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To cancel our Wembley trip?

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Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 08:09

Firstly, this genuinely isn’t because someone really sadly fell and died from the upper tier on Saturday night, although it’s brought the issue to mind much more.

We’ve got Coldplay tickets for later this month at Wembley for the four of us (DC are 11 and 9). Thought it would be an amazing first concert for them, they’ve enjoyed Coldplay at Glastonbury and the crowd are generally quite chilled.

Our seats are in the 500s/upper tier. I had already warned the kids it’s high but that it’ll be amazing to see the stadium and all the lights etc. As we get closer to the date, I’m really thinking it’s a mistake - both my kids are not great with heights and tbh, neither am I but I’ve been in a situation where I’ve had to deal with it and ended up enjoying myself regardless.

I’ve read that sometimes staff at Wembley have been able to move people but I don’t think I could rely on that as an option! What would you do?

IABU - don’t cancel, go and see what it’s like and you might all enjoy it

IANBU - sell the tickets and catch them another time

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starafuzina · 05/08/2025 21:13

It is steep and I wouldn’t want to be on those tiers if people were drunk and jostly. But as others have said, really rare for an accident like that to happen. The whole area around Wembley has a strong security presence now and you can’t have alcohol in the street or wander about with it. I think for Coldplay you will be fine. Taking your kids to a gig at a stadium will be a magical experience for all of you!

Bowies · 05/08/2025 21:13

If your DC are easily overwhelmed Wembley is a huge venue with 90,000 capacity (and loud) so not an ideal environment, especially if they are not already very used to concerts.

Arriving and leaving early will be helpful not to be in a sea of people.

Coldplay will likely be fairly sedate in terms of crowd behaviour.

Agree with PP the high navigation to and from your seats could be a bit hair raising but fine once you’re sat down.

BejewelledCat · 05/08/2025 20:42

We were 511, row 22 last year for Greenday. We were fine up until a drunk guy in front of us got up to dance, fell over and landed on the people below him, knocking them out of their seats. He was hauled back up but to be honest, there's a reason why it says no standing on the upper tiers. After that, everyone in our section was very unsettled and it ruined the rest of the gig. We'll never take seats in the 500s again. It's not the height, it's the unpredictable, twattish behaviour of drunks making it dangerous for everyone else.

Bohemond23 · 05/08/2025 20:10

This thread has inspired me to buy Coldplay tickets for 30 Aug. AccordIng to VIAGOGO, resale prices are at their lowest for 7 days. DH and DS v excited.

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Kjpt140v · 05/08/2025 18:59

I vote you that you are being unreasonable. Unless your children's behaviour has been awful, no child deserves to be forced to watch Coldplay.

🙄

seenabeena · 05/08/2025 19:59

We were all stood up dancing in section 503 / row 17 for Oasis & it was fine.

we are in 501 / 37 for Coldplay 🙂

To cancel our Wembley trip?
Almondmarcd · 05/08/2025 19:51

I wouldn’t go, but that’s because it’s Coldplay.

Other than that I’d go, see how it is, leave if you think it’s not safe / suitable.

Danikm151 · 05/08/2025 19:50

Enter your seat number into google with Wembley Stadium and it may come up with a view from your seat. Or one nearby

RedRiverShore5 · 05/08/2025 19:48

I was going to say, perhaps best to leave just a bit early so you aren't crowded on the steps, you can listen to them anyway on the way down but I see you are.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 05/08/2025 19:46

We've booked one of the onsite car parks. Not had an issue getting out of them before.

Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 19:43

Actually, if anyone has an opinion on parking that’d be great. Choices are (both through just park)

a primary school 20 mins walk away. Manned and guaranteed spaces. Secure. DH and I parked there when we last went and it was great, just not sure about the walk with kids. Can’t remember it feeling dodgy but it’s different when you don’t have kids with you.

a driveway one tube stop up in kingsbury, close to the tube. Downside of this is even though we’ll be going the opposite way to most other people, we still have to get to the tube.

either way, we will likely leave 2 songs before the end. Any thoughts most appreciated

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Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 19:40

@Blades2 sorry I meant glasto on TV. Haven’t braved that with kids!

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Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 19:38

Thanks all! DH saw them a few years back and agree they are pretty spectacular live. For DCs first big concert, I think it’s a good one. I’ve been convinced 😁

Totally get they are not everyone’s cup of tea, but I defy anyone to see them play “Sky Full of Stars” live and not be moved. Not possible, surely?! 😉

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captureitrememberit · 05/08/2025 19:32

Having done both in the past year I found being at the top of the o2 much more scary than the top of Wembley.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 05/08/2025 19:30

We've seen Coldplay more times than I can count, and their stage presence/shows are genuinely amazing especially the lights/wristbands when it gets dark. And it's a good crowd. Don't miss out on an amazing experience. We're going in September and are in the lower tiers. Just get the set list from the earlier concerts and we always leave 2 songs before the end. You will still hear it/see the fireworks walking to the car/tube as Wembley is horrendous to get out from. We went by coach once and it didn't get out of the car park until 1am. Never again!

Blades2 · 05/08/2025 19:22

Ilovethatforyou · 05/08/2025 08:33

@Katflapkit thats it - I really wanted to give them a great experience. I also do want to teach them it’s ok to feel the fear and do it anyway… DS is quite sensitive and easily overwhelmed. I didn’t want to stress him out.

If he managed glasto, he will manage Wembley.
my kid is adhd and autistic and thrives in concerts.

Happyholidays78 · 05/08/2025 19:13

OP it sounds like the high seats are not bad at Wembley from the comment's here. I've always 'liked' Coldplay and watched them in Cardiff 2 years ago & I now completely LOVE them! They are fantastic live & I've never been to a gig like it, I am sure your family will really enjoy it & remember it forever. Enjoy. P.S what is it about people going out of their way to slag Coldplay off? Bizarre! If you don't like them don't go & certainly don't click on a page that mentions them!

Kjpt140v · 05/08/2025 18:59

I vote you that you are being unreasonable. Unless your children's behaviour has been awful, no child deserves to be forced to watch Coldplay.

Arran2024 · 05/08/2025 17:46

I have been up high at Wembley and it's much better than being up high at the 02. You adjust, and everyone around is doing it.

My husband even comes with it and he took a panic attack once at the Albert Hall when we were in the first row of the balcony and we had to be moved!

Brefugee · 05/08/2025 13:58

tbh if you don't ever let your children, or slightly push your children, to do things outside their comfort zone, you are doing them (and the rest of us who may have to interact with them in future) a big disservice.

Go. Thousands and thousands of people go to gigs there, and other similar places, all the time.

If you want steep, try the "Yellow Wall" at Borussia Dortmund's ground...

Have fun, despite their recent music being utter tripe, they do a good show.

ETA: take ear defendders for them.

DiscoBob · 05/08/2025 13:55

I wouldn't cancel. You will be supervising your children at all times. And frankly Coldplay isn't going to attract the same kind of drunken excessive crown you'd get for an Oasis reunion.

The accident at Oasis will have prompted an extremely meticulous review of safety measures and they'll need to prove they've taken steps to ensure that risk is fully accounted for and prepared for. So if anything it may be safer when you go than before the accident.

DorothyWainwright · 05/08/2025 13:44

You'll be fine. We were up in the 500's for Taylor and Harry. It's really ok once you've got your bearings.

There'll be far less alcohol at Coldplay than Oasis. Calmer crowd.

ns87 · 05/08/2025 11:47

Nah, Wembley is fine

Motomum23 · 05/08/2025 11:43

I'm block 500 front row for blackpink in a fortnight- more than happy to report back on any height issues - my dd13 isn't keen on heights but I was rather hoping she'll be too excited to be concerned.

LikeMyHeartIsAboutToStopBeating · 05/08/2025 11:43

I don’t have a sever fear of heights but found the top of the O2 almost unbearable. But the 500s at Wembley were absolutely fine - didn’t feel that horrible sense of peering down that I have at the O2.

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