To be furious that my neighbour ‘borrowed’ my garden furniture for her BBQ?

I would have thought they'd return it before you came back.

As they didn't, and effectively rubbed your nose in it by lettings the kids sprawl over, I'd say they are looking for confrontation.

I have had CF neighbours who have climbed over my fence in the past. [On one occasion, when I yelled the idiot neighbour came tumbling over my fence. Most satisfying.] It would be easy enough for a strong man to lift furniture over a fence, provided said furniture isn't heavy teak or the like.

Went away for the weekend, came back Monday afternoon to find our patio table, four chairs, and parasol in next door’s garden.

First lines of the OP, explains it all.

The post is AIBU clickbait, or just drunken. How would you not notice your missing garden furniture until you saw it in next door's garden? How would they have moved the stuff? Unless it's a shared garden with no fence then it must be made up. OP hasn't come back with any answers, and it's been a week.

OP hasn't been back. Not that they have to. But...

I was just thinking that it might be a WUT. It is a bit strange and doesn’t quite add up.

We’re very lucky, we have lived next to our neighbours for 30 years and we have a good, mutually helpful relationship with them. If we were away and they borrowed our garden furniture, it really wouldn’t bother me at all.

On the other hand, if other people came and helped themselves to it that would be another matter.

I’d be cross, because it’s just plain weird

I don’t believe it happened. OP hasn’t come back so to all the people (me included about 3 days ago) who are saying ‘that’s unbelievable!’ it probably is.

That's just theft. Plain and simple. Not to mention trespass or even breaking and entering. Absolutely criminal.

I get on very well with my next door neighbours. We have each others keys and look after each others pets for holidays etc. I would NEVER borrow anything of theirs without asking! That takes the mick!

I am actually shocked reading the post! Even my absolute neatest friend orny sister, who would obviously say of course I could borrow them, I would still ask just out of courtesy!

It wrong on all counts. I’ve lived in my property for forty years and get on well very well with my neighbours, I run errands for the ones that are not so able and do bits and bobs for other people.

i live in a converted Victorian house, I have sole rights to the garden and it’s my pride and joy, it’s a good size and I’ve given the people upstairs the key to the side gate that accesses the garden so that can for and sit out there when the weather is decent. During lockdown I gave access to the garden to the other people people in the block because I was not at home a lot and I did not want them go stir crazy. No one took liberties.

i think I've been neighbourly enough, but if a neighbour pulled a stroke like this I would have gone loopy. I don't know where they got the idea that this was okay to do, to commit and act of trespass and take someone else’s property from someone else’s land. Even if you are good neighbours this action has stepped over the boundaries of common decency

The vey least they could have done is messaged or telephone you to ask permission, I would like to say it’s unbelievable but in this day ans age I’m afraid acts like this are very believable.

No way! I cannot believe she had the cheek to do this! Actually speechless. Absolutely not on. Who comes and helps themselves to your garden furniture while you’re away. She didn’t leave a note bcus she knows it’s wrong. People have NO manners nowdays. I’d of said to her lucky you didn’t report it stolen and burgled to police as you weren’t to know what had happened. Get your furniture back and then have nothing more to do with her. People like this don’t change, she’s just one of those scummers

Disgusting cheek, it is theft isn’t it!?

I would be absolutely feckin furious , it would get padlocked up next time and they would seriously know how peed off I was over it , who actually does something like this I would never dream of just using something that didn’t belong to me and then still having it in their garden when you return shows how arrogant and ignorant they actually are

What??? Why are you having to spend time locking up your stuff so the neighbour doesn’t take it?? It’s theft, plain and simple. God people will be suggesting you pop the bird house and bath in the hallway next 🤣🤣🤣

Absolutely not the point. Just shows a complete lack of respect for others.

This is just astonishingly bad behaviour. If my neighbour did this to me my response would be disproportionately bad, like maybe burning their house down.
The level of people’s entitlement and lack of manners these days is just breathtaking. I’m glad I live next to lovely people.

She ought to have contacted you - Facebook, pone, whatever. It was cheeky of her. Tell her, Yes, I do mind... you could have contacted me, etc etc... and see what happens.

The fact I’d not even been asked is what would make me furious.
The way you wrote the post suggests that she actually does have a way to contact you and do just that.
I would have said, “I dont mind you borrowing the furniture, but I do expect to be asked and I would have also said put it back in my garden after the BBQ is finished”
You can’t just go round helping yourself to peoples stuff and taking liberties.

It is time for a nice, firm boundary. Clear communication that this is not ok.

We have a fantastic relationship with all our immediate neighbours (both sides s d all houses opposite) so honestly wouldn’t bother me (though I’d expect t they’d message to say). Depends on your relationship with them I think

Does she have a key? How did she get it just pass it over the fence?
The 'I didn't think you'd mind' is code for I thought I'd get away with poncing off you.

It's theft!

@2coolec are you coming back? Waste of time thread.