To be really upset DH bought DD an electric scooter I said no to?

Wow get him to watch the video @TashaGposted. So heartbreaking.

Someone was killed in Dublin yesterday on one. We don't have the infrastructure to support them at tge mo ent and that makes users exceptionally vulnerable.

Your dd might soon get sick of only going up and down the drive and decide to take it down the road.

I'd get rid for your own peace of mind. It doesn't matter if youre seen as mean mum....it's a small sacrifice for protecting your dd and potentially others.

Your DH is obviously remarkably thick. They are clearly dangerous and illegal on public roads, pavements and paths.

My DD (15) was on one on private farm land this weekend, she came off and has scrapes all over her knees and arms. Luckily she was wearing a helmet because her head did hit the floor. I wouldn't let my 10 year old have a go so luckily he didn't get a chance to injure himself.

Anyone letting an 8 year old ride an electric scooter is not only stupid but also not fit to be a parent.

You are not BU to be upset about what your husband did, nor BU to think DD is too young, nor BU to thing there are serious safety issues with these. In fact you are being perfectly reasonable in how you feel. The message this sends about how he values your opinion is a bad one. This isn't about him choosing a painting you didn't like, it's a complete undermining of your joint parenting of your shared child.

Yes, they’re banned on public transport and in high rise buildings due to the incredible fire risk of lithium batteries.

I wouldn’t have one on my property.

There was a woman in Aberdeen who was convicted recently of letting her under-10 year old daughter drive her car around the local area. Child was barefoot, too small to see over the dashboard, weather was inclement and the mother was filming it all.

Sounds right up OP's husband's street. I'd report him to the police before I let her go out on one of those things.

I actually think there should be criminal charges against parents that give these things to children who then get injured or killed. That's how dangerous they are. Parental responsibility should mean something.
The fire risk is also horrendous, I work in insurance and would never allow one into my house.

My friend’s 14 year old was almost killed recently when he was riding a friend’s electric scooter in the park, lost control and hit a tree. He had a severe head injury and it is a miracle he is alive with no long term consequences. I wouldn’t let my children on them - it is a hard no.

I was on my way to the supermarket when two boys of about 8/9 riding on one e-scooter suddenly swerved in front of me and stopped. I wound down my window and told them that it was illegal to ride it on the road. One of them shouted back ,"We don't care!"

The local FB page is full of complaints regarding e-scooters.

I would be absolutely fuming too OP.

Your 'DH' completely disregarded your (very valid and sensible) opinion on this.

Your DD is too young. Electric scooters are lethal. None of my teenage kids have ever been allowed one.

Just a few weeks ago, I saw a young man lying in the road with his face smashed to a pulp after falling from one of these wretched things.

WTF....she's 8!!!

Be an absolute fucking tragedy if a screwdriver fell into its charging port in the night OP. Damn those tools.

They are potentially lethal. Recent very close experience where a child is suffering life-changing injuries. I think back to their inception and thinking how cool it would be for DS and thank the Angel that smacked me round the head with a sack of sense.

Can you return it?

Well you definitely didn't need to "aibu" this, because you very clearly aren't and I cannot even think of a word to describe your husband!!

I'd be livid if my sons dad (Ex) bought one when he was a teenager.
But for a HUSBAND to override you like that, and her only being 8? I would probably be angrier than I've ever been!

-Undermining
-Surprising you both at the same time, forcing you to either agree or be the mean one
-Lack of research into what he's buying for his young child, either thick as shit or just doesn't care that much bigger children die on these things
-Dismissing the legal side
and, not the most important but still very valid - making a financial decision like that without even letting you know!
That's no partner.

Blimey OP, I'd stand my ground on this one.

I’d be so angry OP and I wouldn’t care about being seen as the mean mum or upsetting DD. Take it back or dump it.

Yeah, he’s out of order.

You’re going to have to sit the fuckwit down and be blunt. Does he want to be the fun dad with an injured or worse child, or a proper parent?

I would be beyond furious with him for all the reasons stated. He would be the one taking it back and telling her why.

Your DH is an utter fuckwit!

They are illegal for good reason as they are far too fast and powerful. An 8 year old is also far too young to understand this or control it unless you have acres and acres of off-road land, which you admit you haven't, like most of us.

A couple of years ago my eldest DD (then 28) was walking along Tottenham Court Road in London (on the footpath) and was hit from behind by a delivery rider on an ebike (also on the footpath when they should have been on the road). She was knocked unconscious for several minutes and taken to hospital, battered and bruised. We were lucky that it wasn't much, much worse.

This is pure Disney Dad behaviour, he wants to be the one who gives your DD anything she wants with no regard to law or safety. If the sellers won't take it back I'd take it to the police so he can't hide it away somewhere

I'd take it to the tip. I couldn't just wait for her to have an accident.

I feel sorry for op because they did talk it though, but then the DH went end did his own thing anyway.

Op yanbu