it to mean.
And I'll never agree with doing the bare minimum to get by, whilst taking the same wage as your colleagues but leaving them more to do.

Whether my colleagues choose to do more is totally up to them and nothing to do with me. I am fed up with the whole ‘you are letting the team down’ that some managers or companies use to pressure you into doing work or hours that you don’t want or have to do.

Bambamhoohoo · 07/08/2025 18:59

I really don’t think that most people are talking about just doing their job with no extras when they talk about quiet quitting. That’s a fairly normal phenomenon quiet quitting is doing the minimum to avoid performance management.

Working overtime isn’t even a given for people to take away.

JustFrustrated · 07/08/2025 18:54

Toomanywaterbottles · 07/08/2025 18:33

But I am saying that quiet quitting means they do the job to the required standard, they just don’t go above and beyond.

Then you missed me, and others, saying we understood it to be different.

If someone wants to go to work, and work to the explicit rule of their job descriptions (mind mine always say "and duties as deemed fit") and do the bare minimum, and stick to their hours, that is their absolute right.

Toomanywaterbottles · 07/08/2025 18:33

JustFrustrated · 07/08/2025 17:25

If a department, say a FOH reception team, is adequately resourced, in terms of people power Vs jobs to be done, and one person decides that actually they're not going to do their quota due to "quiet quitting" that clearly then leaves their direct colleagues under more pressure. That's simple. And not okay.

But I am saying that quiet quitting means they do the job to the required standard, they just don’t go above and beyond.

wizzywig · 07/08/2025 18:22

Thing is, us oldies will die off and the new generations attitude of working until it suits them and just doing your job will become the new norm. Thank God. Going above and beyond does 0 for the person.

JustFrustrated · 07/08/2025 17:25

Toomanywaterbottles · 07/08/2025 16:48

Why would colleagues have more to do? That’s on the managerial staff to plan for, not colleagues.

If a department, say a FOH reception team, is adequately resourced, in terms of people power Vs jobs to be done, and one person decides that actually they're not going to do their quota due to "quiet quitting" that clearly then leaves their direct colleagues under more pressure. That's simple. And not okay.

JustFrustrated · 07/08/2025 17:24

Toomanywaterbottles · 07/08/2025 16:46

Depending on what you mean exactly, I am quiet quitting. I work hard and I work my contracted hours. But I do not do overtime or aim for promotion. I do not come up with new plans for this or that. I do not bitch to other staff members or complain. I put up with whatever corporate bullshit I have to do and quietly do whatever is required. But I no longer stress about work. If I can’t fit something in, I say so. I have no intention of getting another job.

Id say that is firmly just doing your job tbh, which is absolutely the right thing to do

Toomanywaterbottles · 07/08/2025 16:48

JustFrustrated · 07/08/2025 09:28

That's what I took it to mean.
And I'll never agree with doing the bare minimum to get by, whilst taking the same wage as your colleagues but leaving them more to do.

Why would colleagues have more to do? That’s on the managerial staff to plan for, not colleagues.

Toomanywaterbottles · 07/08/2025 16:46

Depending on what you mean exactly, I am quiet quitting. I work hard and I work my contracted hours. But I do not do overtime or aim for promotion. I do not come up with new plans for this or that. I do not bitch to other staff members or complain. I put up with whatever corporate bullshit I have to do and quietly do whatever is required. But I no longer stress about work. If I can’t fit something in, I say so. I have no intention of getting another job.

Crushed23 · 07/08/2025 15:22

Bambamhoohoo · 07/08/2025 14:04

But even so, we all know that being that person might not get you sacked, but it’ll have you marked as first out when the restructures and redundancies come. Maybe as you say, these are people who earn so little they don’t have serious commitments yet.

I’m not agreeing with this approach, I’m just explaining that it still exists and wasn’t a temporary situation immediately after Covid when companies were struggling to hire. A Gen Z worker still living at home can afford to be at risk of redundancy, and therefore can afford to ‘quiet quit’. There was a thread not long ago of a young lady who quit a job 3 weeks in with nothing to go to because she didn’t like the workplace… after only 3 weeks. She lived at home and didn’t pay rent (like so many young people) so she could afford to not be resilient / stick something out for longer. If I had done that at her age I would have been homeless. There’s just more opportunity to quiet quit in the first place these days.

Bambamhoohoo · 07/08/2025 14:04

Crushed23 · 07/08/2025 13:27

Really? You hear it all the time on TikTok and YouTube. Mostly from Gen Z. So I actually disagree with the idea this is mostly rife among those 20 years into a career who learned the hard way that going above and beyond is pointless. There are young people who are at the start of the working life going in with a ‘quiet quitting’ attitude. And it certainly isn’t working to rule and having boundaries, it’s doing the bare minimum to stay employed, perhaps to fund a side hustle that isn’t generating enough income to live off yet.

But even so, we all know that being that person might not get you sacked, but it’ll have you marked as first out when the restructures and redundancies come. Maybe as you say, these are people who earn so little they don’t have serious commitments yet.

Waitfortheguinness · 07/08/2025 14:00

ThatJadeSwan · 06/08/2025 21:44

I get why people disengage from toxic workplaces but if you’re quiet quitting and not even trying to find a better role, then what’s the point? At that stage, it’s less about setting boundaries and more about settling for misery.

Isn't it just self-sabotage to stay in a job you hate without making moves to leave? Or do some people genuinely believe this is a long-term solution?

Are you an employer of people you consider to be quiet quitting?
if not, why are you bothered as to why people do it……..not really any of your concern why they do so long as they’re doing the job?

Crushed23 · 07/08/2025 13:27

Bambamhoohoo · 07/08/2025 10:02

This is what suprises me, people who aren’t worried about being unemployed. The job market is brutal atm.

that said, quiet quitting is more of a post Covid thing when employers were desperate for staff. I haven’t heard anyone talk about it for years until now.

Really? You hear it all the time on TikTok and YouTube. Mostly from Gen Z. So I actually disagree with the idea this is mostly rife among those 20 years into a career who learned the hard way that going above and beyond is pointless. There are young people who are at the start of the working life going in with a ‘quiet quitting’ attitude. And it certainly isn’t working to rule and having boundaries, it’s doing the bare minimum to stay employed, perhaps to fund a side hustle that isn’t generating enough income to live off yet.

Bambamhoohoo · 07/08/2025 10:02

JackGrealishsBobbySocks · 07/08/2025 02:12

In my industry right now people are pathetically grateful to have work on the whole.

I think as unemployment rises, employment rights are further eroded, and access to benefits is even more curtailed, concepts like quiet quitting will disappear.

Here I am at 2am fretting about something I have to present tomorrow. I don't even know if I will be able to continue in this field beyond this year.

This is what suprises me, people who aren’t worried about being unemployed. The job market is brutal atm.

that said, quiet quitting is more of a post Covid thing when employers were desperate for staff. I haven’t heard anyone talk about it for years until now.

JustFrustrated · 07/08/2025 09:28

Cinaferna · 07/08/2025 07:09

I think this is what the phrase should mean if used correctly. Working to rule and quiet quitting are not the same thing at all and no one working to rule should be accused or accuse themselves of quiet quitting if they are adequately doing their job.

That's what I took it to mean.
And I'll never agree with doing the bare minimum to get by, whilst taking the same wage as your colleagues but leaving them more to do.

tanstaafl · 07/08/2025 09:22

I took it to mean scaling back your efforts.
In particular efforts where you’re going the extra mile.

Because you’ve learnt a bitter ( financial ) lesson that you get no increase in salary and maybe passed over for promotions because you’ve made yourself too useful where you are.

Cinaferna · 07/08/2025 07:09

Djmaggie · 07/08/2025 01:09

I may be wrong but my interpretation of “quiet quitting” is doing the bare minimum during working hours rather than just working your required hours. Working your hours without extra time etc. is fine as long as you are working at a reasonable rate but doing the smallest amount of work you can get away with (leaving colleagues to cover the rest) is just lazy. I don’t think the people who do this are going to seek other jobs.

I think this is what the phrase should mean if used correctly. Working to rule and quiet quitting are not the same thing at all and no one working to rule should be accused or accuse themselves of quiet quitting if they are adequately doing their job.

BleuBeans · 07/08/2025 07:08

I disagree slightly with what some are classing as quiet quitting here. You can stay within your contracted working hours and take a lunch break yet not be quiet quitting, that’s just having healthy boundaries. Anything over that means sacrificing time with my DD. I know which of the two I’ll regret.

Quiet quitting is doing the bare minimum, as little as you can get away with. Whilst staying within my contracted hours (although flexed both for company or myself at times) I can completely transform departments I run. The outcome being a far more efficient and streamlined operation, saving the companies I work for a lot of money. This is generally never in my job description and thus countering the argument of quiet quitting being working your contracted hours.

I don’t think I could ever quiet quit without trying to either rectify or find another job, however it’s easier when you only need to consider how your role works with 1 child in terms of school, clubs and holidays clubs. I am also in a senior role with a skill set in a higher demand where I can easily negotiate other roles

Cutleryclaire · 07/08/2025 07:06

Quiet quitting isn’t leaving without another job. Rather I think it’s more often the opposite - keeping your head down and disengaging until something better comes up.