Should residents be able to 'police' sections of their street?

Tut OP.
You should know by now that the only animals that cannot pee outside in public spaces are dogs.

Yeah, I am with you OP, that is a complete overreaction. And the over inflated disgust towards you is unnecessary!

I think this thread is pathetic. How small your life must be to care about a patch of council owned grass and a bunch of geraniums. There are much bigger things in the world that are way more important.

I can see your neighbour's point of view. She's trying to make the area look nice and you're letting your dog piss on it. Surely you can get the dog to go in the gutter.

Why don't you buy a square (as big as you can carry) of artificial grass, let the dog use it, then take up up, put it in a bag and wash it for next time?

Dogs wee and poo (which we pick up) when out on walks. Usually mine have always had their long wee in garden prior to taking out so the rest are just fake pees.

For those who live in flats their only option is to take for walks, which they should.

I dont understand how this is so offensive? Public grass, so anyone who plants flowers is from own free will and while lovely to do so, the reality is that they will be trampled on by kids and dogs.

I do understand but sorry no one can claim a public area? Xxx

The premise of what she’s saying I don’t think is wrong, it’s the way she went about getting it across. Yes she may be annoyed but if anyone thinks you can just stop a dog peeing, think again. Dogs have to go like us, they don’t use a toilet and can pee wherever they are. The bottom line is, annoyed or not you can’t stop people from using a public space 🤷🏻♀️ But you can get them to take care of it by getting your point across in a non-aggressive way.

It was YOU wasn't it? 😈

I like this or had no idea dogs once peed in the gutter would make life so much more pleasant if mine knew how to do this

So you want the right to allow your dog to piss wherever it wants, even if that is essentially in a space she's adopted as a community garden. 🤔

YABVU. Sure, its not "hers" but she's doing the community a favour by taking it in hand, and this is how the "community" repays her. By getting their dog to piss on it.

Well, they do say no good deed goes unpunished.

What I can't understand is why you're not mortified, but instead have decided to defiantly assert your dog's right to piss wherever it pleases.

When I was little and we had a dog, we always had to put it in the gutter when it started to do a poo, but I have never heard of it being done when the dog only wanted a wee. Most male dogs go up lamp posts or anything else that takes its fancy. The smell from dog urine seems to dissipate in the air almost immediately!

As a dog owner myself you will be in not be surprised that I think this woman is being totally unreasonable.

This is not her land, she plants a few cheap plants and treats it’s like her personal RHS.

No one asked her to plant them, does she have her own garden to plant the plants she chooses to plant - if so then i suggest you tell her to do that in future.

Public space is for all to enjoy, unless she wants to arrange a 24 hour surveillance on this particular patch of land she needs to get a life.

No reasons from you are needed in my opinion, you dog needs a walk and will of course need to wee etc that’s life if not in your garden then somewhere else.

She has no right to restrict or intimidate you or you dog those that think otherwise are also control freaks !

I'm astounded at many of the responses here- dogs need to go and it's not her land. All she had to say was 'is it possible that you can get your dog to wee away from the flowers I'm planting to make the verge look nice" and you'd have been "oh of course" then taken it elsewhere another time. There's no need for aggression. And getting the dog to wee in the gutter...boy dogs in particular want to mark their territories and sniffing out other dog's scents is part of their socialising process. Ignore the batshit woman and just take your dog elsewhere. I hope you feel better soon

This.

This is a joke, right?

Yes I'd prefer that dogs didn't wee on my front wall but I accept that if they have to go, they have to go. And pray for rain.

IMO if you are going to try to exclude certain things (or exercise control) over land that you have absolutely no entitlement to, you have to be reasonable and polite.

Leaping out of your house to shout aggressively/rudely at people is not going to get you what you want, nor should it. The neighbour should be appealing to people’s good nature, not behaving as though she owns she place.

OP, some of us can actually read and comprehend. You are not being unreasonable. Your guardian of the geraniums is the unreasonable one.
I hope you building works are completed soon so you can go back to using your own property and not have to be subjected to her rants.

I don't think AIBU is the right board for you as you're not interested in hearing any opinions other than. "Ignore the old bat! Let your dog piss in front of her house as much as you like."

Have you read the OP or the OP's updates?
No, thought not.

Both unreasonable, you for letting your dog pee on a cared for patch of grass and her for having a go at you. I think there are too many dogs everywhere now and hate that all the parks smell of dog wee - dog owners should teach their dogs to wee at home. If you don't have a garden you shouldn't have a dog.

That is your opinion though.
Why does your opinion trump mine?

That’s my whole point. It’s not considered antisocial behaviour by law. You don’t know people’s circumstances. In this example, the poster clearly explains why she does what she does. Her neighbours wishes don’t trump that. The same as this poster’s wishes don’t trump her neighbours. So ultimately it comes down to whether it’s lawful, and it is.

There’s plenty of things that I think are annoying and antisocial in this world which are perfectly lawful things to do so I have to suck it up.

I just think it's antisocial to deliberately take your pet (what wildlife may or may not do is irrelevant) to urinate on a nice space. There's no need for it. Take your pet somewhere else, or your own garden for toileting.
With the number of dogs around these days every single patch of grass has become a dog toilet. At least let other people enjoy the prettier, cleaner ones!

Dogs aren’t generally allowed in museums or registry offices so that’s a moot point.
It’s a grass verge, where plenty of wild animals with be shitting and pissing, not a designated playground.

The fact that someone has taken it upon themselves to
maintain a public space, doesn’t mean other members of the public can’t use it as they see fit.

I mean if it were the grass verge outside my house, I’d hate it if it were a place children congregated to play but I wouldn’t have the right to tell them to move on, would I?