To not want 3 dogs in my house?

I love dogs but I’m also a clean freak. My own dog doesn’t shed (a massive plus) and has the occasional accident, but I put up with it because I bloody adore that animal. But I’d really struggle with having other people’s dogs in my home, with their dirt and smell.

I'm a dog lover but this would be a hard no from me. Can't believe he's even considering bringing dogs that aren't house trained into your house.

Also, why aren't the dogs house trained? It's not difficult.

yanbu, but can't see how this relationship will work because of the dogs.

Of course it's not unreasonable. But where do you see this relationship going assuming you knew he had dogs prior .

They could be around another 10 yrs + and it would be wholly unreasonable in the future you decide its you or the dogs

First question i would ask is why has a single guy got 3 dogs. It doesnt sound like they are particularly well trained so i dont get the vibes of having them for work.

Most single blokes do well to look after themselves never mind 3 dogs. I would be looking seriously at this guys life choices before committing to any relationship

Yanbu to say no to having the dogs in the house. He’s also not being unreasonable to say he can’t come to yours as often. Wether that would affect the relationship only you two will know that

I fully understand what you’re saying, it does depend on what type of dogs they are too, big / small sort / long hair. I would say that when they are all fully house trained and past the chewing destructive stage and he helps make the garden dog friendly you will reconsider. Until then you will go mostly to his .

You could go to his more but I think you really need to think this through.
This going to end up being a deal breaker eventually because further down the line, things get serious, he's not going to give up the dogs is he?

It’s fine not to have them in your house. If you want to continue to see BF most weekends, you probably need to spend more time at his.

I would be telling him, it’s a definite no, until the dogs are fully house trained. Thereafter, you will have a better idea on what spending time with him and his dogs looks like.

Ultimately, I would think the dogs will come as part of the package, but perhaps you can take some more time to determine if that’s for you.

It's highly likely youre not compatible long term.

Im a dog lover but understand where you're coming from, however, it will be tricky to make it work if your bf can't leave his dogs. I can't leave mine as she's elderly so in his situation I would have to put my dog first.

Its ok to say no, but then you only see him every other weekend.

i'm afraid that would be an absolutely emphatic "NO!" from me.

Yanbu but I would question long term how this would work? I assume one day of all goes well you’d move in together and the dogs would then be living with you then etc.

No thank you. A dirty, smelly, slobbery, non-toilet trained noisy pack of animals who would need walking multiple times a day.

Fuck that one right off.

Fuck that. Even if they were house trained it would be a no from me.

I once ditched a guy because of his 2 dogs. They were so hectic, I hated going to his place. Hair and slobber everywhere and everything was dog this, vets that, isn't that one funny blah, blah, blah. I just wanted to chill out, wine, sex, and not have him touch me with dirty dog hands. Find a better bf.

Christ no. YANBU to not want your boyfriend's dogs shitting and pissing in your nice home. If he thinks YABU, he needs his head inspecting. And so do you if you cave into any pressure and let him bring them with him. It's a hard no.

Not unreasonable at all, and I can't understand how he would even suggest it if two of them are not house trained. I absolutely would not allow this and would come up with plan B as you have done.

Absolutely YANBU. I say this as a complete dog loving maniac 😍

Would you be happy to just go to his most of the time? You don’t have to live with him to have a relationship.

No not unreasonable but it may well become a dealbreaker because anyone with 3 dogs is going to have to spend very significant time and money on those dogs which will inevitably have an impact on the time and money they can spend on other things.

When he visits you without his dogs you aren’t getting the full picture of what his life is like. Since this is a new relationship it’s worth having a conversation about this even if it is difficult.