You often hear women say “there we no signs” when physical or verbal abuse begins. But I think there are small signs, things that might not scream ‘abuser’ but quietly hint at emotional volatility or control.
Stuff like:
-Punching walls when angry
-Throwing or breaking objects in frustration
-Sulking for days over small things
-Overreacting to minor inconveniences
-Blaming others for everything going wrong
I don’t think spotting one of these makes someone ‘definitely abusive’ but AIBU to think they can be early clues to someone lacking emotional regulation and potentially escalating?