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To pick my daughter up from holiday camp 150 odd miles away

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ShatnerssBasoon · 05/08/2025 07:49

Please be kind as first time posting properly and first time any of my children have been away without family. DD is 12 and has gone away to children's summer camp for 7 days. Went on Sunday... there's no mobile phones but she's called on camp computer at allocated time to say she is having a bad time and wants to come home. She was in tears and says other girls are not being nice and there's not much to do. She's in a communal tent with other girls but not hanging out with her. She has one local friend who's there but it's snubbing her now they are there. It breaks my heart a bit to have her crying and wanting to come home. I want to go and get her... DH says it's nuts and she'll be fine. What should I do? I work in MH and he says my judgement is clouds by this

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CurlewKate · 05/08/2025 07:52

I would talk to whoever’s in charge first.

EVHead · 05/08/2025 07:52

Go and get her: she’ll really appreciate it. It shows her you take her seriously, and will be there for her if she needs picking up in situations when she is unhappy.

(Making me recall 17 yo DD phoning me at 11pm from a house party she felt unsafe at!)

Ddakji · 05/08/2025 07:51

I would get in touch with the camp supervisors first to ensure they know how your DD is feeling - she may be hiding this from them. And first let them see if things can be sorted out.

Did she want to go to this camp?

FloraBotticelli · 05/08/2025 07:51

I would have a chat with the adults at the camp first. If you work in mental health you should know that it’s not bad for kids to feel difficult feelings. It’s bad for them to be left alone with those feelings. She’s not alone - you’ve listened to her and will comfort her when she gets home.

CatRescueNeeded · 05/08/2025 07:51

I would already be on the motorway

Topjoe19 · 05/08/2025 07:51

I'd be gone already! Poor girl.

GooseOnMyGrave · 05/08/2025 07:50

I would go and get her.

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