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To ask where you’d love to visit but are too scared to visit.

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Gawwwd · 04/08/2025 21:04

Mine is Haiti. Such a fascinating place and such an interesting (and predictably oppressed) history. I would so love to go there, but even if things improved there I’d likely still be far too chicken shit, truth be told.

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BadActingParsley · 05/08/2025 11:27

@Noodledog I went to Ethiopia to visit a friend about a decade ago, it was absolutely amazing - the early Christian churches were stunning. Such a huge amount of history that I'd been completely ignorant of (about?). So friendly, and it seemed like a country on the verge of finally embracing tourism and trade and just getting somewhere. New roads being built - which were transformational - new water systems.

Now....it's such a shame.

Noodledog · 05/08/2025 11:20

XWKD · 04/08/2025 21:13

I've always wanted to visit Iraq. I tried to get a visa in 2001 but I couldn't. Then it became too dangerous. I'd also love to visit Afghanistan and Iran, but Iraq and its history in the development of modern civilisation has always fascinated me.

These countries for me too. Also Ethiopia for the early Christian churches and Papua New Guinea because the scenery looks stunning.

BMW6 · 05/08/2025 11:00

I visited the Soviet Union way back in 1987 - stayed in Moscow and Leningrad (flew Aeroflot internally).

Fantastic experience but I bet its like everywhere else now.

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 05/08/2025 10:57

Iris2020 · 04/08/2025 22:15

Australia, because of the fauna....

Israel.

South Africa, although I'm not sure how safe it is.

Why are you afraid of Australian fauna?

Westfacing · 05/08/2025 10:56

Runnersandtoms · 05/08/2025 09:01

If you ever get to go, choose St Pete over Moscow. IMHO Moscow is a grey shithole, St Pete is beautiful.

Oh, I disagree about Moscow - how dare you say it's a shithole - I loved it Grin

Iran is getting a few mentions - it's fabulous apart from the ayatollahs!

KnittyNell · 05/08/2025 10:56

London these days!

KingfisherAmmonite · 05/08/2025 10:45

SpanThatWorld · 04/08/2025 23:24

I had a Syrian friend when I was at school in the mid 1980s.

I cant believe i turned down the chance to go and stay with them in Damascus one year.

I would have loved to visit Syria when it was in its prime.

I feel that even without the current issues so much has been destroyed that it would be depressing.

silverbirchlady · 05/08/2025 10:45

Cardinalita90 · 04/08/2025 21:39

I went to Jordan a couple of years ago and would recommend it in a heartbeat. Such lovely welcoming people and great history.

I'm trying to muster the courage to go to India next year. I'll either love it or hate it, and wouldn't feel safe going alone unfortunately.

Went on a tour to India last year . It was honestly amazing. If you are interested I can send you the details of the company we went with.

Bunny44 · 05/08/2025 10:37

whiteroseredrose · 05/08/2025 00:50

Mine is also Russia. I'm cross that I've missed my chance.

I'm surprised at some people's choices though. We travelled around the Yucatan peninsula in Mexico last year and it was fine.

Next year we're planning to go to Jordan for a week in April and then Cape Town and the Garden Route in October. Egypt and Cambodia are planned for the year after - assuming no war with Thailand.

The only places I've felt unsafe were in the USA. New Orleans was one. Lots of places have bizarre characters but the thought that they have guns makes me nervous.

I agree with you about the US. Also the quantity of XL Bully dogs and other big dog mixes (people use them as guard dogs) unmuzzled I found really worrying when I was out with my toddler. And the amount of drug addicts. I felt safer in Colombia than the US!

WestwardHo1 · 05/08/2025 10:27

suburberphobe · 05/08/2025 04:56

Loving this thread and am an avid traveller.

Been to Egypt, Morocco, Jordan, Israel, South Africa, Kenya, Mali, India, Cuba, all solo.

Wouldn't go to Russia or North Korea.

Good news about Uzbekistan, would love to go there.

I find myself recently single and have been musing on life and the fact that I haven't travelled much. Have been googling group travel for solo travellers and am drawn to Uzbekistan, well all the stans really. Have read a couple of really interesting books on the Silk Road and would love to see some of those cities.

Also partly because I want to see the expression on my mother's face when I breezily tell her I'm off to Uzbekistan. She's scared of any Abroad other than France.

MrsHamlet · 05/08/2025 10:11

Midnightlove · 05/08/2025 00:27

Well i had been planning to go to Israel in the near future before it all kicked off again.. also, mongolia

I've been to Mongolia. Felt perfectly safe.

Radiatorvalves · 05/08/2025 10:04

AtlasPine · 04/08/2025 21:16

I’d love to travel solo to Kashmir but don’t have the courage.

Me too. Whether things will change, I doubt it, but it’s been in my long list for years.

irregularegular · 05/08/2025 10:02

I follow the UK government travel advisories and I don't think I would be "scared" of travelling to anywhere that is isn't red/orange on their maps (ie avoid all travel/avoid all but essential travel). But in most countries there would be parts of certain cities that I would be wary of at certain times. That includes the Uk!

Current warnings for Sri Lanka are the same as eg France.

MyOtherProfile · 05/08/2025 10:01

AffIt · 05/08/2025 09:56

We were in Sri Lanka in 2020 and it was fine, although there was a very visible armed police presence on the streets of Colombo because there had been a few explosions in recent weeks.

There are ongoing scuffles, but they tend to be in the north of the country, away from most of the tourist centres.

It was summer 2022 when it got a bit hairy. Friends of ours were due to go there and we were watching the news closely. They postponed their trip until things calmed down.

AffIt · 05/08/2025 09:56

MyOtherProfile · 05/08/2025 09:49

Perhaps the worry about Sri Lanka is because of the civil unrest there a couple of years ago?

Edited to add that it was actually 3 years ago, but it was a bit scary with politicians' houses set on fire.

Edited

We were in Sri Lanka in 2020 and it was fine, although there was a very visible armed police presence on the streets of Colombo because there had been a few explosions in recent weeks.

There are ongoing scuffles, but they tend to be in the north of the country, away from most of the tourist centres.

MyOtherProfile · 05/08/2025 09:54

Starlight1984 · 05/08/2025 09:51

I mean, if you apply that kind of logic then pretty much every single country in the world would be deemed as unsafe.

It was pretty scary at the time though, and I can't think of many countries right now that I would travel to where top politicians are having their houses burnt down.

Starlight1984 · 05/08/2025 09:51

MyOtherProfile · 05/08/2025 09:49

Perhaps the worry about Sri Lanka is because of the civil unrest there a couple of years ago?

Edited to add that it was actually 3 years ago, but it was a bit scary with politicians' houses set on fire.

Edited

I mean, if you apply that kind of logic then pretty much every single country in the world would be deemed as unsafe.

MyOtherProfile · 05/08/2025 09:49

Perhaps the worry about Sri Lanka is because of the civil unrest there a couple of years ago?

Edited to add that it was actually 3 years ago, but it was a bit scary with politicians' houses set on fire.

AffIt · 05/08/2025 09:48

Very pleased to hear of PPs' experiences in the 'Stans (Uzbekistan, Kazakhstan etc), as I've always wanted to travel to these countries but was concerned that they were off the list for now.

I'd also love to visit Russia, Georgia, Iraq and Iran.

Perhaps the world will magically resolve itself in the next 20 years and that will be my retirement present to myself!

maxandru · 05/08/2025 09:43

Sri Lanka is lovely and the people are absolutely the loveliest most gentle people I’ve ever met!

Starlight1984 · 05/08/2025 09:42

EmmaD11 · 05/08/2025 09:19

Sri Lanka is great. I went to watch England play cricket there a few years ago. I never felt in the slightest bit uneasy even outside the tourist areas.

Yeah I'm baffled by Sri Lanka too?! It's probably the safest and friendliest country I've ever been to (and I've been to loads mentioned in these comments!)

MagnificentBastard · 05/08/2025 09:27

South Africa.

Fen476 · 05/08/2025 09:20

WaryCrow · 05/08/2025 00:20

I’ve always been interested in history and in the beginnings of civilization in the Near East in particular. Trouble is the Near East is now a hell hole especially for women. So anywhere there really. I do not want to be just on the ‘beaten paths’ or guarded gate enclaves for tourists, I actually want to see what these places are like so I’m not even too confident in the idea of visiting Egypt or Turkey, and Jordan, Iran or Iraq have long been off my list. Syria and Yemen are war zones of course. Many of the Silk Road Towns are also in very very questionable countries.

It makes you wonder about humans, more specifically men, that this is how those of us responsible for producing the future can expect to be treated. There is not much hope from men. I am glad the birth rate is falling.

I went to Jordan solo and it was amazing, it's small so you can get around really easily. In Spain and France as a solo traveller I've been flashed, groped and propositioned for sex, in Jordan a shopkeeper mimed undoing his trousers and I thought 'here we go' - but nope he was just trying to alert me to the fact that I was walking around Madaba with the back of my skirt undone....

Turkey is also wonderful, I remember running around the huge bus station in Antalya trying to find where to catch the bus and the guys there all helping me out, same at Fethiye dolmus station. Istanbul and Cappadocia are amazing! Egypt on the other hand I wouldn't go back to and wouldn't be so keen to travel around solo. The hassle is just too much.

EmmaD11 · 05/08/2025 09:19

irregularegular · 05/08/2025 08:57

I had the impression from Sri Lanka was a fairly easy and safe place to visit. Much more relaxed than India. A number of friends have been. Looks lovely!

Sri Lanka is great. I went to watch England play cricket there a few years ago. I never felt in the slightest bit uneasy even outside the tourist areas.

Daffodilsarefading · 05/08/2025 09:07

Afghanistan
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