Has anyone kept their pregnancy hidden until later on?

Currently 22w and have told 2 people! Parents/ ILs/ siblings/ work don’t know. I need to tell work next week. We’ve previously been through a traumatic neonatal death and I’ve since learnt there is no safe time.

I thought most people didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks until the first scan I definitely didn't with my 3 pregnancys.

We waited until 12 weeks to tell close family and my employer. Then just told others piecemeal when it became obvious.

We didn't tell anyone until after the 12 week scan with any of ours. I don't consider that unusual.
A few years ago, SiL (who admittedly we don't see in person due to geography) told us when she was about 7 months pregnant !

I hid my twin pregnancy from work until after 20 weeks because I wanted to get through appraisal time without them knowing! I wore the same tight dress with a jacket over for weeks as it was the only thing that held me in. The day after I told them, it was stretchy maternity all the way!

I have waited until after 12 weeks for my other pregnancies and don’t regret it. Twice I lost babies before 12 weeks, and I didn’t find my family any less supportive because I hadn’t already told them of the pregnancy; they supported me through the loss just because that’s what they do!

We waited until 32 weeks before telling anyone other than my mom, our closest friends and my manager. Told them at 22 weeks.

I am glad we waited, but with hindsight we didn't need to wait as long as we did and friends and family were upset we didn't tell them sooner.

I also had a number of losses so didn't tell anyone until 20 weeks.
I didn't want to have to tell people if I lost another and have people constantly asking how I was.

I did! My close family and friends knew (maybe around 4/5 friends) and that’s all. I had quite a small bump (baby was only 4lb when born) so was quite easy to hide until the end stages. I don’t post pictures online of my child (personal preference) so even up to now - 3 years later - some people don’t have a clue until they see me in person!
I loved the intimacy of keeping our baby to ourselves and being in our own bubble without others questioning various things, giving opinions etc!

I think there’s pros and cons of telling people early and late, I’ve tried both. Depends what your priorities are. Have you any particular concerns about things you might miss out on by not sharing a bit earlier? Or just whether people will be annoyed?

Been thinking about this myself recently as DH and I want to start TTC in the new year. I think I’m going to have to tell my immediate family straight away - there is no way I could hide it and I would want their support if anything happened. We have some close local friends who we will probably tell earlier than making it wholly public but not straight away straight away.

Extended family and friends we don’t see often I think we will wait until at least 12 weeks.

I kept mine a secret until 22 weeks . Nice and peaceful x

I kept mine quiet until 20 weeks as had been through a re-structure at work and wanted to be in my new role for 12 weeks. I only went in office one day a week and just wore baggy clothes.

I fell pregnant unplanned last year aged 42 with 3 kids. I wanted to wait until.the 20 weeks scan to announce it. My husband couldn't keep his gob shut and told his mum at 16 weeks. Then my mum died suddenly so he told my stepdad, who told my brother in law. Do by the time 20 weeks came round literally everyone knew except my husbands sister. Ill always regret not telling my mum before she died

I told most people early with my first. Then I told people with the next pregnancy and found out it was a missed miscarriage and telling people was just awkward they didn’t know what to say so with my little boy who’s 3 now we waited until 20 weeks to tell anyone we only told our mums and dads x

wi my 3rd it was only me n husband that knew until I was 30 weeks, we were in denial as my 2nd was only 13 weeks old when I got pregnant and she would be only 12 months when baby was due!
we then only told our parents and when I had her and went out with a double pushchair everyone was like oh have you had another 🤣

I was sick as a dog with all my pregnancies so couldn't really hide it! Would probably have waited till 12 weeks to tell most people though if I'd had the choice.

’Announced’ (if we can even call it that for us as we didn’t do a big announcement, we just told people when we saw them) at 12wks with 1st, then 20wks with 2nd. I returned from maternity leave pregnant & didn’t want to tell work until I was ready to tell them. Work had been a bit funny about me reducing my hours when returning & I feel I would’ve been under more pressure to return full time when I was going off on leave again so I kept quiet until I felt ready to tell them. I was put under a bit of pressure to tell my work I was pregnant with my 3rd as I was covering my boss & I was asked to extend this & support their reintegration back into our team. I had to tell them at 8wks which I was very uncomfortable about doing as only my partner & my boss knew until about 14wks.

Managed to not tell many people close to third trimester each time. I only told them when it became a bit obvious or when I had to at work for mat leave planning. Didn’t regret it one bit. You will find people aren’t really that interested when it doesn’t affect them!

I didn’t tell anyone other than my partner, boss, and PT until gone 20 weeks. Not sure I could have kept it to myself much longer, I got big quite quickly at that point but it thankfully slowed down! As above poster, we also didn’t rush to tell people after the birth, but we’d not said the due date so no one was waiting for it. No losses, no story, I just didn’t want everyone knowing my business. That said, the day I did tell my parents was joyous and I wish I’d thought to record their faces

Iv worked with some women who were obviously pregnant but we all just pretended until they told us. Some were 20 plus weeks

Dd2 told us very early - before she missed a period and I think that was a tad early. Dd1 told us about 9 weeks which seemed better. Dd2 lost a pregnancy last year (ectopic) at about 7/8 weeks. She hadn't told us probably because db had just died and then she had the miscarriage the day dd1 gave birth. I do feel sad I wasn't able to support her. She is now 24 weeks pregnant and told us at 8 weeks after a scan had confirmed it was in the right place.
Of course totally up to the pregnant person and their partner. The rest of the family were told at 12 weeks.

I told immediate family just before my first scan.
Then did the 'announcement' to everyone else at 20 weeks.
I also announced the birth to immediate family after 7 hours, and to 'the world' at 4 weeks old.

Didn't tell anyone until 23 weeks no one guessed either!

Your pregnancy is your business. When you choose to share it and with who is your choice. Anyone who does not understand why you choose not to share your news does not deserve to hear it. Anyone who has an opinion about who when or how you share your news is being rude.

Most people I worked with wait until 20 weeks. Sometimes you could tell but often not.