To be furious that my neighbour ‘borrowed’ my garden furniture for her BBQ?

I have a neighbour we would be close to and can imagine her borrowing them if ahe couldn't get me knowing I probably wouldn't mind, but I'd have had 10 missed calls and messages before she was forced into a decision of guessing whether or not I would mind.
They would also have been put back and there'd be a bottle of wine on my doorstep if I didn't mind.

This, and I would be putting up security cameras. God knows what these tea leaves get up to when you are not around.

It's theft, end of. I would be incandescent and depending on the neighbor would possibly call the cops.

If you're not the kind of neighbours who have an understanding that it's ok to borrow each others stuff without asking (and I'm guessing not) then no you're not being unreasonable. It would cause me a lot of stress wondering how to deal with it. Do you risk falling out by telling them how you feel? You'd think they'd return it and keep the kids off at the very least.

Yeah that’s disgusting behaviour. It’s really appalling people think they can just help themselves like that.

No you are completely right She is beyond cheeky and taking the Micky out of you

I wonder why OP hasn’t answered any comments yet? Is she next door?

Thats awful! So presumptuous! Imagine if I popped into Sainsbury and “borrowed” some home wares with a promise to return on Monday would that be ok??

I think it depends on the neighbours, your relationship with them, how easy it is to access your garden and the type of garden furniture. But, yes they are cfers.

Has she got your phone number? Did she know she was having the barbecue before you went away?

I cannot believe that they would do that. We get on REALLY well with our neigbhours but there is no way, they or we would 'borrow' garden furniture without checking it out first. It's beyond cheeky!

What can you do about it?? well it all depends on how you get on with your neighbours. But whatever your friendship entails it is still pushing the boundaries. In the first instance talk to them and tell them you're not happy with them borrowing the equipment without even an email/message requesting it was ok. If they are someone you don't associate with then a firm but polite message would definately be in order

I cannot believe that they would do that. We get on REALLY well with our neigbhours but there is no way, they or we would 'borrow' garden furniture without checking it out first. It's beyond cheeky!

What can you do about it?? well it all depends on how you get on with your neighbours. But whatever your friendship entails it is still pushing the boundaries. In the first instance talk to them and tell them you're not happy with them borrowing the equipment without even an email/message requesting it was ok. If they are someone you don't associate with then a firm but polite message would definately be in order

Send her a bill for the rental . I would fkn sue her

The lack of updates is irritating in a thread, but what I find much worse is that @mumsnet themselves keep sharing these attention grabbing posts on X , days after they were first posted and obviously knowing the OP hasn't been back. Why draw more traffic to a thread with no replies from the OP?!

That’s called stealing.
The good thing is though, you can pop round and help yourself to anything you want in her garden.

Read this thread before. Never an update, as it's a made up post for engagement?!

Erm, I'm perfectly calm and certainly not petulant...my point was this is probably another thread to get people all frothed up...i.e. made up.

But thanks for your comment

Oh calm down. Some people have a life you know, and a busy one at that!

Yes, we all like an update of course, but don’t be a petulant child about it….

This. Sounds like a large dose of CF-ery?!

Very cheeky. I have an excellent relationship with a neighbor and they know that they can park on my driveway if they have visitors etc. They still message me each time before they do to double check it is still ok. Make sure you secure your garden. I would bet it is not the first time that they borrowed things.

OMG!!!!!!! Similar thing happened to us a week ago! We went away for the weekend, our neighbour phones to ask if they can use our parasol (since it was expensive I wasn’t comfortable with them moving it) so we said no…. Well they took anyway! My other neighbours messaged to say they saw them moving it!
I was exactly the same! Livid! Felt violated as such thing would never cross my mind! And like you it felt like theft.
spoke to a policeman about this and he said legally it couldn’t be qualified as theft but definitely trespassing
I just find the whole thing totally unacceptable

Exactly

I find it so rude when OP’s don’t bother returning to their post!

I'd be fuming. Just taking your things without permission. I'd be having words with neighbours over this. What if it had got damaged?

In quite new to MN amd this happens a lot doesn’t it - makes you feel a bit if a twat for bothering to invest in a thread and respond to the OP
Also makes you wonder if made up..,