Second hand cuddly toy for newborn baby

workingitout1234 · 2025-08-04T18:04:40+00:00

Bought on Vinted nice thing to gift or no? thoughts?

DelphiniumDoreen · 07/08/2025 21:33

If they had washed it before gifting I wouldn’t be offended. In fact, I would be glad they had bought second hand.

Look up a company called Loved Before. They’re on Instagram. It’s seriously eye opening to see how damaging all those NEW little teddies are because so many that go to charities actually end up in landfill.

Flowers1985 · 07/08/2025 20:49

ThejoyofNC · 04/08/2025 19:18

My opinion is probably invalid because I wouldn't use anything at all second hand for my newborn, but no.

I agree

Didimum · 07/08/2025 20:47

Yes. Consumerism is disgustingly wasteful. Re-use as much as possible. Not one harm will come to the newborn.

AutumnFoxe · 07/08/2025 20:33

SugarMarshmallow · 07/08/2025 19:44

I’m a half and half sort of mum. There are some things I want brand new and there are some things I’d happily use second hand. I love Vinted for outfits that would cost £20 that I get for a £5.
I am really funny with things like bottles, toys, dummies, especially teethers. I don’t think I could have used a second hand next to me crib or Moses.

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Thats fair enough i understand some things people arent comfortable with. Both my kids have/had 2nd hand next to me cribs, cots and moses baskets, clothes, toys. The only real new things they got was towels and dummys.

SugarMarshmallow · 07/08/2025 19:44

AutumnFoxe · 07/08/2025 19:39

Lol i think everything my dd has ever owned has been 2nd hand from charity shops. Future ds is also fully 2nd hand when he arrives. Some people are just snobs. Providing the item in question isnt damaged or dirty theres no issue. No wonder theres a landfill crisis happening.

I’m a half and half sort of mum. There are some things I want brand new and there are some things I’d happily use second hand. I love Vinted for outfits that would cost £20 that I get for a £5.
I am really funny with things like bottles, toys, dummies, especially teethers. I don’t think I could have used a second hand next to me crib or Moses.

AutumnFoxe · 07/08/2025 19:39

Lol i think everything my dd has ever owned has been 2nd hand from charity shops. Future ds is also fully 2nd hand when he arrives. Some people are just snobs. Providing the item in question isnt damaged or dirty theres no issue. No wonder theres a landfill crisis happening.

Moonlightbean123 · 07/08/2025 19:27

workingitout1234 · 07/08/2025 19:03

Are you okay

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😂😂😂 oh, op give it up please!!! Go and check your inventory or something fun like that!!

Bleachedlevis · 07/08/2025 19:15

Nottodaythankyou123 · 04/08/2025 21:45

Sorry I’m derailing here - does it need to be soaked or anything, or just literally hung up dry in the sun?!

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Most stains held under cold running water should disappear.

Bleachedlevis · 07/08/2025 19:13

ThejoyofNC · 04/08/2025 21:21

If you're not willing to spend time removing stains then you're just as wasteful.

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🤣 Priceless response! Lol

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workingitout1234 · 07/08/2025 19:03

Moonlightbean123 · 07/08/2025 08:00

what im trying to say is if you have a thought process of thinking you might not keep something due to bed bugs (ops the one who brought this up not me) then you dont turn around and say ill give it to charity lol. You'd bin it. If I dont want to risk it for myself then im not risking it for others. Thats my point lol. I think op was trying to pass comment to not open herself up to criticism by mentioning bed bugs and charity shop because you're 100 per cent right... she doesn't think it has bed bugs, shes talking nonsense.

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Moonlightbean123 · 07/08/2025 08:00

BertieBotts · 06/08/2025 22:34

She doesn't think it has bed bugs, she just doesn't want it because it's second hand and there is a miniscule possibility it might have bed bugs but clothes are fine 🤷‍♀️

Not sure why knowing a house would make you more aware of potential bug contamination, it's not like they hold up a sign announcing their presence.

what im trying to say is if you have a thought process of thinking you might not keep something due to bed bugs (ops the one who brought this up not me) then you dont turn around and say ill give it to charity lol. You'd bin it. If I dont want to risk it for myself then im not risking it for others. Thats my point lol. I think op was trying to pass comment to not open herself up to criticism by mentioning bed bugs and charity shop because you're 100 per cent right... she doesn't think it has bed bugs, shes talking nonsense.

Marcipix · 06/08/2025 22:39

No and I would bin it.

BertieBotts · 06/08/2025 22:35

Indeed you have the choice to accept or refuse entry of any item into your home. I am not sure that is a gendered thing.

BertieBotts · 06/08/2025 22:34

She doesn't think it has bed bugs, she just doesn't want it because it's second hand and there is a miniscule possibility it might have bed bugs but clothes are fine 🤷‍♀️

Not sure why knowing a house would make you more aware of potential bug contamination, it's not like they hold up a sign announcing their presence.

Moonlightbean123 · 06/08/2025 22:20

workingitout1234 · 06/08/2025 22:10

Someone who is happy to take that risk on can choose to buy it or not to.
I’m not happy to take that risk on

as women we are often in charge of the inventory of our homes and we have to draw the line sometimes at what can and cannot stay in our homes or risk having endless items to maintain clean and store and it gets ridiculous

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Op, If you suspect something has bed bugs you don't send it to the charity shop. Ppl buying from charity shops arent probably even thinking of such things so when you say its their choice, it just sounds silly, not to mention the spread of the bed bugs within the shop. Also, I have no idea what the other stuff you wrote was in relation to, I made no comment about ones 'inventory' !! That's your business what you have in your home and I'm in agreement that one can have what ever one want, in ones 'inventory'. 🤦‍♀️

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workingitout1234 · 06/08/2025 22:10

Moonlightbean123 · 05/08/2025 23:45

Op why would you give it to charity if you're worried it has bed bugs ?

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Someone who is happy to take that risk on can choose to buy it or not to.
I’m not happy to take that risk on

as women we are often in charge of the inventory of our homes and we have to draw the line sometimes at what can and cannot stay in our homes or risk having endless items to maintain clean and store and it gets ridiculous

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Dstoat · 06/08/2025 00:15

Gross. There’s no way I’d give a second hand soft toy for a newborn. Most cant be properly washed and dried and even then…ewww

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/08/2025 00:10

Why on earth no? If you care about that baby’s future, recycling is surely the way to go?

GoAwayNaughtyPigeon · 05/08/2025 23:58

To give to someone else's child? No. But I readily admit that one of DD2's Christmas presents this year (she is only 2 days old atm 😂) will be a wrapped up teddy and blanket that her older sister abandoned a long time ago, long enough that DD1 won't even remember they were once technically hers. I wouldn't regift DD1's things to her newborn sister if I suspected she'd know it was "hers", but I'm also not going out and buying a new teddy/blanket to give to a newborn who won't even know wtf it is lol

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/08/2025 23:45

Oh for goodness’ sake, of course it’s fine! Pop it through a wash/dry without detergent.

Moonlightbean123 · 05/08/2025 23:45

workingitout1234 · 04/08/2025 22:51

They are not short of money. Not at all, they told me it was Vinted, not a special brand jellycat just a bog standard teddy. Can’t understand it why bother. Will probably pop in charity bag in case of bed bugs etc
if I knew the home it had come from different story but we don’t 🤷🏻‍♀️

Op why would you give it to charity if you're worried it has bed bugs ?

Moonlightbean123 · 05/08/2025 23:44

ScrambledEggs12 · 04/08/2025 20:02

My 5 year old gave her pregnant teacher one of her (barely touched) jellycat bunnies (I did also contribute to class collection). Thought that was quite sweet at the time, up to the teacher if she used it though!

Aww but that's got sentimental value because it was hers... that's so sweet of her to give this to her teacher.

everardshutthatdoor · 04/08/2025 23:14

I would be honest and say thank you for the thought but you've decided to regift to charity as you don't feel comfortable with not knowing where it came from.

Something that might get a lot of cuddling needs to be box fresh.

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workingitout1234 · 04/08/2025 22:51

They are not short of money. Not at all, they told me it was Vinted, not a special brand jellycat just a bog standard teddy. Can’t understand it why bother. Will probably pop in charity bag in case of bed bugs etc
if I knew the home it had come from different story but we don’t 🤷🏻‍♀️

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everardshutthatdoor · 04/08/2025 22:31

I had second hand everything for our PFB and even I would baulk at a second hand soft toy. Are they perhaps short of money but wanted to give you something? It's a weird gift.