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To cancel our Wembley trip?

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Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 08:09

Firstly, this genuinely isn’t because someone really sadly fell and died from the upper tier on Saturday night, although it’s brought the issue to mind much more.

We’ve got Coldplay tickets for later this month at Wembley for the four of us (DC are 11 and 9). Thought it would be an amazing first concert for them, they’ve enjoyed Coldplay at Glastonbury and the crowd are generally quite chilled.

Our seats are in the 500s/upper tier. I had already warned the kids it’s high but that it’ll be amazing to see the stadium and all the lights etc. As we get closer to the date, I’m really thinking it’s a mistake - both my kids are not great with heights and tbh, neither am I but I’ve been in a situation where I’ve had to deal with it and ended up enjoying myself regardless.

I’ve read that sometimes staff at Wembley have been able to move people but I don’t think I could rely on that as an option! What would you do?

IABU - don’t cancel, go and see what it’s like and you might all enjoy it

IANBU - sell the tickets and catch them another time

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LeedsLoiner · 05/08/2025 11:35

EveryOtherNameTaken · 05/08/2025 09:11

I'm scared of heights and was terrified at the 02 Arena, but not at Wembley. It doesn't feel particularly high or overly steep, even in the high seats.

Once they are sat down, they'll be fine. If you are two adults, one go at the front and one at the back going up the steps with them in the middle. If just you, go behind them so they feel secure.

Enjoy!

As someone who used to live in the area, if you're driving park north of Wembley and get the tube - the queues for the northbound train are much shorter than the queues for central London.

Laiste · 05/08/2025 11:24

As many have said Wembley is ok OP i think you'll be fine 😊

Years ago i went to an old theatre in London to see Oliver and was right up 'in the gods'.

Bloody hell it was steep! My feet were fight behind the person in front's actual head and it felt like there was about 3 inches of floor to stand on. When i had to stand to let someone pass and when it was time to stand to leave I felt sick and like shuffling along sideways clinging to the chair arms! 🥹

Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 11:16

@Isxmasoveryet its not what I’m worried about - I don’t think any of us are going to die. The incident meant that lots of people are talking about how steep those tiers are, which made me second guess whether my kids will actually cope with the height. We’re def going to do it, having heard from others on this thread that it’s been ok! I’ve just never been up there, but it sounds better than the 02, which did freak me out!

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Isxmasoveryet · 05/08/2025 11:05

People die in car crashes all the time yet no one crying about cancelling cars
People die at home all the time yet no one crying about cancelling homes
One person dies at a concert not o we can't go anywhere near that venue
Just putting things into perspective

Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 11:05

@sellotapechicken i was surprised it took so long for someone to pop up with an anti Coldplay quip 😂Luckily, I’m ok with spending that but thank you for your input.

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Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 11:01

It’s made me feel much better - thanks everyone. I do think that once we are sat down, we’ll acclimatise! Planning on leaving a bit early, although we are driving up but still don’t want to get stuck in a sea of people ideally

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sellotapechicken · 05/08/2025 10:26

What a complete waste of money

julesover40 · 05/08/2025 10:26

BanningTheWordNaice · 05/08/2025 08:12

I was pleasantly surprised by how not steep the top level of Wembley felt compared to the o2 - admittedly I was in row 7 of the 500s.

Exactly this. I was at Oasis on Sunday night. We were row 10 in the 500's. Didn't feel to high and no way near as steep as upper levels of the O2, which i will never book for again (felt nervous to stand as so steep).
I would go, your children will have a great time.

Odellio · 05/08/2025 10:12

It was a while ago now, and at the O2. But I had tickets for up in the high section, when I got there and realised how high it was I freaked out due to my fear of heights. We spoke to someone there and got upgraded to a box, free of charge.

FatherFrosty · 05/08/2025 10:11

Wembley is so much better than other stadiums for steepness. think how many events are held there, and how many times this has happened?

Go, you’ll have a wonderful time.

whilst Saturdays events are incredibly sad, as someone who has been multiple times to Wembley I can’t work out what went wrong. It is just incredibly sad.

BlokeHereInPeace · 05/08/2025 10:06

Sat up there a few times, it's fine. You aren't in any way vulnerable to falling or anything.

Oh, and use Wembley Stadium station for the trains to and from Marylebone rather than Wembley Park.

LittleBobbyDazzler · 05/08/2025 10:02

Never been to Wembley but I have been up in the gods at Twickenham with DH who doesn't like heights either. Coming out of the concourse into the seating area was fine as was being seated, turning around half way up the stairs made my head spin and no idea why, I almost fell over 😂 DH said the same but ultimately was fine seated / stood. I think they'll be fine especially when the concert starts.

IamnotSethRogan · 05/08/2025 09:52

my son is not great with heights and we've been to stadium gigs and high up and it never even occurred to any of us this might be an issue.

It's a gradual incline so it's not like you're looking over an edge which is whats generally triggering for most people.

NewsdeskJC · 05/08/2025 09:45

Id say that Oasis was quite civilised if all dneice got was beer chucked over her. Back in the day it was a different amber liquid.....
Coldplay different vibe!

chatgptsbestmate · 05/08/2025 09:40

Netcurtainnelly · 05/08/2025 09:24

How awful.

She thought it was hilarious! I was really glad that I wasn't there!

Netcurtainnelly · 05/08/2025 09:24

chatgptsbestmate · 05/08/2025 09:16

My neice (age 27) saw Oasis at Wembley
Sat up high. No issue.
But she did get covered in beer as did everyone around her
People got very drunk/stoned, hence the throwing of beer
This was a Friday evening

How awful.

mamagogo1 · 05/08/2025 09:19

Sat there many times, it doesn’t feel high once it’s full of people, unless you are in the front row you are sandwiched in, i would suggest waiting until it’s filling up rather than going in when it’s empty though. Coldplay are really chill

NOTANUM · 05/08/2025 09:18

I was in the same section a week ago - different night - and can’t understand what happened at all. The show was over and the fireworks aren’t that easy to see from the section. But you’d still need to be leaning over an entrance door or sector railing quite unnaturally in order to fall.

It was a lovely seat and my first time in the upper tiers but didn’t feel “high” at all. Yet I feel weird when I’m in certain seats in the theatre.

Go and have a great time!

chatgptsbestmate · 05/08/2025 09:16

My neice (age 27) saw Oasis at Wembley
Sat up high. No issue.
But she did get covered in beer as did everyone around her
People got very drunk/stoned, hence the throwing of beer
This was a Friday evening

Harrumphhhh · 05/08/2025 09:12

I sat high up for Taylor Swift and for the Euros final. When you very first step out of the stairwell into the stadium, it feels high, but once you’re in your seat and surrounded by people, it really doesn’t. Just take a deep breath as you come out of the tunnel, turn away from the arena (towards the seats) as you find your place, then relax once you’re there.

As someone else said, the crowd for the tube is more overwhelming! Again, just take it easy. Deep breaths, accept that it will take ages, enjoy the atmosphere (there will be lots of singing in the crowd!)

EveryOtherNameTaken · 05/08/2025 09:11

I'm scared of heights and was terrified at the 02 Arena, but not at Wembley. It doesn't feel particularly high or overly steep, even in the high seats.

Once they are sat down, they'll be fine. If you are two adults, one go at the front and one at the back going up the steps with them in the middle. If just you, go behind them so they feel secure.

Enjoy!

Bonsaibaby · 05/08/2025 09:05

I was almost on the highest row for Taylor swift and I don’t like heights but I didn’t feel unsafe of like I could fall anywhere.
what I didn’t like was the crowd after to get to the tube. It was managed but I felt bad for dd surrounded by taller people when she was already tired. Maybe leave slightly before the end to avoid crowds.

jetlag92 · 05/08/2025 09:02

I don't like heights and there's no way I'd sit up there!

Claysta · 05/08/2025 09:01

I saw Dua Lipa recently with my Dd (13) and a few of her friends and was up quite high, it really didn’t feel it and I didn’t feel rammed in. I would go as the kids will love the atmosphere and am sure Coldplay will put on an excellent show.

Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 08:55

@NewsdeskJC i did show them a little while ago, mainly because my daughter had visions of being within touching distance of Chris Martin 😁. So I wanted to manage expectations that he would be a little dot. They both were a bit worried about the height.

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