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To be really upset DH bought DD an electric scooter I said no to?

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AspDude · 04/08/2025 15:43

I said no because I don’t think she’s old enough (8), and I worry about safety. They’re not toys and I’ve seen how fast they go. DH knew how I felt, we’ve had the conversation more than once. This morning he just handed her one as a surprise while I was making breakfast. Huge excitement, I had to smile through it but I’m livid. He says I’m overreacting and it’s not a big deal but I feel totally undermined. We’re meant to be on the same page with this stuff. I don’t even want her to have it now on principle.

AIBU to be this upset?

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AmyDudley · 04/08/2025 16:00

GasPanic · 04/08/2025 15:51

Depends how fast it goes I guess.

I saw someone zooming around on the road on an electric bike without a helmet - asking for trouble if you ask me. They must have been going at least 30 mph.

If it is speed limited to say 10mph it probably won't be much worse than a pushbike which a lot of kids have at that age ?

Does she already ride a bike and have a helmet and have decent road sense/respect for other pedestrians/road users ?

Both of those things would affect my opinion on whether it is a good idea or not.

Makes no difference as she's not allowed to ride it on roads or where there are pedestrians. Unless the husband thinks its fine for his child to break the law.

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 04/08/2025 15:58

As others have said, they are illegal except on private land.

Your husband sounds like an idiot

NewHat · 04/08/2025 15:57

Why does he want her to have one so badly?

AmyDudley · 04/08/2025 15:57

It's illegal to ride them in publc places (including parks etc.) so she'll be a bit limited unless you have a lot of land.
It was a stupid thing for him to do, especially when you've already discussed it, also a very expensive 'surprise' why is it so important to him that she has one of these? Most 8 yr olds I see round here are quite happy riding the traditional type of rider propelled scooter.

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/08/2025 15:56

They're illegal outude private land. Most of the teenagers round here that have them are drug couriers. 8 is far too young.

Lafufufu · 04/08/2025 15:53

Yanbu

Firstly because of what it is.
Secondly in our house we dont randomly and unilaterally give the kids £100+ presents it's birthday and Christmas only.

I hope he bothered to buy a helmet, knee and elbow pads too...

summersingsinme · 04/08/2025 15:53

It doesn't matter whether it's a good idea or not (although I'm with you - too young for something like that). What matters is you made a parenting decision together and he overrode you and is now telling you that you have no right to be cross about it.

Does he often feel he should have the final say in things?

TheFormidableMrsC · 04/08/2025 15:52

They seize them regularly outside my son’s school. They are pointless and dangerous, never mind be undermined that way. It goes back.

GasPanic · 04/08/2025 15:51

Depends how fast it goes I guess.

I saw someone zooming around on the road on an electric bike without a helmet - asking for trouble if you ask me. They must have been going at least 30 mph.

If it is speed limited to say 10mph it probably won't be much worse than a pushbike which a lot of kids have at that age ?

Does she already ride a bike and have a helmet and have decent road sense/respect for other pedestrians/road users ?

Both of those things would affect my opinion on whether it is a good idea or not.

Fedupandstressed · 04/08/2025 15:48

They ARE illegal apart from private land. So unless you have a few acres lying around, she’ll just be going up and down your drive.

Police round here love seizing them. Then they get crushed.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/08/2025 15:45

Miles too young. And those things shouldn’t be riden on the pavement at all, or round park paths. They are vehicles.

So unless you want your dd driving it alone on the roads, it needs to go back.

I think they’re illegal outside of designated areas / private land?

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