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To think that most rich people don’t actually care about those struggling?

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ZippyMintCat · 05/08/2025 11:22

I keep seeing wealthy people make grand statements about philanthropy, “giving back”, and wanting to help but when it comes down to it, most of them don’t actually seem to care. They live in their own bubble, completely disconnected from the struggles of ordinary people.

They might donate to charity for tax breaks, post about “awareness” on social media or make vague comments about how “hard work pays off” but they rarely do anything that actually makes a difference. Meanwhile, the cost of living keeps rising, people are struggling to afford basics, and the ultra-rich just keep hoarding wealth.

Of course there are exceptions but in general, AIBU to think that rich people don’t really give a shit? Or am I just being cynical?

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Poopeepoopee · 05/08/2025 19:44

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 19:36

I agree but I will also say nobody gives a shit about the low-to-middle earning taxpayer who are in the absolute worst position of anyone. We’re seen as rich by people on benefits who are out of touch with how much things actually cost having become acclimatised to getting them for free or discounted. And we’re seen by the rich as merely employees.

I couldn't agree more you see it here all the time - posters who conveniently forget that they get £40k worth of housing/rent/council tax/PIP/school meals/prescriptions/dental care/tax credits/funded childcare/nursery fees and other state benefits and probably plenty of other things that I have no idea about bleating that someone earning £50k is minted.

Crikeyalmighty · 05/08/2025 19:42

@JamesMacGill I totally agree , and applies to anyone I feel that is not at the level of getting any benefits at all but with family income under £100k ( or even a bit over if living in London or south east or areas of very high demand)

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 19:36

I agree but I will also say nobody gives a shit about the low-to-middle earning taxpayer who are in the absolute worst position of anyone. We’re seen as rich by people on benefits who are out of touch with how much things actually cost having become acclimatised to getting them for free or discounted. And we’re seen by the rich as merely employees.

Crikeyalmighty · 05/08/2025 19:20

@EarthlyNightshade I think you might need to tackle corruption first - many country’s with issues of the kind you are talking about also have obscenely wealthy leaders and gvt officials - take a look at Zurich airport at all the African ( amongst other places) gvt officials and their gold plated wives and numerous amounts of high end carrier bags - I do know what you are saying but I’m afraid it’s not a matter of levelling up and equality that will solve it

MavisandHetty · 05/08/2025 18:58

I suspect you live in a bubble, completely disconnected from the struggles of the ordinary people of (say) Burundi or South Sudan where over 50% of children experience stunted growth as a result of malnutrition.

You turn a blind eye and concern yourself with your own problems, don’t you? Relatively speaking, you have much to spare.

This isn’t to defend the obscene and immoral hoarding of wealth by the many-millionaire and billionaire class. It’s to point out that you’re complaining about the wrong thing. There’s enough to go round for everyone. But that’s not the world we live in, including you.

HoskinsChoice · 05/08/2025 18:17

ZippyMintCat · 05/08/2025 12:36

Some might be doing a lot quietly and I’d be happy to be wrong about this. But from what I’ve seen and read, the scale of the need versus the visible impact from those with extreme wealth doesn’t really match up. It’s less about wanting them to “show off” and more about questioning whether their actions are proportionate to their means.

'From what I've seen and read'. I'm going to guess that your 'reading' is the tabloids and virtue signalling/look at me social media posts...

dottiehens · 05/08/2025 17:04

Nah. You sound bitter and resentful. A lot of the wealth created in the U.K. comes from people with working class background btw. So there are certainly opportunities.

As for if the rich care or not. You can’t generalised. However, at least where they do not care. There are clear incentives to donate money for charity and good causes. Also a sure way to make sure money reach people in need.

Neemie · 05/08/2025 16:43

ZippyMintCat · 05/08/2025 13:09

I’ve acknowledged in a previous comment that by global standards, I’m fortunate and I do try to be mindful of what I buy and to contribute where I can. But my point is about the scale of what’s possible when you have extreme wealth. I can make small choices and contributions but I can’t fund infrastructure, influence policy, or redistribute billions. It’s not about pretending I’m not privileged, it’s about questioning why those with vastly more capacity to make changes often aren’t doing it.

If you go on the government website and look how our tax is spent and how many billions everything costs, you will realise that it will take an awful lot of billionaires with an awful lot of money to make much of a difference. The interest repayments on our national debt are over £100 billion a year.

EarthlyNightshade · 05/08/2025 15:55

SuburbanSprawl · 05/08/2025 14:39

...me, I don't know enough of those people to really have much idea. But as you do know them, I'd be interested to hear what they've said to you to lead you to that conclusion.

I mean, I assume you're not just making stuff up, having watched a lot of 'Very Rich People In Not Very Real Reality Shows - Harrogate Edition'.

I have said above, but I believe that if the rich did care, the world would be moving towards equality, not further away. Projects to genuinely help and change things for the better would be normal rather than unusual. There is no need for world hunger, there is enough if it could reach the right people.

Happier countries have a smaller divide between the rich and the poor.

However, I don't blame the "rich", I think that most people put in the position of having a lot of money would prioritise themselves and their families above the general good. It's a real shame.

Verv · 05/08/2025 15:28

Overtheatlantic · 05/08/2025 13:46

Tend to your corner of the world and let others tend to theirs. You will be happier.

Good advice.

FullOfMomsense · 05/08/2025 15:16

I think some people who are struggling can do more to improve their situations. I don't know anyone who wants to fund people who aren't helping themselves.

Helpmeplease2025 · 05/08/2025 15:15

IAmQuiteNiceActually · 05/08/2025 13:58

People like Jeff Bezos could save millions of lives every year and wouldn't even notice the dent in their bank balance. But they chooses not to do that. Which is manslaughter in my opinion but this is mumsnet so I'll just be laughed at and called jealous. Most of us can't afford to help much without sacrifice, so as much as we are complicit in other people's suffering with most of the products we buy, it isn't quite the same.

I think that the super rich are confused with the very wealthy. The poor and the very wealthy are in conflict while the super rich are taking all the money out of th economy.

I think your username is not true

Manslaughter 😳

Helpmeplease2025 · 05/08/2025 15:14

You don’t have to fund others just because you’re rich.

Nagginthenag · 05/08/2025 15:11

ZippyMintCat · 05/08/2025 13:32

I see paying tax as the legal minimum, not the ceiling for responsibility, especially when you have resources that could make a real difference. I’m not saying they should micromanage the lives of people on minimum wage but with that level of wealth and influence, they’re in a position to fund initiatives, create fairer opportunities or support systemic changes that improve things for everyone. It’s the gap between what they could do and what they actually do that I find hard to ignore.

So you want unelected people to have even more power and influence than they already do? Who decides where the money should go? If these filthy rich types want to do the most good for the most people, they do as Gates and Warren Buffet do and pour large amounts of investment into health and disease prevention in Africa. Not into the UK. Because by global standards, we're OK.

VanCleefArpels · 05/08/2025 14:45

Individuals in democracies don’t have the wherewithal to make structural changes : that’s for elected bodies and legislation and regulation. It needs political will which can’t always be bought.

Having said that, support of the third sector by philanthropists actually does make real change for real people. And to a certain extent I’m not that worried if that philanthropy is done with real concern for the end beneficiary or just for show.

Poopeepoopee · 05/08/2025 14:41

EveryDayisFriday · 05/08/2025 11:32

As long as the poor people pay their rent and still turn up to their low paid jobs, I don't think they care much above that tbh.

Yes this.

Overwhelmedandunderfed · 05/08/2025 14:41

I’m with you on this one, of course it’s not all of them but the celebrities begging for money from those of us just surviving for their most recent causes whilst enjoying luxurious holidays etc really grinds my gears.

SuburbanSprawl · 05/08/2025 14:39

ZippyMintCat · 05/08/2025 11:36

I’m thinking people with serious wealth, not just comfortable but the kind of rich where you have multiple properties, don’t think twice about major purchases and can afford to live entirely off investments. I’m not talking about people earning a decent salary, I mean those who are truly insulated from financial pressure. It’s less about the number and more about the detachment that often seems to come with that level of wealth.

...me, I don't know enough of those people to really have much idea. But as you do know them, I'd be interested to hear what they've said to you to lead you to that conclusion.

I mean, I assume you're not just making stuff up, having watched a lot of 'Very Rich People In Not Very Real Reality Shows - Harrogate Edition'.

TaborlinTheGreat · 05/08/2025 14:33

Justsomethoughts23 · 05/08/2025 14:13

I don’t really agree with this actually. I’d say I spend a fair bit of time thinking about people less fortunate, whether it’s someone starving to death on the news or an elderly person struggling in a supermarket. I feel immensely grateful not to be in that kind of situation.

I didn't say you don't though. I said that I think most people probably don't. Maybe you are more empathetic than the average person.

42wallabywaysydney · 05/08/2025 14:30

EatMoreChocolate44 · 05/08/2025 14:00

To be honest I don't think many people really and truly care. Yes, most of us feel sad and empathy when we see people suffering and donate to charity but how many of us actually give up the holiday, the take away, the night out, the new dress that we don't really need to help those who are suffering. Most of us are 'wealthy' when compared to starving people in third world countries (I'm obviously not including people surviving pay check to pay check on the bare necessities or families struggling on benefits). I often feel guilty because I know I could do without material things and contribute more (I'm a teacher). I'd say most of us are guilty of putting our own happiness first. There are people risking their lives to help others, doing without etc. I think we need to look at ourselves and what we are doing and could we do more.

Very much agree with this. I’m comfortable but not wealthy, I donate to charities I care about but that aside I prioritise my own and my family’s happiness above helping others (in a financial sense), eg I would not forgo a fancy holiday and use the money to help strangers less well off than me. Therefore I don’t judge the ultra rich for spending or saving their money how they wish, it’s not really any different other than their money would go far further and they might miss it less but I don’t think you can really draw a line and say that at a certain point rich people ‘should’ give away their money. I can’t stand a hypocrite though so I detest celebrities, rich corporations etc encouraging other people to donate to a particular cause - those people and companies can put their hands in their own pockets first.

Justsomethoughts23 · 05/08/2025 14:13

TaborlinTheGreat · 05/08/2025 11:37

I don't think most people (whether they are rich or not) spend a lot of time thinking about those less fortunate than themselves. Most people are just getting on with their own lives.

I don’t really agree with this actually. I’d say I spend a fair bit of time thinking about people less fortunate, whether it’s someone starving to death on the news or an elderly person struggling in a supermarket. I feel immensely grateful not to be in that kind of situation.

BopItWinner · 05/08/2025 14:12

IAmQuiteNiceActually · 05/08/2025 13:58

People like Jeff Bezos could save millions of lives every year and wouldn't even notice the dent in their bank balance. But they chooses not to do that. Which is manslaughter in my opinion but this is mumsnet so I'll just be laughed at and called jealous. Most of us can't afford to help much without sacrifice, so as much as we are complicit in other people's suffering with most of the products we buy, it isn't quite the same.

I think that the super rich are confused with the very wealthy. The poor and the very wealthy are in conflict while the super rich are taking all the money out of th economy.

Manslaughter? Fucking hell.

ZippyMintCat · 05/08/2025 14:05

JHound · 05/08/2025 13:59

What would you like them to do?

Use their wealth and influence in ways that create lasting change, not just PR-friendly donations. That could mean funding affordable housing projects, supporting small business growth, investing in renewable energy, backing grassroots initiatives, or lobbying for fairer wages and working conditions. When you’re in the ultra-rich bracket, even a fraction of your resources can have a huge impact if it’s targeted well.

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EdithStourton · 05/08/2025 14:02

You can't generalise.

One of the wealthiest men I've known lived in a big house with a vast garden and had investments coming out of his ears. He was a kind, mild-mannered sort of chap.

I only found out after he had died that he regularly donated to a local children's charity. Essentially, whenever it was a few grand short for a necessary project, one of the Trustees (who told me about this) would have a quiet word and £££££ would land in the account. He may well have done the same for other charities, I suspect he probably did.

Another absolutely minted local family had a long-running connection with the charity Lepra - again, nothing said, I only found out when I read an obituary.

Wynter25 · 05/08/2025 14:02

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 05/08/2025 11:37

I do desperately. Feel very guilty but I can’t change the family was I born in to and all I can do is help people when I can.

Same

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