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How much could your DP/DH do after vasectomy?

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Hey12345 · 05/08/2025 18:41

DH had a vasectomy yesterday early afternoon. The non-invasive one (keyhole), we were in an out within an hour with the procedure itself only taking 15mins.

Yesterday he rested and I happily did everything with our children. Today he spent the whole day resting again which is fine, (although spent on his phone mostly), but this evening I asked if he could put pyjamas on our 3yo so I could shower because I stink (and could do with 5mins alone time) after a busy day at the park / on bikes / cooking with children, and he said he couldn’t.

Is this normal? How were your DP / DH’s after the non-invasive vasectomy?

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HoneyHoneyHowYouThrillMe · 05/08/2025 18:50

Mumofteenandtween · 05/08/2025 18:47

I don’t know about a vasectomy but 11 hours after major abdominal surgery that led to me losing over 2.5 pints of blood and my heartbeat slowing and blood pressure falling to such a level that the midwife was muttering about intensive care, I had recovered enough to be left to look after a newborn independently.

Occasionally I think about that and think “what the fuckity fuckity fuck?!?!”

God what a pathetic man! See above, and tell him that he can be a baby about it (offensive to babies tbh) when women aren't expected to just cope as a matter of course with caesarean sections!!! God this pisses me off SO MUCH!!

ellie09 · 05/08/2025 18:50

Of course he is ok.

Us females endure giving birth for hours on end, then are straight back to it caring for them whilst our holes have been ripped open, or some of us have had major surgery (c section).

I had a LLETZ where my cervix was burnt off which is more invasive that a vasectomy, and I rested the rest of the day, then was back to normal activities, e.g. work, chores, walking the dog etc the following morning! Yes, while I was heavy bleeding and cramping

Tell him to get a life. If this was my DP he would be getting a bollocking.

ExtraOnions · 05/08/2025 18:50

Mine was fine … little bit of bruising, no swelling - wearing his “bollock harness” as I called it. Got a week off work, and even he felt guilty

RCJJ · 05/08/2025 18:49

DH hasn’t long had his; rest up day of, and no heavy lifting for a week was his advice on the day! He went back to work the next day, and just took it easy. But he was fine.

Ihaveoflate · 05/08/2025 18:48

He was a bit tender for a few hour and took some paracetamol but I don't remember him stopping any activities.

Mumofteenandtween · 05/08/2025 18:47

I don’t know about a vasectomy but 11 hours after major abdominal surgery that led to me losing over 2.5 pints of blood and my heartbeat slowing and blood pressure falling to such a level that the midwife was muttering about intensive care, I had recovered enough to be left to look after a newborn independently.

Occasionally I think about that and think “what the fuckity fuckity fuck?!?!”

NotEnoughRoom · 05/08/2025 18:46

Is your toddler particularly challenging at pyjama time? We had one that was a dream, and one that was like trying to get a cat into a wetsuit….

otherwise, I’d say he’s probably milking it?

www.nhs.uk/contraception/methods-of-contraception/vasectomy-male-sterilisation/recovery/

RhaenysRocks · 05/08/2025 18:44

Pathetic. Mine was back at work at his desk that afternoon and came for a two mile walk with me the following day. Look at what women are asked to almost immediately after childbirth.

Mathsdebator · 05/08/2025 18:43

Mine was fine a couple of hours later. I watched the operation. It's 2 incisions of about 4mm each!

Itsnotrainingatleast · 05/08/2025 18:42

No idea but can you shower once kids are in bed?

Confrontayshunme · 05/08/2025 18:42

He is being a baby. My DH had it years ago and was back at work in 36 hours.

tinytemper66 · 05/08/2025 18:42

No. He can manage that; he is milking it.