To quit and become a lady of leisure?

Yanbu. Having cancer treatment and recovering afterwards is a full time job and you don't bounce back to how you were before after treatment is successful. If you can stop workand be financially stable that's fine - but check on HMRC website for your pension status. You may still need a few more years of NI contributions before you qualify for the full pension so consider whether it's worth your while doing that (you may find that it's easier to make modest voluntary contributions from DH's income rather than returning to work to get employer contributions.

Do what you need to do for you right now.

it’s a long road.

It makes perfect sense to me - take care x

YADNBU a serious illness changes your perspective on all manner of things, don’t underestimate the emotional as well as physical impact.
does your employer offer career breaks? If you did want to go back to working in a few years could you get back into the industry?
it sounds like you need some breathing space to process who you are now, not MrTiddles with cancer, just MrTiddles and what you need /want for you and your family.
Sending an unmumsnetty hug - your post touched my heart.

I think you need to prioritise yourself right now.

I’m another one who thinks you should speak to your HR dept and find out what benefits there may be which you may not have realised.

Given your diagnosis I don’t think you would be unreasonable to take some time out, BUT it needs to be a joint decision between you and DH. You’re happy to go without treats, but is he and the rest of the household? Is he happy to be the sole earner?

Have you discussed with your HR department what your options are? Could you get signed off for longer? Even if you don't get sick pay, there might be some benefits such as death in service. When I was signed off following cancer, I received some sick pay for six months, then what I wasn't previously aware of is that my employers had an insurance policy that paid me out something each month whilst I was still recovering and undergoing treatment. (Not as much as sick pay, but every little helped). This continued to pay out for a few months until I reached state pension age.

I wish you a good recovery.

I was going to say unreasonable but then I read that you had had breast cancer and were still receiving hormonal treatment. I think unpaid leave or extending you sick leave would be great idea given what you have gone through over the last few months.
I wouldn't leave just yet only because you have been through a lot which could affect your decision making and you may want to return to work again when life is more settled.

YANBU to want it - start drawing up a plan.

Another one asking what your husband thinks.
Unilaterally deciding to give up being an adult and pushing all the responsibility on to somebody else isn't necessarily a healthy thing to do for the marriage.

YANBU to want to. It sounds just want you need to recover.

YABU if you decide to do it without proper discussion and agreement with your DH on how the family finances will be managed without your income.

Otherwise you’ll be in the same position as the current ‘AIBU to expect my DP to pay more of the mortgage’ poster who took a lower paid job without his support and now resentment is breeding in the relationship due to the imbalance.

Is your DH happy being sole earner and no more treats?

Mumsnet can't help you here. It's up to your partner.

It may be unpaid but I think you should get signed off sick for longer.

You may have physically recovered from the BC but the emotional toll takes longer.

Then in 6 months time you’ll have a clearer view of what you want from life.

But if it’s not to work and your family can manage this then that’s fine

Do it. I am thinking of the same.

Do it! I hope your treatment goes well x

Just make sure you would be financially secure if your marriage broke down.

Do it!
but before you make final decisions - what rights or benefits do you have through your workplace?
bonus, medical insurance, life insurance, critical illness over, holiday pay, pension contributions etc. these are worth considering.
could you take a bit longer off work whilst remaining employed?
If you think you might want to go back to work at some point in the future it’s worth considering asking for a sabbatical. It’s hard to find a job, even more so when you’re not employed.

Life's too short. Definitely do it 👍

If your DH is ok with it, and you both agree you can afford it, defo do it.

I did it, took ill had a long time recovery and then realised I just didn't want to go back to work - so stopped

Lasted about a year, then I found myself a part time very casual job, and have worked part time ever since

Sometimes you need to step back and give yourself time

If your DH is ok with it , if you can afford it, go for it

Completely understandable. You have more treatment and even without that, healing and recovering takes waaay more time than we ever imagine.

Do it.

Wishing you nothing but the best with your treatment going forward

Friend took a couple of years career break after finishing her treatment. Recharge, spend more time with kids etc