Scolding DS's accident

I’d get rid of him. Giving the silent treatment to an 8 yr old? Unacceptable. Yuck I’d have gone right off him, the immature twat. Don’t subject your child to this idiot, what a miserable family life ahead of him, poor kid.

She isn’t.

I don’t think I have been on a thread before where one poster has dominated the thread so much whilst also talking absolute nonsense.

I never understand women who find men with so little to lose that they can move into women and children's homes without worrying about what they are going to do with the property they have left behind.

And if they have no abode that they are invested in enough (whether via rent or mortgage) , but the woman as a single parent has, they are not yoked.

Much less to move in a stroppy man .
Since when have men become The Prize in heterosexuality? I must move in a different timezone.

Stop moving men into your yards who find it so easy to let go the yard that you found them with.

Nobody with good intentions or sense leaves their home as a big person to live in somebody else's home that they have no legal dominion over.

At my big age, I couldn't just move in with my boyfriend unless we were going to sell up our individual gaffs to buy together.

And that would be unwise as we both have adult children, not together who we want to leave an inheritance to.

Single mothers who have by hook or crook found/retained themselves a home for their children should not be moving in grown men who either haven't got a home for themselves or who carelessly gives it up to live somewhere that their name is not on the tenancy agreement or mortgage.

Cheap arses at best. Carpetbaggers one of the worst case scenarios.

She isn't contradicting herself at all. @simsbustinoutmimi just has difficulty with nuance.

How is she contradicting herself?

You are contradicting yourself with second paragraph make your mind up

Such a Pick Me Girl attitude.

Accidentally leaving a door open ONCE is the very definition of a “mistake” ffs - have you never done something like that when busy/distracted/not thinking? and he’s only 8!!

He’s not going to be a perfect human being - and neither are any of us, so he needs a little grace. From you and the OP’s partner.

Of course he apologised and said he felt bad. That is what you wanted to hear.

You told him his behaviour will not be tolerated anymore whilst also tolerating it.

You are putting both your son and yourself in grave danger here.

The abuse starts small, it always does. They are always sorry. Before you know it you are cowering in the corner of the room and he is saying ‘I’m sorry you made me do it’

It might never become physical, it might. You will turn into a mere shell of yourself walking on eggshells terrified in your own home. You child will be frightened, traumatised and potentially grow into a man just like this cunt you have let into his life

That's if you both live long enough of course

What is so important about being in a relationship that you would put your son (and yourself) through this person's childish behaviour?

Get rid - do it now.

I'd tell him and the cats to piss off. Your poor son doesn't deserve this hassle.

he said he feels bad, as he over reacted and it was just an accident.

Where did your boyfriend live before he moved in with you, out of interest? Did he own his own property?

Hopefully he is genuinely sorry he reacted that way and not just saying sorry because he's panicking you'll kick him out and he'll have to go back and live with his mum...

Honestly threads like this make me hope it's just a tedious troll playing a very long game. It's so depressing reading this type of story knowing the children are completely trapped and can do nothing at all to help themselves.

You do not have to stay in this situation; you could easily fix things for yourself and for your son.

My dad moved a childless woman in when I was eight and I was so thankful when the relationship ended when I was 12. She used to give me in to trouble for the most minor things that just got worse as time went on. It was a horrible way to live walking on eggshells and I went from loving going at weekends to dreading it.

Wow now I know the context, this is awful. So selfish to your child and his animals. You should both be ashamed 😞

You've been posting pretty much constantly about your issues with your partner both before and after he moved in. You don't like his cats and wanted him to 'get rid' of them; you don't think he parents your child enough when you're both at home; you don't have sex enough; he comments on your weight after seeing pictures of you when you were thinner... the list is endless.

Honestly, you are not compatible. It was mad that you moved in together.

He’s a grown adult. He should know that the silent treatment isn’t acceptable. He shouldn’t need it explaining to him.

It depends on how your child usually behaves. Everyone is saying ‘red flag’ but he’s been in the boy’s life for a while now and so if this is a one off I’d put it down to frustration and explain that the silent treatment isn’t acceptable.

Poor son, and tbh, poor cats. Both must feel unsettled at best, unsafe at worst, in their own home.

I know hindsight is easy but this was always going to be a challenge. Managing that kind of responsibility without the occasional lapse is probably beyond the development of most 8 year olds - it would be hard enough for adults to never forget to close a door.

As to the silent treatment. Both adults need to grow up and take some responsibility for this situation.

Some woman can’t bear the thought of not being in a relationship. Any man - no matter how shit he is - is better than not having a man.

Agree. Sulking and silent treatment are precursors to emotional abuse and signs he doesn’t know/doesn’t want to resolve issues in an adult mature reasonable way.

Get him out, or make this his final warning.

@ellie09 you have started multiple threads since your DP moved in with you, none of which show him in a good light and you are clearly unhappy.

This is simply the latest. I have no doubt that over the next few months there will be more.

I have no idea why you’re with this man, or why you’ve moved him into your house, but you must put your DS first.

She’s not. They’ve had a chat and it’s all sorted. Poor child.

I’m an adult and I have forgotten to close the door on multiple occasions in a similar situation!

OP, you have had the benefit of seeing early on how this man will treat your son.

Please prioritise your child and get this man out of your house.

Nah - she won’t kick him out.