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Sex and The City

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Theteenandme · 04/08/2025 13:40

I've never watched it before (apart from half the episode where Carrie loses her shoes and is a bitch about it). Its absolutely awful and such bad acting!

Did people really like it originally? Or was it one of those things people said they liked because they thought they should?

I dont think it's just looking at it through modern eyes. I cant imagine I would have thought much of it at the time either.

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SpaceRaccoon · 04/08/2025 15:50

I think it was calling the transwomen half woman half man, several times that shocked me. I don't think anyone on either side of the trans debate would find that acceptable now!

I just wouldn't find it accurate really.
I just saw an episode where a guy rocks up who was skinwalking Samantha and she's horrified! No careful use of the "she" pronoun there.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 04/08/2025 15:49

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 04/08/2025 15:37

Samantha and Miranda had the funniest scenes and showed the brilliance of their comedy skills:

Samantha
The guy with the tiny penis
The guy with the huge penis
The guy with the.. Bad tasting Cum 🤢

Miranda
The guy who wanted rimming
The guy who left the bathroom door open

Also Charlotte's guy with the abusive language when he Came and.. Face licker guy 😂😂

Miranda also loved the British soap Jules and Mimi. Friggin loved her analysis of British class - he's from Brixton, and she's from Hampstead Heath. I'm not sure what that means exactly but it seems to be this great divide.
Makes me giggle just thinking of it!

MBJ15 · 04/08/2025 15:49

I loved it and I’m sad and just like that is also ending!

GoneGirl12345 · 04/08/2025 15:48

SpaceRaccoon · 04/08/2025 15:13

I liked those two episodes at the time but find them really problematic now! Weird given it presented itself as so progressive.

I think their desparation for men and the nuttier stuff like circumcision haven't aged well, but honestly the gender/trans stuff is of a saner time.

I think it was calling the transwomen half woman half man, several times that shocked me. I don't think anyone on either side of the trans debate would find that acceptable now!

WhiteNoiseBlur · 04/08/2025 15:46

Naah hard disagree, it’s so so good! Skip series one and go straight for the second - the first series is easily the worst (and the most dated of course). They stop talking directly to the camera from series 2 which helps!

x2boys · 04/08/2025 15:45

DiggingHoles · 04/08/2025 15:08

What irritated me was the abortion fake-out story that so many shows did during that time. Miranda got pregnant, planned an abortion and then didn't go through with it. Why not just leave the abortion part out of it then? It felt so moralistic to see nearly all female characters in shows around that time change their mind. They only wrote these scenarios because the actresses of these characters happened to be pregnant at that time and they had to write in something dramatic to explain the character being pregnant and it was always a damn abortion fake-out.

Only Scandal actually had Olivia go through with it and it was revolutionary. Still is, considering the abortion rights women in the US have lost.

Carrie and Sammanths did discuss the fact they had both had abortion, s though
And I think it just showed that Miranda just changed her mind some women do.

MargoLivebetter · 04/08/2025 15:42

I never liked it despite really wanting to. I was just turning 30 when it hit the small screen for the first time and I lived and worked in London and was so excited to see what my US counterparts were doing in NYC. I remember being so disappointed. They seemed to be having much less fun and spent far too much time focused on things and so much angst. The only one I felt I might remotely like in real life was Samantha!

I persisted to try and see if I could ever find anything to love, but I never really did. Some of the observations were amusing, the fashion was interesting and I enjoyed the buzz of NY, but the characters and their lives never really connected with me. The most recent series is dreadful.

missmushroom · 04/08/2025 15:41

I couldn't get in to it tbh i found it boring.
But i knew plenty that loved it.
Same goes for other programs and series.
Friends i hated it so boring so cringe yet others liked it.
I like die hard & bangkok dangerous others hate it.
Love the series the big bang theory my sister cant stand it but yet will watch sex and the city on repeat.

x2boys · 04/08/2025 15:40

Theteenandme · 04/08/2025 13:40

I've never watched it before (apart from half the episode where Carrie loses her shoes and is a bitch about it). Its absolutely awful and such bad acting!

Did people really like it originally? Or was it one of those things people said they liked because they thought they should?

I dont think it's just looking at it through modern eyes. I cant imagine I would have thought much of it at the time either.

Yes I really liked it HTH.

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 04/08/2025 15:37

Samantha and Miranda had the funniest scenes and showed the brilliance of their comedy skills:

Samantha
The guy with the tiny penis
The guy with the huge penis
The guy with the.. Bad tasting Cum 🤢

Miranda
The guy who wanted rimming
The guy who left the bathroom door open

Also Charlotte's guy with the abusive language when he Came and.. Face licker guy 😂😂

TooManyCupsAndMugs · 04/08/2025 15:32

AleaEim · 04/08/2025 15:18

I disagree, Sex Education have and do it better, they are way more inclusive without trying to be hard to be woke just for the sake of it.

I don't know that show as well but I don't think SATC was originally 'woke' and I do think it's portrayal of female sex was groundbreaking at the time; certainly in the US.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/08/2025 15:24

Charabanc · 04/08/2025 15:22

But SATC paved the way for Girls, and Girls paved the way for Sex Education. Just like Skins paved the way for Euphoria. There was nothing like SATC before SATC.

Agree

Charabanc · 04/08/2025 15:22

AleaEim · 04/08/2025 15:18

I disagree, Sex Education have and do it better, they are way more inclusive without trying to be hard to be woke just for the sake of it.

But SATC paved the way for Girls, and Girls paved the way for Sex Education. Just like Skins paved the way for Euphoria. There was nothing like SATC before SATC.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 04/08/2025 15:22

I was early 20s when it was big and everyone loved it. My colleague used to have SATC parties every week to watch new episodes. My SIL was obsessed. Emails would go around with links to take quizzes to see which character you relate to. Personally I couldn't see the attraction and felt a bit left out. The dialogue around sex was shocking and I get that was groundbreaking at the time. It's still a bit shocking even now, its not usual to hear women talk like that. However i couldn't stand any of the characters, I just had nothing in common with any of them. I guess they were supposed to be more caricatures of different personality types but I didn't relate to any of it and just couldn't get into it.

AleaEim · 04/08/2025 15:18

TooManyCupsAndMugs · 04/08/2025 15:16

I enjoyed it at the time, I sometimes watch the repeats on Saturday night. Carrie was a bit of a love-to-hate character at the time but the other 3 were fab, plus genuinely fun characters like Stanford and Harry made it watchable. And as others have said, NO other show discussed and showed female sex and sexuality in such depth either before or since.

I disagree, Sex Education have and do it better, they are way more inclusive without trying to be hard to be woke just for the sake of it.

TooManyCupsAndMugs · 04/08/2025 15:16

I enjoyed it at the time, I sometimes watch the repeats on Saturday night. Carrie was a bit of a love-to-hate character at the time but the other 3 were fab, plus genuinely fun characters like Stanford and Harry made it watchable. And as others have said, NO other show discussed and showed female sex and sexuality in such depth either before or since.

GroovyChick87 · 04/08/2025 15:16

I loved it. I first saw it when I was about 15 and quickly got addicted to it. I enjoyed both movies although they were cringe and I also like And Just Like That. There were definitely faults and inconsistencies with it and bits that irritated me about their characters but it's my favourite of all time.

samplesalequeen · 04/08/2025 15:16

TheatreTraveller · 04/08/2025 13:49

I absolutely loved it!!! I have so much nostalgia fir it and still love it now 😍 She was needy and could be awful and wasn't perfect! That was the point.
I also totally 100% agreed with her about the shoes! I'm certainly not a follower of anything popular or fashionable. I just enjoyed it.

Agree. I still love it and rewatch it regularly.

Lazywalker · 04/08/2025 15:16

I really liked SATC when it first came out. Took me years to realise how much of a nightmare Carey was though!!

Turned off AJLT after about four episodes, so woke and it just ruined it. Also no Samantha = no SATC, sorry!

Charabanc · 04/08/2025 15:16

PermanentTemporary · 04/08/2025 15:15

I remember watching Borgen and a character had ill advised sex, got pregnant and had an abortion all in episode 1. Made me realise how in US TV shows and even most films no woman ever actually has an abortion - the pro choice bit is that they consider the option, that’s it. Tbh it’s not that common in uk to either. It was amazing to watch Always, Often, Sometimes, Never (? going to have to check the title).

But they talked about having had abortions on SATC. People watching it now don't realise how much ground it broke for women back then.

PermanentTemporary · 04/08/2025 15:15

I remember watching Borgen and a character had ill advised sex, got pregnant and had an abortion all in episode 1. Made me realise how in US TV shows and even most films no woman ever actually has an abortion - the pro choice bit is that they consider the option, that’s it. Tbh it’s not that common in uk to either. It was amazing to watch Always, Often, Sometimes, Never (? going to have to check the title).

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/08/2025 15:14

Bingbangboo · 04/08/2025 14:32

I loved it when it came out and I still love it now. I agree that the first series is a slightly different format and the continuing themes gel better as you move through the series.

For full disclosure I also love Girls and I know that has a marmite reputation.

I LOVED Girls too.

SATC was of its time and the films best not watched at all .

Charabanc · 04/08/2025 15:14

JHound · 04/08/2025 15:12

Those episodes were cringe and now rewatching the episodes where Carrie dates a bisexual man and Charlotte is horrified to learn the man she is dating is uncircumcised….

I liked those two episodes at the time but find them really problematic now! Weird given it presented itself as so progressive.

But you have to understand that lots of American men are circumcised, not just Jewish men.

SATC is so unpopular and unwatchable that there are two current threads on Mumsnet about it 😆

AleaEim · 04/08/2025 15:14

I loved it in my early twenties and only started watching it because I watched the film and wanted to see what the hype was, I was def just trying to fit in and pretended to love it more than I did. I genuinely thought my life would end up like theirs and in some ways it did help me live out my dreams of living in NY and London so I have that to be thankful for BUT I watched all over again and couldn’t believe how shit it was, it def hasn’t aged well however it’s not much more cringe than other US shows aimed at females tbh. ANJT is so so rubbish but I’m currently watching it at moment so my standards mustn’t have changed since my twenties 🤣

SpaceRaccoon · 04/08/2025 15:13

I liked those two episodes at the time but find them really problematic now! Weird given it presented itself as so progressive.

I think their desparation for men and the nuttier stuff like circumcision haven't aged well, but honestly the gender/trans stuff is of a saner time.